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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Fvckyouall: 12:53pm On Jan 13
DIAMANTE1759:
go for someone who makes u smile cos its only a smile that makes a dark day seems bright

Cruel army men are not allowed to have happiness after all the attrocities they have done

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Fvckyouall: 12:54pm On Jan 13
CalliDora1:


Don't bother.

I wish I was a lady so I can form yanga like this and be receiving 100 DMs a day
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by nniero11: 12:55pm On Jan 13
CalliDora1:


Guys who chyk ladies openly are kiddos. Most of them here are small boys. Trust me.

I joke and play around here with almost every one and I want it to stay that way. I believe he's also joking.

Thanks.

Wow! At least He's not scared of entering a relationship like me. You got your point and you got good vibes too

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by CalliDora1(f): 12:56pm On Jan 13
Fvckyouall:


I wish I was a lady so I can form yanga like this and be receiving 100 DMs a day

O yeah?? Like it puts money in anyones account.
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Fvckyouall: 12:57pm On Jan 13
CalliDora1:


O yeah?? Like it puts money in anyones account.

It does I would just ask one of the many DMs for money and it's done or ask the simpletons. You are not using the Influence you have that's why
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by CalliDora1(f): 1:00pm On Jan 13
nniero11:


Wow! At least He's not scared of entering a relationship like me. You got your point and you got good vibes too

smiley.

By the way, why are you scared? You prolly aren't ripe for it yet. When the time comes, you'll naturally begin to do it without stress. There is an appointed time for everything.
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by CalliDora1(f): 1:04pm On Jan 13
Fvckyouall:


It does I would just ask one of the many DMs for money and it's done or ask the simpletons. You are not using the Influence you have that's why

Do waaaat?? Not with Nairaland men. Not with all the training they're getting on here from the numerous MGTOW, REDPILLERS,
and SMAN association.

Though I have a few friends on here that are very nice and mature but they are abroad based nairalanders and these ones don't even have time.
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by nniero11: 1:06pm On Jan 13
CalliDora1:


smiley.

By the way, why are you scared? You prolly aren't ripe for it yet. When the time comes, you'll naturally begin to do it without stress. There is an appointed time for everything.

hahahahaha! never been good at it though. in this part of the world people don't really understand and value relationship. They see it as a game and a conquest game. I'll patiently wait though and grow my life and career. I don't want to be emotionally abused and manipulated

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Candidate004: 1:08pm On Jan 13
It's time to move on
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by CalliDora1(f): 1:08pm On Jan 13
nniero11:


hahahahaha! never been good at it though. in this part of the world people don't really understand and value relationship. They see it as a game and a conquest game. I'll patiently wait though and grow my life and career. I don't want to be emotionally abused and manipulated

That's good. You're on the right track, Please don't derail.
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by nniero11: 1:09pm On Jan 13
CalliDora1:

That's good. You're on the right track, Please don't derail.
Yea! Thanks.

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by heniford2: 1:27pm On Jan 13
Dotar:
Please,kindly ignore any grammatical error.

I am a female military personnel dating a civilian in a distance relationship, I'm naturally clingy in a relationship, I love attention alot but my guy is always claiming busy at work ( well understood) but when he's off from work he doesn't give me a satisfied attention because is either he's sleeping,wants to prepare something to eat or already out chilling with a friend and whenever I call when he's out,he will tell me he's in a noisy place and can't talk till he gets home. so,most times I stay awake till 11 pm to get to speak with him before going to bed.

I always feel pretty lonely because I'm an introvert,I don't have friends.I really wish to keep another man to serve as a distraction but i find it difficult to because I love wholeheartedly and can only love one man at a time.

I cry everytime begging for his attention yet no changes,I feel ashamed that I can't have a grip over my emotions.

Right now,I am seriously fade up i dont know what to do any more, i have talked and talked but all fell on blocked ears, he doesnt even feel remorse whenever I complain,he rather defends himself and gives justifications for his actions and even blame me for being inconsiderate and that if I can't cope I should go because he's tired of my incessant complains.

I feel stucked in this relationship because i find it difficult to call it quit..i begged him to call it a quit but he said he can't do it,that I can go if that's what I want.

please advise me on what to do because I'm dying slowly.
am single and i really wish to get to know you for real lets talk Chat me up with the number in my profile
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Odoogu(m): 1:28pm On Jan 13
CalliDora1:
Who initiated the relationship?

