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You're looking in the wrong places.

You can't find Gold in Unpleasant place.


Search beyond this shore, you'll find what you seek.

thorpido:
You're looking in the wrong places.

where is the right place ??

Godoverevery:
where is the right place ??

Hang around professional groups.

Kriss216:
You can't find Gold in Unpleasant place.

Search beyond this shore, you'll find what you seek.

Europe or other Africa countries

thorpido:
Hang around professional groups.

they are even the worst... have met handful.
they are egoistic and over sensitive.

Godoverevery:

they are even the worst... have met handful.
they are egoistic and over sensitive.

You said you were looking for someone with a hustling spirit like you.Egoism is another thing entirely.

There's a song for every dreams my G. All i'm saying is that "There is someone for everyone". Look around.

Na naija ubdey,everyday indey vex say my blood na naija. Why not american blood,or Canadian blood.

thorpido:
You're looking in the wrong places.

OP this comment above sums it up, there are places where you can find ambitious ladies.

But you see the challenge is not finding one, but knowing how to manage their constant motion, you will think it's fun until when you need her for companionship or food at home or sex and she's not always around.

My guy every level comes with a price, can you handle what you are asking for?

Yusufisraelj:


OP this comment above sums it up, there are places where you can find ambitious ladies.

But you see the challenge is not finding one, but knowing how to manage their constant motion, you will think it's fun until when you need her for companionship or food at home or sex and she's not always around.

My guy every level comes with a price, can you handle what you are asking for?

hmmmmm.,... honestly I can't.

Godoverevery:

hmmmmm.,... honestly I can't.

Toh my brother it is well. Walahi ambitious ladies get their own gbege. Make God just help men with peaceful homes.

Yusufisraelj:


Toh my brother it is well. Walahi ambitious ladies get their own gbege. Make God just help men with peaceful homes.

pa

Godoverevery:

just tired Bro....... just want someone who is also independent to some extent.
How does one go far in life with dependant pathner

My brother it's very challenging, I've been there, mostly taking, this have made me not to take very strategic steps, will spend 120k in a month fa, and you see the challenge is most homes need serious financial assistance, this makes it difficult for us to really move at the speed of light.

Going forward I have told myself working ladies or nothing, but see my life is regulated by God, what we may think is best may not be His desire and so we just have to trust his leading. Bkos he knows what is best for us. We will get there jare

Godoverevery:


where is the right place ??

Didn't you say you knownwomen in the village that have their own farms despite their husbands having farms too? ... aren't they women with hustling spirit?... that you found on the farm?... so whybbe asking where to find them when you already did?

Yusufisraelj:



My brother it's very challenging, I've been there, mostly taking, this have made me not to take very strategic steps, will spend 120k in a month fa, and you see the challenge is most homes need serious financial assistance, this makes it difficult for us to really move at the speed of light.

Going forward I have told myself working ladies or nothing, but see my life is regulated by God, what we may think is best may not be His desire and so we just have to trust his leading. Bkos he knows what is best for us. We will get there jare

I just feel it makes no sense someone expecting you to foot her basic needs infact not someone you are not married to yet.

She won't ask her mum who is rich enough to assist her but will put everything on me...
I can hardly save this days because she currently staying with me...bro I just weak

Originalsly:


Didn't you say you knownwomen in the village that have their own farms despite their husbands having farms too? ... aren't they women with hustling spirit?... that you found on the farm?... so whybbe asking where to find them when you already did?

is time for lunch bro....you really need to eat for better reasoning

You are living in the dream world.

Wake up from the slumber.

Women are not natural hustlers they are the chief beneficiaries of the proceeds of hustle.

Men lock themselves in the room to start ideas, create wealth and better civilization. Women lock themselves in the room thinking of how to get the best by contributing little as possible. Hence why women always turn phone camera on themselves try to seek attention and validation from successful men.

Do the work yourself, a woman who has the drive don't want you, a woman who has your money don't want you. She will always seek someone who has more. Not you.

You can count the number of inventions women have made, women drain resources in the economy, they do not produce.

All what most women do is sell wigs, bags and tummy shaper, creams and covertly sell themselves on instagram.

Facts can't be said without having to sound like hate.

Wake up read about: Hypergamy and Why women do these on https://redpillers.com/discussion/topic/important-things-in-life-men-should-not-know-harsh-redpill-knowledge/

Godoverevery:

I just feel it makes no sense someone expecting you to foot her basic needs infact not someone you are not married to yet.

She won't ask her mum who is rich enough to assist her but will put everything on me...
I can hardly save this days because she currently staying with me...bro I just weak

My brother you just have to communicate with her on the burden she's putting on you, I couldn't safe either.

But my savings grace came when she decided to side with her parents on our union and let me be.

