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There's nothing like IBO, its IGBO. The person doesn't need to identify as igbo, just don't come and misspell the name biko.

You don't see people saying they're yeruba. You're either Yoruba or you're not.

yes it works.

1195meters:
My good Yoruba female friend loves an Ibo (he tells her he's Ibo not Igbo) man from Delta state. She's in early 30s, he's 40. They live abroad, have

been chatting for over one month. They love each other.


The man was married to an Ibo woman of 35 two years ago who dumped him after arriving abroad. The marriage took place in Nigeria. He got his

papers from Nigeria. They arrived abroad then he processed her own papers. After she got her papers one fight after the other, they separated last

year, they're waiting for divorce papers next month. The woman's family in Nigeria returned her bride price back to the man's family.



My friend says the man hasn't said a lot on the reason for the divorce, other than they were arguing lots. The man has been good to my friend, but,

my friend is worried not knowing why the man is divorced, if the man is abusive (he has told her he and ex wife had many verbal exchanges, there

was a time she was hitting her body against the wall so as to make it look like he abused her).


The man has told my friend he plans to sponsor his family members abroad, that his family members is going to live with him and his wife. My friend

doesn't want inlaws living with them after marriage.



Any advice for her? Anything she needs to know about dating or marrying an Ibo man?



******Am not the man in question oooooo**********

How come your friend is not looking to marry a single man, must she marry a divorcee ?
The cane that was used to beat the former wife is kept in the drawer for the new wife..

GuyInTheMirror:

How come your friend is not looking to marry a single man, must she marry a divorcee ?
The cane that was used to beat the former wife is kept in the drawer for the new wife..

She's looking for a single, never married person like herself. It just happens the man who has come her way is a divorcee

1195meters:
She's looking for a single, never married person like herself. It just happens the man who has come her way is a divorcee

They have been chatting for a month and they already love each other...
Seems she is desperate to marry and he can see that in her therefore he will probably take advantage of that.
I wish her luck sha... Me too I am in my early 30s and still looking for a wife, may God lead us so we do not marry wrongly.

1195meters:
She's looking for a single, never married person like herself. It just happens the man who has come her way is a divorcee

She should calm down before she enters into a ditch.

Why's the man rushing her?

1195meters:
She's looking for a single, never married person like herself. It just happens the man who has come her way is a divorcee

So because the single man is not forthcoming for now is enough reason for her to settle for a divorcee?

A man that can not keep his first marriage will not be able to handle a second one. Trust me.

Well... For your info, Igbo marriage is not the same as Yoruba marriage o. Ome Nala Kan nku. Can she cope?

AsherAmari:
Well... For your info, Igbo marriage is not the same as Yoruba marriage o. Ome Nala Kan nku. Can she cope.

The lady is abroad and most Nigerian single met that I have met abroad prefer to go back and marry from Nigeria. So as a single lady in her 30s getting a single guy to settle down with might not be easy.
But then, I will advise her to take it easy and not rush into that marriage.
I wish her goodluck.

GuyInTheMirror:

The lady is abroad and most Nigerian single met that I have met abroad prefer to go back and marry from Nigeria. So as a single lady in her 30s getting a single guy to settle down with might not be easy.
But then, I will advise her to take it easy and not rush into that marriage.
I wish her goodluck.

Better to stay single than enter into hell. If you know what I mean.

Na before marriage Dey do person giri giri for body. Not anymore, especially due to the kind of men that are out there these days.

Marriage has lost it's savour.

Since they are both abroad, it will work. Infact, they should count themselves lucky that they found each other in a country full of diverse tribes, ethnicities, cultures and nationals. If they are in Nigeria though, it will be a real struggle for them.

AsherAmari:


Better to stay single than enter into hell. If you know what I mean.

Na before marriage Dey do person giri giri for body. Not anymore, especially due to the kind of men that are out there these days.

Marriage has lost it's savour.

Which kain discouraging advise be this na,I am a single and responsible man. Not all men are bad jare.

sisisioge:
Since they are both abroad, it will work. Infact, they should count themselves lucky that they found each other in a country full of diverse tribes, ethnicities, cultures and nationals. If they are in Nigeria though, it will be a real struggle for them.

This is not true, that they are both abroad nor mean say he go work. Plenty of Nigerian marriages don scatter for this obodo oyinbo wen we dey so.

Igbo-Yoruba marriage is not always common. Igbo -Niger Delta or igbo- North Central works better than Igbo - Yoruba.

Yoruba -Yoruba is always common

GuyInTheMirror:

This is not true, that they are both abroad nor mean say he go work. Plenty of Nigerian marriages don scatter for this obodo oyinbo wen we dey so.

