Good evening everyone, please I want to ask, is it possible to love someone deeply and after a long period of time, you start nursing a feeling for another person?

How do one come out of such situation, please?


Modified: Thank you to everyone who took out their time to read this piece and respond, I'm so grateful, that's what nairaland should be.

chii8:
Good evening everyone, please I want to ask, is it possible to love someone deeply and after a long period of time, you start nursing a feeling for another person?

How do one come out of such situation, please?

Arrrrrrrh

Love is for a short while .
Commitment is for ever if you are willing to stay.
Your questions depends on two categories.

1. If you are married, the love can go but commitment holds you .
2. If you are datin you can go and get another person.

In essence love draws you closer to a person qualities. Commitment lead you when love seems to be indisposed.


My thoughts though!!

chii8:
Good evening everyone, please I want to ask, is it possible to love someone deeply and after a long period of time, you start nursing a feeling for another person?

How do one come out of such situation, please?

stop thinking love is emotional....

Love is a choice

blackpanthar:


stop thinking love is emotional....

Love is a choice

Okay, thank you.

gaius01:


Arrrrrrrh

Love is for a short while .
Commitment is for ever if you are willing to stay.
Your questions depends on two categories.

1. If you are married, the love can go but commitment holds you .
2. If you are datin you can go and get another person.

In essence love draws you closer to a person qualities. Commitment lead you when love seems to be indisposed.


My thoughts though!!

Chaiii... thank you.

You are simply a confused fellow

love

I have not been to fully understand love and it's workings.


But all I know is that it's one hell of a beautiful feeling.

gaius01:


Arrrrrrrh

Love is for a short while .
Commitment is for ever if you are willing to stay.
Your questions depends on two categories.

1. If you are married, the love can go but commitment holds you .
2. If you are datin you can go and get another person.

In essence love draws you closer to a person qualities. Commitment lead you when love seems to be indisposed.


My thoughts though!!

I have to read and re -read this. So much sense in one post..
Thanks ,gaius01

:stop thinking love is emotional....Love is a choiceOkay, thank you.

Well, when we fall in love in the real sense of it, it starts with romantic love which has a lifespan of about 6months afterwhich commitment love sets in if we are really into each other.

So, it is apparent that the initial gragra had worn off and you aren't committed. Good luck.

Lol, wasn't this OP married that year... What is this I'm reading?

Abi you don dey see another man?

chii8:

How do one come out of such situation, please?

Stop seeing him, stop calling him, stop chatting with him... If you work together, keep it strictly professional.

Failure to do any of the above and paynt will shift soon...

You have done a lot of disservice to the word "love." People who are not contented with what they have, who think the grass is always greener on the other side, are usually left with nothing but regrets when they begin to reap the consequences of their actions. First, you aren't in love with this person as you claimed; you are just infatuated. Second, if you dump him -- something I am sure you have already executed in your mind-- and hook up with the newest guy in your heart, you will always be susceptible to external influence. When the next knight in shining amour comes, it is going to be business as usual.

doggedfighter:

I have to read and re -read this. So much sense in one post..
Thanks ,gaius01

You are welcome.
I didn't arrange it very well, probably that's why you had to read it again. Next time I will write it with ease for better insight !

crackhaus:
Lol, wasn't this OP married that year... What is this I'm reading?

Abi you don dey see another man?


Stop seeing him, stop calling him, stop chatting with him... If you work together, keep it strictly professional.

Failure to do any of the above and paynt will shift soon...

Lolzzz.... thank you, you answered the question in nairaland way, but it's okay.

I'm just wondering what makes you think that the person in question is a female, the way you guys paint women here is ridiculous,so there are no more good women?

sisisioge:
Well, when we fall in love in the real sense of it, it starts with romantic love which has a lifespan of about 6months afterwhich commitment love sets in if we are really into each other.

So, it is apparent that the initial gragra had worn off and you aren't committed. Good luck.

Hmmm... thank you, although the person in question has been in a committed relationship for over 12years and still is... but the question is,is it actually possible to admire another person?

mrblessed:
You have done a lot of disservice to the word "love." People who are not contented with what they have, who think the grass is always greener on the other side, are usually left with nothing but regrets when they begin to reap the consequences of their actions. First, you aren't in love with this person as you claimed; you are just infatuated. Second, if you dump him -- something I am sure you have already executed in your mind-- and hook up with the newest guy in your heart, you will always be susceptible to external influence. When the next knight in shining amour comes, it is going to be business as usual.