Now, you both are not a good match because one, he's an extrovert and you're an introvert. so, there's no way your being together is gonna work.

Another thing ive come to discover is, most men are not so much into military women for reasons known only to them. Yeah, I've heard that a couple of time. your man may be in that category and its reason I first asked, who initiated this relationship. If it was you, please kindly call it quits but not before sitting him down to find out if he's still interested or wants a break.( Not breakup) . If he says he needs a break, know for sure he wants a breakup then break up with him and move on. Life is too short to be in a one-sided relationship.


on the contrary, both are a good match.
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Nicepoker(m): 1:29pm On Jan 13
nniero11:


Yea! Thanks.
grin Sense is about to leave your body.
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Odoogu(m): 1:30pm On Jan 13
he is not just into you... and he doesn't want to call it quit, so as not have to deal with "longer" things. go out once in a while and have a swell time, and please don't think of dating an introvert like yourself, you gonna bite yourself out.
take your time, if there is any!
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by CalliDora1(f): 1:37pm On Jan 13
Odoogu:


on the contrary, both are a good match.

How are they a good match? Or you think relationship shares the same science with electric where it's positive+ and negative - compatibility? Ok.

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by 2buffagain(m): 1:41pm On Jan 13
Dotar:
Please,kindly ignore any grammatical error.

I am a female military personnel dating a civilian in a distance relationship, I'm naturally clingy in a relationship, I love attention alot but my guy is always claiming busy at work ( well understood) but when he's off from work he doesn't give me a satisfied attention because is either he's sleeping,wants to prepare something to eat or already out chilling with a friend and whenever I call when he's out,he will tell me he's in a noisy place and can't talk till he gets home. so,most times I stay awake till 11 pm to get to speak with him before going to bed.

I always feel pretty lonely because I'm an introvert,I don't have friends.I really wish to keep another man to serve as a distraction but i find it difficult to because I love wholeheartedly and can only love one man at a time.

I cry everytime begging for his attention yet no changes,I feel ashamed that I can't have a grip over my emotions.

Right now,I am seriously fade up i dont know what to do any more, i have talked and talked but all fell on blocked ears, he doesnt even feel remorse whenever I complain,he rather defends himself and gives justifications for his actions and even blame me for being inconsiderate and that if I can't cope I should go because he's tired of my incessant complains.

I feel stucked in this relationship because i find it difficult to call it quit..i begged him to call it a quit but he said he can't do it,that I can go if that's what I want.

please advise me on what to do because I'm dying slowly.

The embolded is your answer.

You are the only one in that relationship.
He left it a long time ago.

This is basic human behavior for someone who is no longer interested in a relationship with you.
Sad to say, but I did that too in my younger immature days when I was done with a girl; instead of just being assertive and release her so she can go find someone else.

Also, really long distance is a relationship killer. Especially when there is no marriage between you yet.

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Odoogu(m): 1:50pm On Jan 13
CalliDora1:


How are they a good match? Or you think relationship shares the same science with electric where it's positive+ and negative - compatibility? Ok.

cheesy
actually I don't... but it does apply.
being an extrovert or introvert isn't all about someone, it's just the easiest " thing" to spot in anyone before others things like ( jealousy, caring, supportive, prudent, stingy etc)
it takes two to tangle, hence a need for balance.
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by CalliDora1(f): 1:56pm On Jan 13
Odoogu:


cheesy
actually I don't... but it does apply.
being an extrovert or introvert isn't all about someone, it's just the easiest " thing" to spot in anyone before others things like ( jealousy, caring, supportive, prudent, stingy etc)
it takes two to tangle, hence a need for balance.

It doesn't work that way in this case.

Introvert vs introvert
Extrovert vs extrovert.

If You don't share common interests, it won't work as there will always be clashes from differences in your likes and dislikes.

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Odoogu(m): 2:02pm On Jan 13
CalliDora1:


It doesn't work that way in this case.

Introvert vs introvert
Extrovert vs extrovert.

If You don't share same common interests, it won't work as there will always be clashes from differences in your likes and dislikes.

well I think that will only happen if you have to know "all" about the other person. which is most likely impossible.
you can only share 'some' common interests.
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Odoogu(m): 2:06pm On Jan 13
CalliDora1:


It doesn't work that way in this case.