Oh, the discussion here is based on the singular factor that they are of different tribes. Other factors such as values, views, sexual compatibility, communication, etc will be considered too.

Essentially, the probability of different tribes being successful in marriage is higher when the couple is far from home.

GuyInTheMirror:

Which kain discouraging advise be this na,I am a single and responsible man. Not all men are bad jare.

Wait until that time, then you'll know who you truely are. .

Have a nice day.

Must be a confused fellow judging from how he calls himself 'Ibo'.What is Ibo?

If he sponsors his family abroad,its not strange for them to find their feet first before looking for accomodation.You the woman would do same if your folks come over.

As for Divorce matters,best do your findings before tying any knot.You can call the ex wife to verify .

My uncle is marring a yoruba woman. Intially my grand parents were against the marriage but thank God my uncle married that lady. They are made for each other. Even my grand parents are proud of thier daughter in law

LadySarah:
Must be a confused fellow judging from how he calls himself 'Ibo'.What is Ibo?

If he sponsors his family abroad,its not strange for them to find their feet first before looking for accomodation.You the woman would do same if your folks come over.

As for Divorce matters,best do your findings before tying any knot.You can call the ex wife to verify .

He first mentioned they are to live with them permanently then later said it won't be permanent. My friend is worried he can change his mind again later to permanent.

My friend has considered reaching the first wife to inquire, only that she has no info about her. He only told her she moved to another city, she doesn't know anything else about her

My friend's folks are already abroad

1195meters:
He first mentioned they are to live with them permanently then later said it won't be permanent. My friend is worried he can change his mind again later to permanent.

My friend has considered reaching the first wife to inquire, only that she has no info about her. He only told her she moved to another city, she doesn't know anything else about her

Search on fb,connect to her family from there.Stylishly bring out conversations about her and make iinvestigations from there.A man whose wifes family returned her bride price just for a short marriage shoukd be totally investigated.We call it 'Iju ese'.

LadySarah:


Search on fb,connect to her family from there.Stylishly bring out conversations about her and make iinvestigations from there.A man whose wifes family returned her bride price just for a short marriage shoukd be totally investigated.We call it 'Iju ese'.

How will she search pls? The man isn't giving her any info. She doesn't know the ex wife's name, location ( only that she's in another city ). He hasn't told her his own last name either, he says he will tell her later

GuyInTheMirror:

How come your friend is not looking to marry a single man, must she marry a divorcee ?
The cane that was used to beat the former wife is kept in the drawer for the new wife..

A divorcee is a single man. As long as he is legally divorced, I don't see the problem with marrying a divorcee

1195meters:
How will she search pls? The man isn't giving her any info. She doesn't know the ex wife's name, location ( only that she's in another city ). He hasn't told her his own last name either, he says he will tell her later

And she is already in love abi ? That woman is just desperate. I know you are the person in question.....
Na like say person dey play ludo but think well, sometimes it is better to be single than married to the wrong person...

I don't see why they can't.

GuyInTheMirror:

And she is already in love abi ? That woman is just desperate. I know you are the person in question.....
Na like say person dey play ludo but think well, sometimes it is better to be single than married to the wrong person...

My friend isn't desperate. She's been single practically all her life. She's finally giving love a chance, just so happens the man who has come her way was previously married

The man doesn't have kids from the marriage. Had the man any kids from the marriage she wouldn't consider him, she doesn't want a single father

CanadianNaija:
There's nothing like IBO, its IGBO. The person doesn't need to identify as igbo, just don't come and misspell the name biko.

You don't see people saying they're yeruba. You're either Yoruba or you're not.

Let me correct You

I know one woman that says: (house lent) instead of house rent.. Why?

In Warri or Delta we don't use the word Igbo
We used Ibo people because it is our accent

Get this into you: for we deltans it is Ibo people not igbo

Lostchild:


Let me correct You

I know one woman that says: (house lent) instead of house rent.. Why?

In Warri or Delta we don't use the word Igbo
We used Ibo people because it is our accent

Get this into you: for we deltans it is Ibo people not igbo

Maybe the warri and delta you mentioned is a different one from where I grew up in the south, but having an accent is different from purposely misspelling a word.

Deltans can claim to be anything they want, no one cares. But you can not rewrite the spelling of our tribe.
We are Igbos not Ibos.

CanadianNaija:


Maybe the warri and delta you mentioned is a different one from where I grew up in the south, but having an accent is different from purposely misspelling a word.

Deltans can claim to be anything they want, no one cares. But you can not rewrite the spelling of our tribe.
We are Igbos not Ibos.

Example
UK: I've gor o go
US: I got to go
Standard English: I have to go or I need to go

You see theit accent?

You are Igbo (fine) we don't care

You cannot change our accent as we know your ethinic as Ibo people.