Thanks, but I believe that is your opinion, this person is still in a loving and committed relationship and isn't planning to dump anyone....

gaius01:


You are welcome.
I didn't arrange it very well, probably that's why you had to read it again. Next time I will write it with ease for better insight !

Thanks again, you answered the question well,I understand you perfectly.... You gave a new meaning to the word 'love' and 'commitment'...

I'm grateful... Truth is someone who trusts my opinion was in the situation and for some reasons,I didn't give a more detailed answer like yours.

chii8:



Hmmm... thank you, although the person in question has been in a committed relationship for over 12years and still is... but the question is,is it actually possible to admire another person?

Yes o...we are humans and our needs, wants and minds change with time. Only time itself is constant. But tell her to be careful, let her not get herself in trouble.

chii8:



Thanks again, you answered the question well,I understand you perfectly.... You gave a new meaning to the word 'love' and 'commitment'...

I'm grateful... Truth is someone who trusts my opinion was in the situation and for some reasons,I didn't give a more detailed answer like yours.

Am honoured! It's my pleasure!

...

chii8:

Lolzzz.... thank you, you answered the question in nairaland way, but it's okay.

I'm just wondering what makes you think that the person in question is a female, the way you guys paint women here is ridiculous,so there are no more good women?

This your deflection is wonderful...

But I'm not the only one here who assumed your post was about a female (you in particular sef)

crackhaus:

This your deflection is wonderful...

But I'm not the only one here who assumed your post was about a female (you in particular sef)

My brother, it's a free world, you can assume anything jare, nothing spoil!

chii8:
Good evening everyone, please I want to ask, is it possible to love someone deeply and after a long period of time, you start nursing a feeling for another person?

How do one come out of such situation, please?


Modified: Thank you to everyone who took out their time to read this piece and respond, I'm so grateful, that's what nairaland should be.

By reconnecting and rededicating to the one you're in a relationship with.
Reigniting the passion.
Staying physically, mentally and emotionally faithful. Don't go looking for new excitements and adventures.
Commitment.

The feelings, the chemistry, the attraction can only lead to love... But sadly that is what the world call love.

Love is a choice. And that choice you reiterate everyday.

You cant stop having feelings, chemistry, attractions and the likes as long as you still carry a functional human body.

Choosing another means you never loved in the first place. You only followed the stomach bugs or for whatever reasons now expired.

The beautiful ones are birthed everyday, silver spoons are still handed or found, more are thorough bred and many more will be whimsical. You can't have them all.

Many can't choose too and stay without a choice, doing as they please. I hail them. They have covered many transgressions.

Love is what? Choice. Choice. Choice. Choice.

chii8:



Hmmm... thank you, although the person in question has been in a committed relationship for over 12years and still is... but the question is,is it actually possible to admire another person?

Yes it is very possible to admire someone else when the person is in a relationship of 12 years, the person is tired, simple, who stays that long in a relationship? Or they have no plans to marry

chii8:


Thanks, but I believe that is your opinion, this person is still in a loving and committed relationship and isn't planning to dump anyone....

Eyah, it is well.

Biglittlelois:



Yes it is very possible to admire someone else when the person is in a relationship of 12 years, the person is tired, simple, who stays that long in a relationship? Or they have no plans to marry

Help me ask o
12 yrs and u are not married
What a mummified person


Tomorrow, the person will join the crew of red pill and white pill( whatever that means ) and start bashing the opposite sex when he or she was the one without brain.

Nairaland.

crackhaus:
Lol, wasn't this OP married that year... What is this I'm reading?

Abi you don dey see another man?


Stop seeing him, stop calling him, stop chatting with him... If you work together, keep it strictly professional.

Failure to do any of the above and paynt will shift soon...

U love to stir trouble.
Repent!
New yr resolution will be no more trouble
How u dey?

descarado:

Help me ask o
12 yrs and u are not married
What a mummified person


Tomorrow, the person will join the crew of red pill and white pill( whatever that means ) and start bashing the opposite sex when he or she was the one without brain.

Nairaland.

Thank you fa,

Some people will confidently stay in nonsense called relationship, and still be asking for advice instead of using their brain and legs,

Later they will come here and classify all women and men as having one nasty behaviour, when they are mostly at fault.

I wonder why other comments above didn't tell Op the truth

Biglittlelois:



Thank you fa,

Some people will confidently stay in nonsense called relationship, and still be asking for advice instead of using their brain and legs,

Later they will come here and classify all women and men as having one nasty behaviour, when they are mostly at fault.

I wonder why other comments above didn't tell Op the truth

Aunty, please be calming down,Biko......