Introvert vs introvert
Extrovert vs extrovert.

If You don't share same common interests, it won't work as there will always be clashes from differences in your likes and dislikes.

introvert or extrovert?
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by jachike77342: 2:30pm On Jan 13
It's time to move on
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by KingAlayinde(m): 2:49pm On Jan 13
Dotar:
Please,kindly ignore any grammatical error.

I am a female military personnel dating a civilian in a distance relationship, I'm naturally clingy in a relationship, I love attention alot but my guy is always claiming busy at work ( well understood) but when he's off from work he doesn't give me a satisfied attention because is either he's sleeping,wants to prepare something to eat or already out chilling with a friend and whenever I call when he's out,he will tell me he's in a noisy place and can't talk till he gets home. so,most times I stay awake till 11 pm to get to speak with him before going to bed.

I always feel pretty lonely because I'm an introvert,I don't have friends.I really wish to keep another man to serve as a distraction but i find it difficult to because I love wholeheartedly and can only love one man at a time.

I cry everytime begging for his attention yet no changes,I feel ashamed that I can't have a grip over my emotions.

Right now,I am seriously fade up i dont know what to do any more, i have talked and talked but all fell on blocked ears, he doesnt even feel remorse whenever I complain,he rather defends himself and gives justifications for his actions and even blame me for being inconsiderate and that if I can't cope I should go because he's tired of my incessant complains.

I feel stucked in this relationship because i find it difficult to call it quit..i begged him to call it a quit but he said he can't do it,that I can go if that's what I want.

please advise me on what to do because I'm dying slowly.



sorry to say this ma, the love wasn't there N it not a respected thing for a woman to forced herself on a man.... keep ya relationship with him open Incase u have the luck to meet another better one cos time is everything's...... nobody worth ya time cos life is too short
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by lefulefu(m): 2:50pm On Jan 13
dairykidd:

Reminds me of one beautiful airforce lady back then for Abj. Na so i dey admire am turn her friend but i noticed other airfoce personnels i know go just greet from afar and position themselves if me and am dey chill out somewhere not until she mess up one senior airfoce man when i respect so much for public bar I come understand say she high for rank and dey very harsh and abusive.. Bro the slap no gree finish and na over little matters oo and this my bros still dey plead and beg ontop i gat to leave the place before she transfer aggression come my side.. since then i give her chance oo grin
wise choice u did grin.Uniform ppl should be dating themselves biko.anytime they date someone who is not in uniform they always regard such a person as inferior to them hence the coined word bloody civilian.i dey use naija perspective though.

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Idonije8(m): 2:53pm On Jan 13
blinking001:
This one na ugly military personnel oo cheesy.. op the reason he isn't taking you serious is because you're ugly....deal with it
so unfair of you
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Truvel(m): 3:08pm On Jan 13
Op, If U Are Interested In Another, I'm Interested Too. I Just Applied 4 D Nigerian Navy & I'm Waiting 4 Screening. However, Which Of D Force Are U In? Is It Navy, Airforce Or Army?
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Kayberg(m): 3:34pm On Jan 13


Someone came for advise but proposal is already more than adviseā€¦.
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Stevyne: 3:47pm On Jan 13
Dotar:
Please,kindly ignore any grammatical error.

I am a female military personnel dating a civilian in a distance relationship, I'm naturally clingy in a relationship, I love attention alot but my guy is always claiming busy at work ( well understood) but when he's off from work he doesn't give me a satisfied attention because is either he's sleeping,wants to prepare something to eat or already out chilling with a friend and whenever I call when he's out,he will tell me he's in a noisy place and can't talk till he gets home. so,most times I stay awake till 11 pm to get to speak with him before going to bed.

I always feel pretty lonely because I'm an introvert,I don't have friends.I really wish to keep another man to serve as a distraction but i find it difficult to because I love wholeheartedly and can only love one man at a time.

I cry everytime begging for his attention yet no changes,I feel ashamed that I can't have a grip over my emotions.

Right now,I am seriously fade up i dont know what to do any more, i have talked and talked but all fell on blocked ears, he doesnt even feel remorse whenever I complain,he rather defends himself and gives justifications for his actions and even blame me for being inconsiderate and that if I can't cope I should go because he's tired of my incessant complains.

