Fellow and dearest nairaland members, i have a friend who hail from some where in one of the south-south state. He is the first mail child and just lost his dad and after the burial, he was ask to marry( inherit ) his aged step mother as tradition demands or the family will disown him. please we need your advice

God forbid bad thing he needs to run away from that tradition or be the first to end it

OOOOH, poor guy!

Bwahahahahahahahahah!!!!! aged step mother u say,
Fire on the mountain,Run,Run,Run!!!!
Run 4 ur dear life if i were ur friend. Nthing more, Abomination, Tufiakwa .

Eiregirl
what's poor about the guy?

Did he not know about the tradition before the death of his father?

He should have persuaded his father to marry a younger girl before

his death. Now he need to marry his aged step mother. Well, he should.

It is their Tradition or is the woman ferusing too?

@ Yemmyse
Would you want to marry someone who you've looked at as a mother figure I'm not sure how old the woman is or the guy in question but I just think it's not right!

buyaka:

Fellow and dearest nairaland members, i have a friend who hail from some where in one of the south-south state. He is the first mail child and just lost his dad and after the burial, he was ask to marry( inherit ) his aged step mother as tradition demands or the family will disown him. please we need your advice

Are you sure you're not the guy in qwestion?

i am not the guy in question just that i want to help my friend

na wa ohhh so these backyard and silly customs are still practiced.

na wa ooo, wat kind trandition is this

how old is his stepmother?

above 45 years old

Bullshit! Ask your friend if he knows what legs are used for? RUN RUN RUN

Jojo

chai!

U mean this still happens in modern day Nigeria? The guy should just ignore the tradition and damn the consequences with prayers. Just imagine how he would relate with the "wife" if he agrees to carry on. Will he be calling her mummy or aunty or sweetheart? :damn::damn::damn:

Inheriting the step-mother simply means that the woman should be under his care not necessarily any sexual inter-course btw them. We practise it in my place too. My father also inherited so many of his brother's wife but no sexual inter-course just more responsibility on his neck.

I think this is in the bible but i cannot quote exactly where it is but i know jehova witness practice and will authoritatevely tell you to do it as one of the words of God in thier kingdom.

Omo do those things still exist in this day and age?

I would run run run - whats that all about?
Even the good book says 'cursed is the child that goes in on his father's wives or concubines'.

Its totally wrong and tradition or no tradition he shouldnt participate.

Omo do those things still exist in this day and age?

I would run run run - whats that all about?
Even the good book says 'cursed is the child that goes in on his father's wives or concubines'.

Its totally wrong and tradition or no tradition he shouldnt participate.

Let me first of all laugh,

This is absolute bullshit, People please stop being melodramatic. This is an age long tradition that has been in practice for as long as forever, In most situations the idea is that you are now taking over your fathers responsibilities including the upkeep of his wife/s. I know this because it a common practice in most traditions all around eastern and southern Nigeria. The very bad one is were a brother is said to inherit his brothers wife and asset in the event of his demise. In this case, many people use it as an opportunity to grab everything their brother owned for selfish reasons leaving the wife (and in some cases the children too) with no source of income or property to fall back on, It is a shame that most people believe that it means you have been granted an automated pass to "jigga" you mumsy or step-mumsy as the case may be.

Buyaka go check your facts right, Abi your friend wan bone ehn papa wife (make you tell us now).

You just make this story up, which state are you from if i may ask

francessby:

You just make this story up, which state are you from if i may ask

I don't think it is a make up,it is still happening in some tribes.

Would he have to marry his biological mom if she were the surviving spouse.

you dont need it ma guy, pray and leave the family for good.

look guy such traditions ceased to exist a while back,
we n'landers just post stupid tins for posting sake.

take some 2weeks off and come back, maybe by then u will be better.

What his he waiting for?!

Marriage rites should begin naw?

and since when does disownment means dead or not making it in life, i beg, let them go ahead and disown me, i will be fine