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Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by Macphenson: 5:59pm On Mar 28, 2021 |
jmoore: Well, don't worry. You will soon learn a lot of things about the Igbo tradition. Wait until the Umunna gathers. Are you not wondering why despite all be did to your father, he still has the temerity to say you did not inform him about your father's death? I doubt if you ever attend the Umunna meetings in the village, you will understand a lot of things better. You people may decide to deal with him smartly. It's simple. Accuse him of killing your dad, that since he has made such utterance,and and if you can get somebody that will say in the umunaan that he heard him talk about the kidnapping issue, use that and deal with him. Outside that, he is entitled to every right and privileges of his father's house, especially as the first son. Your mum is just a woman, not even a daughter. Go and look at High Chief Lulu Briggs case, at the end of the day, the son was in charge during the burial ceremony. Ask yourself this question, who is going to perform the ashes to ashes rites during the burial? It's the son not the wife, so in this case the first son. Be smart. Be wise. 5 Likes |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by Rickbronz(m): 6:01pm On Mar 28, 2021 |
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Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by jmoore(m): 6:23pm On Mar 28, 2021 |
Macphenson:You said I should look at Briggs case when you haven't looked at it. This is completely different from Brigg's case. It was not about who should be in charge of the burial but circumstances that led to his death. A son that wishes his father dies has the audacity to do ashes to ashes. No be thunder em dey invite from ancestors? 1 Like |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by oluwole70525: 7:24pm On Mar 28, 2021 |
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Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by jesmond3945: 7:56pm On Mar 28, 2021 |
jmoore:please my brother thread with care. Tradition must be followed. He is the first and leave it at that. Let the spirit of your dad judge him. 1 Like |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by jmoore(m): 8:04pm On Mar 28, 2021 |
jesmond3945: What does tradition say about a son that plans to kill his father? His input is not needed. We took care of our dad during his sickness without him. So we can go ahead with the burial without him. I will put Umunna and co in their place if they dare to support my stepbrother to disrupt the burial. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by Kamachicho: 8:32pm On Mar 28, 2021 |
jmoore: I have read your story, the advices given and your replies and I have this to say you boast too much. Listen, digest and make peace. "He wants his father dead, He was not there when he was sick" and so? You are not in the position to be the judge. Let him perform his role without you and your mother acting God in his life. 2 Likes |
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Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by jmoore(m): 9:05pm On Mar 28, 2021 |
Kamachicho: It is not about boasting. He has no role to perform. He should remain where he was when my father was alive. You talk about peace. How can you make peace with a terrorist? Easy to preach. The only one that needs a sermon is my stepbrother. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by GboyegaD(m): 10:15pm On Mar 28, 2021 |
Myer: Words of mouth isn't sufficient to disown him either. All I read is a battle of supremacy and it is difficult to interfere unless you hear the brother's side. One question remains why don't they want him at his father's burial? Why not involve him all through the process? |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by GboyegaD(m): 10:22pm On Mar 28, 2021 |
jmoore: Wetin dey cause the wish you no talk. Like they say, there are 3 sides to every story, yours, his, and the truth. My advise, take your family issues off NL and try sought things amicably. This life is too short and stressful on its own than to create new stress to it. |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by jesmond3945: 10:44pm On Mar 28, 2021 |
jmoore:you want to fight umunna? Hmmm your father will not be happy |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by AishaYesufu: 11:08pm On Mar 28, 2021 |
jmoore:He is the Okpala of the family, at the demise of your father, he is the next in line. Fact is, your father didn't follow the tradition to disown him so his pronouncement is invalid |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by AishaYesufu: 11:14pm On Mar 28, 2021 |
jmoore:Lol firstly, he is your half brother (Elder) not step brother. Secondly, you can't fight Umuna and win lol... |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by jmoore(m): 11:47pm On Mar 28, 2021 |
jesmond3945:They should do the right thing. Any bad interference won't make my father happy either. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by jmoore(m): 11:50pm On Mar 28, 2021 |
AishaYesufu:Umunna is not above the court. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by jmoore(m): 11:53pm On Mar 28, 2021 |
AishaYesufu:We will see till May. I will update the thread by then. A precedent must surely be set. Can't be intimated by nonsense tradition. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by frozen70(f): 2:38am On Mar 29, 2021 |
jmoore: If the kins men can't handle him. Make arrangements for the military presence on that day, I didn't say police ohhh Use the military, go to the nearest army cantonment and make enquiries, you will be directed to the appropriate authority and the cost to pay They will give you army and there presence with put sanity on that day This is what you have to do in secret They will arrive a night before burial and go the day of burial or the next day depending on your timing with them But make sure you feed them very well Do this secretly 2 Likes |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by Kettlecorn: 3:10am On Mar 29, 2021 |
