MejiLoyon:
Newton's three laws of motion

In the first law, an object will not change its motion unless a force acts on it. In the second law, the force on an object is equal to its mass times its acceleration. In the third law, when two objects interact, they apply forces to each other of equal magnitude and opposite direction.

You're the force she's the mass in law1&2. In law 3 you're both objects. Now read the laws again

In summary leave her alone. Your actions from the chats might actually be the propellant. She'll come through.

Leave HER

Romanoff:
She needs a positive influence in her life, preferably a female.

SocialJustice:
Since you've created an avenue for her to open up, please keep it that way and assist her the best you can. You need to guide her to start following the smart kids in school and emulate them in academics too as much as she can.

Since she already likes your fb character, use it as an opportunity to keep her away from little boys with no focus.

You've started well, do not mess this up.

lilvicky68:
That's the normal adolescence behavior..stop bothering yourself..your own is to advice her or call her mom to advice her about sex..

olorunyomi25149:
What u would have done,if she's to be ur own daughter.do it.

Karleb:
Get cane and flog the hell out of her.

Mile18:
Good morning Nairaland, so I decided to create this thread because of my little niece, she's been living with me since jss2 and she's currently in ss1,first of I know kids don't talk to their parents about how they feel.

So I've told her right from when she started living with me to always talk to me,and if she can't she can talk to her mom this i have told her countless times.

On why I created this thread, I bought two phones one for myself, one for my nephew and I gave the old phone hot 5 to her, so she can stop troubling my phone, Immediately she created a fb accont.

After like some days I was just curious so I created another account and i added her up, we started chatting and this is what I found, what's the best way to go about it, tell her mom or talk to her myself.

MejiLoyon:
Newton's three laws of motion

In the first law, an object will not change its motion unless a force acts on it. In the second law, the force on an object is equal to its mass times its acceleration. In the third law, when two objects interact, they apply forces to each other of equal magnitude and opposite direction.

You're the force she's the mass in law1&2. In law 3 you're both objects. Now read the laws again

In summary leave her alone. Your actions from the chats might actually be the propellant. She'll come through.

Leave HER

Mile18:
Good morning Nairaland, so I decided to create this thread because of my little niece, she's been living with me since jss2 and she's currently in ss1,first of I know kids don't talk to their parents about how they feel.

So I've told her right from when she started living with me to always talk to me,and if she can't she can talk to her mom this i have told her countless times.

On why I created this thread, I bought two phones one for myself, one for my nephew and I gave the old phone hot 5 to her, so she can stop troubling my phone, Immediately she created a fb accont.

After like some days I was just curious so I created another account and i added her up, we started chatting and this is what I found, what's the best way to go about it, tell her mom or talk to her myself.

ImaIma1:


The number one problem is you still seeing her as your "little niece". When I saw the topic, I was expecting a 5 or 6 year old. An SS1 girl is already experiencing puberty and learning new things.

Maybe you should talk to her about relationships appropriate for her age. Let her understand that there will be enough time to have boyfriends. That having them now will affect her studies.

But also, tell her to let you know if she likes any guy or kind of encourage her to tell you when she has a boyfriend so that you can monitor and advise her. Because it is inevitable at this point.

ImaIma1:


The number one problem is you still seeing her as your "little niece". When I saw the topic, I was expecting a 5 or 6 year old. An SS1 girl is already experiencing puberty and learning new things.

Maybe you should talk to her about relationships appropriate for her age. Let her understand that there will be enough time to have boyfriends. That having them now will affect her studies.

But also, tell her to let you know if she likes any guy or kind of encourage her to tell you when she has a boyfriend so that you can monitor and advise her. Because it is inevitable at this point.

Mile18:
Good morning Nairaland, so I decided to create this thread because of my little niece, she's been living with me since jss2 and she's currently in ss1,first of I know kids don't talk to their parents about how they feel.

So I've told her right from when she started living with me to always talk to me,and if she can't she can talk to her mom this i have told her countless times.

On why I created this thread, I bought two phones one for myself, one for my nephew and I gave the old phone hot 5 to her, so she can stop troubling my phone, Immediately she created a fb accont.

After like some days I was just curious so I created another account and i added her up, we started chatting and this is what I found, what's the best way to go about it, tell her mom or talk to her myself.

mutter:
I think you overstepped the boundary by prying into her privacy.
Please have decent conversations with her.
Teenagers need to be able to communicate and thrust someone without fear odf being judged.
And she needs her safe heaven.
.plea2do this in real life and stop the sneaking.

mariahAngel:


What you did and are doing is wrong! You're invading her privacy without her permission. You have no right to do that, even if your intentions are good.
Allow her come to you to tell you what she feels comfortable telling you, when she feels comfortable.
If she eventually finds out the Facebook friend, "her confidant" is you, she'll feel betrayed, invaded and stripped by you!
She'll never fully trust you again, and you'll lose her respect.
You'll make her question everything.
There are phases in life we must go through on our own.

Mile18:


Think before you talk okay

Mile18:
There are phases in life we must go through on our own. [/b][b]

Your points are valid, but again if she's not properly guided, she might be a victim, I believe you know not all mistakes can be corrected, I'm a person that goes to work early and come back late, sometimes I might be away for a week or two, if I don't know what she's up to, how do I help her.

mariahAngel:


I haven't said anything out of line.
According to your chat with her, she's beginning to have feelings for you. That's dangerous.
Stop that before it gets out of hand.
You're stealing information she isn't prepared to share with you, and that is the truth.

You have absolute no right to invade her privacy through your Trojan gift!