Coming into nairaland has it's pros and cons , I'll try my best to make this brief and please permit my use of English language which won't be balanced .
I came across thread and open discussion from well known moniker like UNBUNJA, GLYCOLYSIS, HARDDON and a few I can't spell their name well,i wasn't to impressed and interested in what they say but reading and going back to it I can match it with real life situation and happenings in the society also I can match it with my dating life and status.
I used to be a very famous guy who everyone wants to be with , got the hottest babe and breakup with a lot of girls ,I can date a girl for a day then I'm done with her the next day like no feeling or remorse I'm no alpha just a bad boy with charisma.Everthing went down one day like nothing last forever then I knew the true nature of girls ,though all my liquid cash I used it to put my parents back on their feet and had to start from the scratch.
Lessons learnt: a stranger is more likely to help in times of need than your best friend .

Cinderella or Barbie will leave you for another when you lose everything or can't meet up again

Family is all that matters at the end

You truely know your best friend in dreadful situations

Starting from the scratch meet a new girl an hour to the relationship she's asking for 500 naria like who does ,does she see me as a walking ATM just left her that instance.
Another ask me for 50 naria two weeks to the relationship she be probably 22 I told her I don't have my friend will give her .
I met a girl on Facebook , this afternoon I chatted her up she said she's not okay I ask what happened , ialready know she know she I'll demand for money so I play along she said she needs 5k I said okay I'll give her in person and double the amount if we meet in person this same girl who was not taking me serious starting chatting me seriously and directing me the way to her house like I'm her daughter .I didn't want to go at first but she was hitting me with lot of text where I'm I , since her home is a bus from my place I went to her place on bus she was calling I don't want to disappoint hopes I ought to given her 2k , meeting her in person we talked she was looking at me like a baby I took his sweet I told her I'll give her to relief her the stress even though she stressed me .I asked her if she has a boyfriend she told me yes I told her why didn't she request the money for him she said she doesn't want to disturb him ,then I said okay but I'm only with 5h will she mange it and send her account number to me I'll do the transfer at home for her.she refused but later said I should give her the 5h which I later gave her 2k instead of 5h

Nigerian girls are useless all of them

Hmmm...

Following

How old are you? Are you the last born child? Do you've anyone that can be a mentor to you? Do you've a full-time or part-time job if you are a student? Are you learning any apprenticeship?

You used to be a player, are you still a player?

From your post you sound like someone between age 18 to 25 at most. (Apologies if am wrong)

If you're my younger brother, am gonna advised you to focus on your dream career rather than chasing girls.

Set your standard and stop wasting your time talking to girl that are after your pocket cash, some girls are mean and nasty but there are few girls that are genuinely amazing and loyal.

Good luck in your search for love