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I Need Matured Advice by ewaski(m): 9:34pm On Apr 24
Good evening everyone.. I am from a very humble background.. My parents did their best raising us up.. My mum used to be a petty trader.. But due to financial constraints, she stopped.. My dad is not doing badly at the moment.. Because I made sure I settled him according in his line of business.. But the problem now is that my Mom has suddenly changed since I established a business for her.. She's a different person entirely now.. Since she started earning.. I don't want to take sides in quarrels between them.. But ever since she started this business.. She's now the boss of the house.. Please what can I do..
Re: I Need Matured Advice by Ammishaddai: 9:38pm On Apr 24
My brother, there is little you can do in such matters. But what I would advise that you do is you quietly admonish in a God-fearing way when both of you are alone. Just apply wisdom

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Re: I Need Matured Advice by ewaski(m): 9:41pm On Apr 24
Ammishaddai:
My brother, there is little you can do in such matters. But what I would advise that you do is you quietly admonish in a God-fearing way when both of you are alone. Just apply wisdom

Thanks bro.. I don't want to take sides.. I have talked to my mom on several occasions..we were all living fine together when things were rough.. Now that God has remembered us.. She's exhibiting this character
Re: I Need Matured Advice by Ammishaddai: 9:46pm On Apr 24
ewaski:


Thanks bro.. I don't want to take sides.. I have talked to my mom on several occasions..we were all living fine together when things were rough.. Now that God has remembered us.. She's exhibiting this character
I know, but such is life. Just remember she is your mother, and telling her the truth in a God-fearing manner will help than a direct confrontation of verbal exchanges
Re: I Need Matured Advice by heendrix(m): 9:51pm On Apr 24
ewaski:


Thanks bro.. I don't want to take sides.. I have talked to my mom on several occasions..we were all living fine together when things were rough.. Now that God has remembered us.. She's exhibiting this character

Well retrieve the shop keys from her and give it to ur GF. thank me later
Re: I Need Matured Advice by ewaski(m): 10:02pm On Apr 24
heendrix:


Well retrieve the shop keys from her and give it to ur GF. thank me later

Habba bro
Re: I Need Matured Advice by ewaski(m): 10:03pm On Apr 24
Ammishaddai:
I know, but such is life. Just remember she is your mother, and telling her the truth in a God-fearing manner will help than a direct confrontation of verbal exchanges

Thanks so much.. I appreciate
Re: I Need Matured Advice by Richy4(m): 10:42pm On Apr 24
OP...You said that your mom was a petty trader before she stopped....So it's not as if she haven't seen some cash before.. So what changed? what has she seen now that she hasn't seen before?...Did you care to ask/know?

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Re: I Need Matured Advice by Luak(m): 2:28pm On Apr 25
ewaski:
Good evening everyone.. I am from a very humble background.. My parents did their best raising us up.. My mum used to be a petty trader.. But due to financial constraints, she stopped.. My dad is not doing badly at the moment.. Because I made sure I settled him according in his line of business.. But the problem now is that my Mom has suddenly changed since I established a business for her.. She's a different person entirely now.. Since she started earning.. I don't want to take sides in quarrels between them.. But ever since she started this business.. She's now the boss of the house.. Please what can I do..
she will soon run short of money with that attitude. Don't make her think you are supporting your Dad but you have to keep him afloat so that he will regain his place. It's a matter of time
Re: I Need Matured Advice by frozen70(f): 3:44pm On Apr 25
ewaski:
Good evening everyone.. I am from a very humble background.. My parents did their best raising us up.. My mum used to be a petty trader.. But due to financial constraints, she stopped.. My dad is not doing badly at the moment.. Because I made sure I settled him according in his line of business.. But the problem now is that my Mom has suddenly changed since I established a business for her.. She's a different person entirely now.. Since she started earning.. I don't want to take sides in quarrels between them.. But ever since she started this business.. She's now the boss of the house.. Please what can I do..

Probably she is earning more than dad and has taking up most of the family expenses

That am sure will brew problems between your parents

Seat her down and ask her why the sudden
change

She alone has the answer
Re: I Need Matured Advice by SKhanmi: 4:42pm On Apr 25
She's earning more. Harsh truth? Except your dad regains the higher Financial mantle, the quarrels will continue until one gets sent to the grave prematurely. It's nothing new.

You know your parents better. If they won't settle, seperate them. That's always the best option.
Re: I Need Matured Advice by descarado: 4:45pm On Apr 25
Let them handle their ish.

No of your biz.

Only that if money you have her runs out( it sure will), don't give her again.