First things first accommodating any living thing will consume, be it pet or human being, if human being it's even more expensive. The truth is you gat to let her see reasons to get something doing to augment. You just have to make her see reasons that your current finance cannot sustainably cater for both of you under the current situation of one person working and other not. She won't like it but you have say it my brother, if not you will errupt on her on other issues and it won't be worth it,when what is disturbing you have not been addressed.

So my brother find ways to communicate this to her, especially on a happy mood or you get her a gift and land the new project of she needing to do something concerning her finances.

For me I'll advise if possible let her get her space and visit or you visit occasionally. You are an example to others and people may read wrong meaning to both of you staying together there by dragging your good integrity and sincerity aground.

Yusufisraelj:


My brother you just have to communicate with her on the burden she's putting on you, I couldn't safe either.

But my savings grace came when she decided to side with her parents on our union and let me be.

First things first accommodating any living thing will consume, be it pet or human being, if human being it's even more expensive. The truth is you gat to let her see reasons to get something doing to augment. You just have to make her see reasons that your current finance cannot sustainably cater for both of you under the current situation of one person working and other not. She won't like it but you have say it my brother, if not you will errupt on her on other issues and it won't be worth it,when what is disturbing you have not been addressed.

So my brother find ways to communicate this to her, especially on a happy mood or you get her a gift and land the new project of she needing to do something concerning her finances.

For me I'll advise if possible let her get her space and visit or you visit occasionally. You are an example to others and people may read wrong meaning to both of you staying together there by dragging your good integrity and sincerity aground.

Honestly I don't have issh with her staying with me and she also have something doing but the pay is nothing.
Just that D's days we have misunderstanding too often over things.... the money I make go off easily since am the one dropping 90% of wat we need financially.
She made a statement last week that people won't know how we are living in a detrimental way...If I talk she feels am transferring aggression to her so I decided to keep shut....am thinking alot of things....... I need to invest about 300k into the new farming year D's month which will make things tight financially for now.

So bro how should I go about it.... already am getting this feeling of she suffering with me which to her is my fault but I will rather invest my money than use it to eat.

Godoverevery:

Honestly I don't issh with her staying with me and she also have something doing but the pay is nothing.
Just that D's days we have misunderstanding to often over things.... the money I make go off easily since am 90% of we need financially.
She made a statement last week that people won't know how we are living in a detrimental way...If I talk she feels am transferring aggression to her so I decided to keep shut....am thinking alot of things....... I need to invest about 300k into the new farming year D's month which will make things tight financially for now.

So bro how should I go about it.... already am getting this feeling of she suffering with me which to her is my fault but I will rather invest my money than use it to eat.

Sincerely appreciate your honesty my brother, it's not easy.

I will like to start by saying that both of you have to sit down and do a heart to heart talk sincerely this night.

Let her her tell you those things you are doing that is making her not feel loved (this is where her reaction is coming from), take time to listen to her and pass no blames or excuses, just listen to her. Then ask her what she she thinks you can do to make her happy?

Then tell her what you think she is doing that is causing you pain, what you think she can do to change the narrative and make you happy.

Pls and pls relationship is a platform for growth both of you must be getting better for each other and both of you should learn to accommodate each other and talk freely but respectfully so.

Just keep an open mind and make the necessary adjustments for your lady equally she should do same for you, both of you have been in love before, don't let little things come in between you both.

As regards your investment, you will have to go on with it, bkos if you spend that money on food, the days ahead will be terrible and with the way this country is going, we will need food down the year, so you should cash in big.

Yusufisraelj:


Sincerely appreciate your honesty my brother, it's not easy.

I will like to start by saying that both of you have to sit down and do a heart to heart talk sincerely this night.

Let her her tell you those things you are doing that is making her not feel loved (this is where her reaction is coming from), take time to listen to her and pass no blames or excuses, just listen to her. Then ask her what she she thinks you can do to make her happy?

Then tell her what you think she is doing that is causing you pain, what you think she can do to change the narrative and make you happy.

Pls and pls relationship is a platform for growth both of you must be getting better for each other and both of you should learn to accommodate each other and talk freely but respectfully so.

Just keep an open mind and make the necessary adjustments for your lady equally she should do same for you, both of you have been in love before, don't let little things come in between you both.

As regards your investment, you will have to go on with it, bkos if you spend that money on food, the days ahead will be terrible and with the way this country is going, we will need food down the year, so you should cash in big.

I wish is that easy..... having that heart to heart talk is the biggest problem.

bro she will throw emotion into it and
raise her voice which makes me mad.....I will try sha but I know it will lead to another fight.

Godoverevery:

I wish is that easy..... having that heart to heart talk is the biggest problem.

bro she will throw emotion into it and
raise her voice which makes me mad.....I will try sha but I know it will lead to another fight.

My brother nobody says it's ever easy ooo. This relationship thing get as e be and every relationship is unique, you just have to find a way that those differences between you people is treated ASAP.

Even more importantly pray together, somethings that affect a good relationship are mostly not seen.