Ademidd:
Hello guys, pls help me look into this matter.

A particular lady have been with a certain guy for years and they are still together. He had another relationship with another girl last year which lasted for 2months ..he has apologized to his main lady and they are back together. Just yesterday, the lady he broke up with called him not knowing that his lady was with him- so she was the one who picked the call, she ended the call on hearing her voice only for her to text the guy's number saying" I purposely called you and it is not to destroy your relationship or marital life. I need an assistance from you and heaven will be glad if you can offer the assistance- account details bla bla bla.

According to the lady, although she was angry, she was quiet all through. The guy had to reply the other lady telling her that" sorry madam, I'm well-heeled for now and note this, do not purposely call me nor send such message to me again".
The main girl lol is troubled, she's wondering why the girl had to call her man to ask for immediate financial assistance without prior notice, not stating what she wants to do with the money and then dropping her account details without being told to do so. He had already blocked the girl's contact last year so she wouldn't be able to get in touch with him again, likewise the girl blocked him on whatsapp immediately their relationship went off mid last year. What do you think she should do pls. Although no pressure but they might likely tied the knot before the year runs out, more reason she is scared.

Zzor:
An ex is not a friend, when everyone accepts this then this ex issue everywhere will not surface. People should learn to stop keeping ex as friends,they are always the crack in your relationship

Kondomatic:
I understand your point perfectly but you have to understand that no two person are the same.


I have an EX that I am not dropping any time soon and I have my reasons. If I am to start a relationship with a lady any time in the future, I will explain to her why I am in touch with this EX and I hope she understands.


Ours was a beautiful friendship that was supposed to last a life time but I ruined it with dating. I have realized my errors and restored it to default setting, Friendship.


We have stayed friends since 2013 that the relationship ended and have not seen each other till today. I do that just to ensure no "mistake happens", she wasn't comfortable with it initially but what can she do?

Zzor:
She's at a great risk for keeping you close,you are the crack I was talking about,you will eventually cause problems for her and besides which normal lady with her brains intact will listen and accept your explanation of keeping this your ex as friends, anyways some ladies sabi fall hands sha

Kondomatic:
It depends on what you mean by normal lady.


She's been my friend for years and has never caused any problem. Everything boils down to the type of person that I am.

When you're transparent in a relationship and allow your woman access to the right places, when she's tired of searching and found nothing, she will trust you even when you're in the midst of unclad prostitutes.

Honesty brings trust, trust is what keeps a relationship not avoiding EXes.

Zzor:
When you are in a new relationship and this your so called ex that you can't forget request to see you privately and demand intimacy from you,Oga will you reject or jump on her to devour?