Be neutral.
Re: I Need Matured Advice by mariahAngel: 4:52pm On Apr 25
ewaski:
Good evening everyone.. I am from a very humble background.. My parents did their best raising us up.. My mum used to be a petty trader.. But due to financial constraints, she stopped.. My dad is not doing badly at the moment.. Because I made sure I settled him according in his line of business.. But the problem now is that my Mom has suddenly changed since I established a business for her.. She's a different person entirely now.. Since she started earning.. I don't want to take sides in quarrels between them.. But ever since she started this business.. She's now the boss of the house.. Please what can I do..

Is she being disrespectful to your dad?
Re: I Need Matured Advice by mariahAngel: 4:55pm On Apr 25
descarado:
Let them handle their ish.

No of your biz.

Only that if money you have her runs out( it sure will), don't give her again.

Be neutral.

People always say that, but I don't think it's right to standby and watch your parents disagree/fight and not do anything about it. Especially when you all are adults.

Even children in that situation would say "Daddy/mummy, it's ok."
Re: I Need Matured Advice by descarado: 5:58pm On Apr 25
mariahAngel:


People always say that, but I don't think it's right to standby and watch your parents disagree/fight and not do anything about it. Especially when you all are adults.

Even children in that situation would say "Daddy/mummy, it's ok."
It isn't his biz actually. Cos they will never tell him the origin of that quarrel.

Rather, he can suggest his dad meet the mum for intense communication and sort out their problems.

They will leave the matter on ground and focus on his body language and anything that comes out from his mouth.

Don't be surprised, oga no dey function for the other room or madam no gree again.
How will he start.
Let them sort themselves out jare grin

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Re: I Need Matured Advice by mariahAngel: 6:27pm On Apr 25
descarado:

It isn't his biz actually. Cos they will never tell him the origin of that quarrel.

Rather, he can suggest his dad meet the mum for intense communication and sort out their problems.

They will leave the matter on ground and focus on his body language and anything that comes out from his mouth.

Don't be surprised, oga no dey function for the other room or madam no gree again.
How will he start.
Let them sort themselves out jare grin


Oh...OK

Them never too old for that kind rough play? grin
Re: I Need Matured Advice by descarado: 7:22pm On Apr 25
mariahAngel:


Oh...OK

Them never too old for that kind rough play? grin
Never too old I tell you cheesy

They still need it grin

Though they may not be as agile and full of hormones like during their youth but body no be firewood na.
Re: I Need Matured Advice by Exmilitant(m): 7:37pm On Apr 25
Find a girl for your dad. A girl who will do his laundry, prepare his meals, run errand for him and most importantly satisfy him in the other room. Do this and watch your mum humbled.
Re: I Need Matured Advice by ewaski(m): 8:54pm On May 04
Luak:
she will soon run short of money with that attitude. Don't make her think you are supporting your Dad but you have to keep him afloat so that he will regain his place. It's a matter of time
Thanks so much.. I hope everything returns backs to normal soon
Re: I Need Matured Advice by ewaski(m): 8:55pm On May 04
Exmilitant:
Find a girl for your dad. A girl who will do his laundry, prepare his meals, run errand for him and most importantly satisfy him in the other room. Do this and watch your mum humbled.

LOL.. Thanks
Re: I Need Matured Advice by ewaski(m): 8:57pm On May 04
frozen70:


Probably she is earning more than dad and has taking up most of the family expenses

That am sure will brew problems between your parents

Seat her down and ask her why the sudden
change

She alone has the answer

I have done that.. She keeps saying nothing
Re: I Need Matured Advice by ewaski(m): 8:58pm On May 04
Exmilitant:
Find a girl for your dad. A girl who will do his laundry, prepare his meals, run errand for him and most importantly satisfy him in the other room. Do this and watch your mum humbled.
LOL. Bro
Re: I Need Matured Advice by frozen70(f): 9:17pm On May 04
ewaski:


I have done that.. She keeps saying nothing


That word nothing means danger
It's for a woman to say something than saying nothing
Re: I Need Matured Advice by ewaski(m): 10:04pm On May 04
frozen70:



That word nothing means danger
It's for a woman to say something than saying nothing

I really don't know what to do.. Because I don't want to involve third parties
Re: I Need Matured Advice by frozen70(f): 10:14pm On May 04
ewaski:


I really don't know what to do.. Because I don't want to involve third parties

Leave them, they tsort themselves out

Probably your dad once dealt with her before now, so she may be taking her turn

So far they are not fighting, just watch them and don't let what they are doing set you back
Re: I Need Matured Advice by Foodqueen(f): 10:31pm On May 04
If your dad is not complaining, leave them alone.

For them to still be together this long, they will still survive this.

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