Seun:
What makes a person the right partner?

anthonyuncle:
this is the best post I've read recently

Seun:
This is a case of mismatched expectations. The wife expects her husband with her after work, and the husband expects her to support his interest in sports as a man. The solution is compromise. The man will agree to watch only the more important matches and his wife will watch them with him. He will ignore the less important matches and they will do whatever his wife wants them to do. Both the husband and the wife will be happy.

robosky02:
Before marriage, we all thought that once the knots are tied, this life go sweet die. Only you with your man/woman, enjoying, partying, shopping, doing somersaults anyhow, this, that, yen yen yen�... Akụkọ�

Most of us didn't consider the pressures that would come from home keeping, financial pressure on the family, stress from inlaws, friends, coping with the demands of our jobs while securing the home front, etc.

We didn't even think that a time would come when little discussions could result to very big quarrels, and you could actually keep malice with your partner, and say to hell with him/her.

We thought having sex everyday would just be fun since we've gotten the licence to be weird, we never imagined that we would one day be forming tayad in the oza room�.

We thought everything would just go as planned and we will live happily ever after, never did we imagine the frustrations, the heartbreaks, the regrets, the hurtful words and actions that would one day come from our heartthrob intentionally or otherwise.

Most of us thought love texting is fun and would never cease, but here we are, sending list of things to buy, issues to be resolved, school fees, utility bills, etc ��most times even forgetting to add love you at the end of the messages.

What about pillow talks, �. We enjoyed lots of it during courtship, discussing the future, totoring each other, giglling throughout the night, and all... We thought marriage would bring out the PhD of that aspect... ��. Little did we know that sometimes we would sleep off on the couch even without having our night bath. Pillow talks haff advanced to kitchen/on-the-way-out talk�

As you're coming out from one challenge, you're faced with another. It's like a loop, we keep going round and never getting to the end.

These things are overwhelming to a lot of people, you see wonderful sweet women becoming something else, the men most times start looking for outdoor activities, some, see themselves as stuck with each other and just continue to manage and hope for a better tomorrow, while the impatient ones seek ways and excuses to return to spinsterhood/bachelorhood. �‍♀️

It takes a lot to make this thing called marriage work. If you've not been there you won't understand any of those☝️.

So the next time you see couples celebrating their marriage anniversary, rejoice with them, cos what they celebrate is beyond the beautiful appearances they put up and the fine pictures you see on social media.

Every marriage anniversary is worth celebrating, don't wait until you're 25years in marriage.

Kudos to all men and women who despite the many challenges are still keeping up with the love they saw and believed in, may God continue to strengthen your home and give you double success for every effort you make, Amen�����

If u can't forgive, please don't marry. Marriage is a Ministry of 'Offence'. So u must be a permanent secretary in Forgiveness Department,
with a Phd in Understanding,
M.Sc in Loving and a B.Sc in Tolerance.

AsherAmari:
Now, I'm scared.

ive actually seen this happen in so many homes and it's the men that first start dousing the fire of love in marriage. They'll start by going to viewing centers or a friend's place to watch soccer, leaving the woman all alone at home. Before you know it, the gap is formed. The Interest in each other drops and you begin to see yourselves as siblings or biz partners.

It sucks.

Seun:
What makes a person the right partner?

Elonmuskfan:


Wives should learn to share their husbands hobbies with the husband. Instead of letting difference in hobbies to separate them whereas it can actually unite them. What happens if she joins him to watch football in viewing center for mere 90minutes instead of doing nothing at home?
She may feel out of sort in that viewing center but with time, the whole football starts to make sense to her and she creates bond with her partner.

The man must key into his wife hobbies as well.

AsherAmari:


Easier said than done .

What if it's someone like me who doesn't like watching soccer? Im not sure it will work. That aside, some men, even if the woman likes, let her be a soccer fan, he'll still prefer to go out and watch it just to be in the midst of fellow men where the discuss will flow better.

Men just tend to get tired after seeing you continuously for a while. It happens with some women too. Too much see finish.

I think the best thing is for one of them to go on a vacation so that by the time they come back, they would have missed each other so well. I prefer it that way.

Goldbw122:
That is why if you want to marry, please marry your friends so that it would be fun, this love texting, sex, communication will be sweet, so that is it is supposed to be, marriage is sweet, and forgiveness is really and highly require in marriage, because you need to be mature and maturity comes with understanding...

Seun:
This is a case of mismatched expectations. The wife expects her husband to be with her after work, and the husband expects her to support his interest in sports as a man. The solution is compromise. The man will agree to watch only the more important matches and his wife will watch them with him. He will ignore the less important matches and they will do whatever his wife wants them to do. Both the husband and the wife will be happy.

Elonmuskfan:

Vacation is the worst take it from me. You’ll come back to your spouse and it feels like you don’t know her again after you have rejuvenated.

AsherAmari:


She should abandon the load of chores at and join the man at the viewing center? Not realistic.

What stops the man from watching it at home with his family?

I know a woman who stopped the husband from visiting bars by making pepper soup at home and buying the drinks at home for him. This man doesn't step outside. That's a man willing to make things work.