I feel stucked in this relationship because i find it difficult to call it quit..i begged him to call it a quit but he said he can't do it,that I can go if that's what I want.

please advise me on what to do because I'm dying slowly.
Lemme give you the attention you want o.
I don kuku deh find military personnel wey I go date before
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by healthbing(f): 3:52pm On Jan 13
Give yourself 1000 reason why you shouldn't remain in the relationship..
It's better you leave than remaining in a relationship where your happiness is threatened..
For the sake of your sanity..
What is meant for you will get to you with prayers, hardwork, and the right attitude..
I have been in your situation before and know how it feels..
But I have learnt never to displease myself just to please any guy..
Relationship is all about sacrifice and it takes two to tango..if your partner is not ready to make certain sacrifices for you that relationship is not worth it...
For a relationship to survive it needs Communication and commitment.
Take a break and work on yourself
And just know that NO ONE IS PERMITTED TO HURT U UNLESS YOU SAY SO.
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Donspicey: 3:55pm On Jan 13
Dotar:
Please,kindly ignore any grammatical error.

I am a female military personnel dating a civilian in a distance relationship, I'm naturally clingy in a relationship, I love attention alot but my guy is always claiming busy at work ( well understood) but when he's off from work he doesn't give me a satisfied attention because is either he's sleeping,wants to prepare something to eat or already out chilling with a friend and whenever I call when he's out,he will tell me he's in a noisy place and can't talk till he gets home. so,most times I stay awake till 11 pm to get to speak with him before going to bed.

I always feel pretty lonely because I'm an introvert,I don't have friends.I really wish to keep another man to serve as a distraction but i find it difficult to because I love wholeheartedly and can only love one man at a time.

I cry everytime begging for his attention yet no changes,I feel ashamed that I can't have a grip over my emotions.

Right now,I am seriously fade up i dont know what to do any more, i have talked and talked but all fell on blocked ears, he doesnt even feel remorse whenever I complain,he rather defends himself and gives justifications for his actions and even blame me for being inconsiderate and that if I can't cope I should go because he's tired of my incessant complains.

I feel stucked in this relationship because i find it difficult to call it quit..i begged him to call it a quit but he said he can't do it,that I can go if that's what I want.

please advise me on what to do because I'm dying slowly.

Lolsss,,,leave dat guy jareh...


Come lemme gv u all d attentions and love in the world......


Hurry up while am still single.....
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Donspicey: 3:59pm On Jan 13
CalliDora1:


It doesn't work that way in this case.

Introvert vs introvert
Extrovert vs extrovert.

If You don't share common interests, it won't work as there will always be clashes from differences in your likes and dislikes.


So how do i as an introvert get a life partner dat is open minded and is not dramatic

Cos me hate too much talk and arguement coupled with infidelity.......
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by talk2hb1(m): 5:26pm On Jan 13
Dotar:
Please,kindly ignore any grammatical error.

I am a female military personnel dating a civilian in a distance relationship, I'm naturally clingy in a relationship, I love attention alot but my guy is always claiming busy at work ( well understood) but when he's off from work he doesn't give me a satisfied attention because is either he's sleeping,wants to prepare something to eat or already out chilling with a friend and whenever I call when he's out,he will tell me he's in a noisy place and can't talk till he gets home. so,most times I stay awake till 11 pm to get to speak with him before going to bed.

I always feel pretty lonely because I'm an introvert,I don't have friends.I really wish to keep another man to serve as a distraction but i find it difficult to because I love wholeheartedly and can only love one man at a time.

I cry everytime begging for his attention yet no changes,I feel ashamed that I can't have a grip over my emotions.

Right now,I am seriously fade up i dont know what to do any more, i have talked and talked but all fell on blocked ears, he doesnt even feel remorse whenever I complain,he rather defends himself and gives justifications for his actions and even blame me for being inconsiderate and that if I can't cope I should go because he's tired of my incessant complains.

I feel stucked in this relationship because i find it difficult to call it quit..i begged him to call it a quit but he said he can't do it,that I can go if that's what I want.

please advise me on what to do because I'm dying slowly.
I guess he is no more into you, just forget about him. God will provide you with a better man, I understand how it feel ti be left in a,relationship.

Those of you spewing rubbish about military ladies, remember they are human too and they need build a home.

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