iice:

Made him freakishly jealous.
Kinda hard unless the person actually understands the person you are

Goldieluks:

I don't like the idea,tho.

so goldie you wont like me no more if i have much female friends

Goldieluks:

what is your game?^^

190:

well come to think of it, my very best friend who i can stick my neck for is a female and shes rite there with u in london

Shy-One:

I struggled with this one because as far back as my mind can remember - even at the age of 8 - guys have always tried to either date me or beat me up.

I was a tom boy as a girl - gymnastics, ballet, track, wrestling, football, tree climbing, a life guard at the local community swimming pool. (I am a water freak - LOVE SWIMMING)

I also had brothers and male cousins (lots) that taught me how to fight - I didn't know how to wear high heel shoes until my teenage years and didn't learn to actually walk in them properly until my modeling years IN MY 20s.

So I have always felt more comfortable with men and have been a man-magnet with them and they with me especially when the dating years started.

I intimidate most women because I am photo-genically attractive and also I don't hesitate to speak my mind in a very factual way because I have lived (A LOT) AND have friends in 16 different States in the U.S. - my manner is very outspoken (because of the males I have hung around all my life) though I look very, very feminine - and that's just who I am.  I am well-versed in many areas - thanks to my parents.

The guys I dated and even when I married - ALL of them have had a really hard time accepting my male friends who have been in my life for a long time.  Their female spouses and girlfriends - some are cool with it once it has been proven that we are only friends - some aren't cool with it and despise me.

A long time ago - I stopped trying to please other people - especially women.  A woman will hate you out of ignorance, jealousy, her own insecurity, uncomfortable around you if she thinks you look better than she does and she could be a beautiful woman but not know it and therefore hate you and for many miscellaneous reasons.

To hold down confusion with my mate (if he has a problem with it) and/or my male friends mates - I try to include everyone and introduce people - I also try to befriend the females of my male friends - invite them to a book club with me or a day shopping or over to learn a recipe from her and at the same time share a recipe I have learned - while the men are in another room watching a game or playing chess or cards.

That is how I handle it.  If the female is extremely hostile - I turn into a bitc.h - I don't suffer bitc.hes

I see it this way - once I have gone out of my way to give her the opportunity to be my friend - if she consistently chooses the "enemy door," - I give her what she wants - since the male is my friend before I met her and once she is gone, he will still be my friend.  She can either get over it and get with the program or I can ignore her - stop inviting her to functions and just continue to invite him and basically block her from my video.  You can't force someone to like you - but also don't have to put up with their petty BS either.  They can sulk and play the little BS female games in a room alone.  If they are alone long enough - they'll get the picture.

MRBrownJ:

^^well said Mrs Chima!
Not everybody get along as good with their "sex mate" as with the opposite.
If you genuinely trust your partner then there shouldn't be any problem.  

Shy-One:

I don't hang out with anybody unless they are quality

Yes those were definitely some quality men

I do miss them - they were quite talented

Mrs.Chima:

I am not saying you are not but in order for anyone to want quality friends they have to possess quality as well. 

You are what you attracts.  Sometimes we think it is other people when in actuality it is us.  I am talking about on a friendship level and not people you are just randomly talking to. 

Good friends are hard to come by these days and we have to treat them the same way we want to be treated.  Sadly some people take friendship for granted and miss out on a golden opportunity. 

Mrs.Chima:



Good friends are hard to come by these days and we have to treat them the same way we want to be treated. .

@Shy-One Hmm touching. . .lol but seriously that's life isn't it?dat's the funny thing there is always risk in every situation, not all friends will make it to your Future we just got to take it as it is & move on with our life.

By the way u seem like u be havin a lot of fun! lucky yu.

Shy-One:

your response sounds like you misunderstood what i was saying - but that's ok

i wasn't looking for friends - quality or not quality

i realize quite clearly that friends generally have like traits and qualities - so i wasn't questioning quality

i just made a side comment that they were "quality" and I missed them - but I have quite a few friends - I don't lack friends on any level - as I am usually the one that doesn't attend much because of work.

For instance this Friday, Saturday and Sunday - I have 4 different events I have been invited to attend by different friends - but because of work - I might not attend any of them - I will try hard because 3 are networking opportunities that not many people are invited to because of the A-Type Guest list and those events don't come around much so I might have to put down the keyboard for those 3.

Any way thanks for your thoughts

Inked_Nerd:

@OP: The dudes I've been with in the past hated the idea that majority of my friends were guys. There was this one guy I was with, whenever I'd leave his house, he tell me to go straight home. I didn't understand why he hated the idea, especially since his housemates were women.

Inked_Nerd:


I put an end to the whole thing. It sucks because the sex was REALLY good . Damn, now every time when I hear a Spanish accent I think of him

Inked_Nerd:


Hellssssss yeah!!! He'd whisper in my ears in Spanish. Honestly, it was one of the most passionate moments I've ever had with a guy. Let's put it this way, I ALWAYS left his house satisfied . I've yet to have another passionate moment like that. I've been thinkin' about giving him a call .

Inked_Nerd:


Forget the mind stuff. I want 100% Honduran meat!!!

SMH