jmoore: I usually will not chook mouth in this type of matter, but this thing you said here was definitely revealed to you from above and is the blatant naked truth! We Nigerians attach a lot of useless sentiment to both good and bad traditions. A tradition is a set of practices that a group of people have accepted and decided to practice. Tradition started one day. You too can start a new tradition today and it may become the norm 10, 20, 100 years from now. As long as you are not doing anything illegal, you are free to start your own tradition. This is the plain naked truth that they do not want you to know and will threaten you with Ummuna, "Tradition". "The sabbath was made for man and not man for the sabbath". This means that if tradition is not convenient for you, start your own! 3 Likes |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by Mindlog: 3:26am On Mar 29, 2021 |
jesmond3945: Umunna are not dieties as they are mortals like everyone, where and when they choose to go.off-tangent because of selfishness, wickedness and greed then you can give them "the.middle finger" treatment. No one should grovel at their feet because of any tradition that enables unfairness and selfishness. Haven't you seen Umunna who are instgating the divisions in their late brother's family because.it helps them to selfishly gain material benefits from the contending parties? Some families during burials do have the presence of some military men, e get why. The reality is that urbanization is lessening the influence the Umunna hold, 50 years or so from now the Umunna of then will majorly be the today's teenagers who are steeped in virtual life (internet) and you can best imagine it. Note we are evolving away from groupthink as people are becoming more questioning of some practices and it is becoming increasingly difficult to gag those doing the questioning. Umunna ndi ojoo is not to the interest of Ndigbo |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by NoToPile: 9:19am On Mar 29, 2021 |
I am not Igbo but OP, calm down and thread carefully. I don't think its right not to inform him about his Dads death, he should also be at the burial the only thing is to ensure he doesn't scatter the burial that's all and this can be achieved with the presence of security agents. But if you are saying he shouldn't come for the burial at all that will be hard. Everything is not by gragra, resolve the issue amicably. 2 Likes |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by mutter(f): 10:28am On Mar 29, 2021 |
smatt1711:Thank you for this! It's obvious that the other wife and kids might be involved in the issues that led to the rift. Poster If your mother didn't want to accommodate a first son she should d not have married your father. Your mother was bathing your father... Who else was to do this? Please do what is right. Your father was probably pressured in his ill health and dependancy to kick his first son out but he never disowned him. The blood will speak! You are going on a perilous path. 1 Like |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by jmoore(m): 10:44am On Mar 29, 2021 |
mutter: 'It is obvious'? Obviously not everyone is wise. I expected different reactions from my post, so I am not surprised. You don't know genesis and you think you have the audacity to interpret revelation. So myopic!! My mom took care of him as his own son from toddler till adulthood. Note: I never knew he was my half brother till his rebellion started. There was a day he requested to see his biological mother. My father took him there. He couldn't stay with his own mother and requested to come back after few days. You said my father was pressured in his ill health to kick out the first son. That's a foolish interpretation from what I have presented. My Father suffered stroke in 2019. He has already disowned him more than 10 years ago. It's ridiculous how you left the issues of death threats, kidnapping. Anything my father did was by his own choice. Only a foolish father will live in the same house with a son that plans to kill him. You have no idea how many times I separated them in a fight. You have no idea!! Blood will speak? Let's see if an enemy will have the audacity to do ashes to ashes ritual on a body he hates and planned to kill. 2 Likes |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by ahnie: 7:16pm On Mar 29, 2021 |
This matter strong Sha...what a rebellious child!
kidnapping and fighting his own father...tufiakwa. |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by GorillaApp(m): 7:21pm On Mar 29, 2021 |
smatt1711:Let's push this further. In the igbo culture, what if the father did not pay the bride price of the mother of the suppposed first son( born out of wedlock) and the man eventually married another woman legally and refused to accept(disown) the child born out of wedlock until his death. His property was willed to the second guy. The man never introduced the older guy as his son, never accepted him in his house and never introduced him to the village/villagers. It was at the man's death that the other children decided to bring him in but not as the Senior son. What does the igbo culture say about this. BTW, this happened to a colleague/friend Cc. Macphenson |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by BEANSndPLANTAIN(m): 7:31pm On Mar 29, 2021 |
jmoore:Ignore that fool called ahnie. Go through her posts, you'll see how unintelligent she is |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by ObeleUtali: 7:57pm On Mar 29, 2021 |
I'm from Anambra and i have buried both my mum and my dad. My advice, don't be the person to confront your step-brother. Go to the head of your umunna and present your case. Be very truthful when you do so and make sure that there are at least two elderly members of the umunna when you present your case. Let it be the umunna to tell your brother to stand down. Not you. Umunna is very powerful. Don't fight them. If you can win them over, the issue is already half solved. My 2kobo |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by Ogeneigbo1: 8:09pm On Mar 29, 2021 |
jmoore: Please I will like to know if this your half / step brother has other siblings . If yes,what is their position on this matter. I have seen this kind of ( Power Play ) before. And I tell you I already know how it will end. My advice to you is "Small Small Carefully Carefully" |
Re: [Updated]Legal Way To Deal With A Family Member Who Plans To Disrupt A Burial? by jmoore(m): 8:47pm On Mar 29, 2021 |
Ogeneigbo1: His mother remarried after my father divorced her. I have never met her mother neither do I know about her family. |
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