It hurts to be betrayed by someone you trust and place so high. If it were to be an outsider with no blood ties, maybe I wont feel this bad. All because of what? money!!!

I recently traveled to Lagos and I told my elder sister that I needed to buy some items. Everyone at home believes she has the knowledge and bargaining prowess for such things so I believed going together would be a good idea. Moreso, she has specific people she patronizes. During the whole transactions, I practically left the negotiation to her even sometimes when I'm skeptical she explained the prices at which other siblings got theirs.

Well, on getting back to my place of residence, out of curiosity, I decided to price those items I bought. I didnt do this initially because it is generally believed that things are more expensive here. To my surprise, I realized that I ended up paying almost double of the actual amount. To confirm, I called some of siblings to ascertain the prices my so called trusted sister claimed they paid. Their responses confirmed that she took me for a ride. She had one way or the other planned with her customers to defraud me.

Right now, I feel so bad. Not only because of the money I lost to her but because of the high esteem I had for her. She is far way older and I used to see her as a mother figure. The last time I feel this hurt and heart broken was when my first relationship broke up. It is not that I am that comfortable financially, but if she needed money badly, she should have asked me. (at least I still gave her and her kids something b4 leaving). It's so so so sad. I pray I will get over this pain soon.

Sorry abt that cos i knw how u feel.
Since she is ur blood, i believe wit time u will forgive and forget but it will make u to b more careful next time.
You dont hv to trust anybody in life including ur own mother cos she culd do d same but only put ur trust in God cos that is the only person that can not fail or betray u.
Take heart and pray God gives u d heart to forgive & forget andalso heals ur wounded heart

so sorri man,
Perhaps she nided more money dan u wuld be willing to gv.
It hurtz man.
Get ova it.

It's ALWAYS the people we trust that end up betraying us in the end. It's only those close to us that can hurt. What you've gone through is NOTHING! If i were to address the uncountable betrayals and let downs in life, i would have disowned most of my nuclear/extended family members. Its life. Laugh over it and move on.

refreshing:

It hurts to be betrayed by someone you trust and place so high. If it were to be an outsider with no blood ties, maybe I wont feel this bad. All because of what? money!!!

I recently traveled to Lagos and I told my elder sister that I needed to buy some items. Everyone at home believes she has the knowledge and bargaining prowess for such things so I believed going together would be a good idea. Moreso, she has specific people she patronizes. During the whole transactions, I practically left the negotiation to her even sometimes when I'm skeptical she explained the prices at which other siblings got theirs.

Well, on getting back to my place of residence, out of curiosity, I decided to price those items I bought. I didnt do this initially because it is generally believed that things are more expensive here. To my surprise, I realized that I ended up paying almost double of the actual amount. To confirm, I called some of siblings to ascertain the prices my so called trusted sister claimed they paid. Their responses confirmed that she took me for a ride. She had one way or the other planned with her customers to defraud me.

Right now, I feel so bad. Not only because of the money I lost to her but because of the high esteem I had for her. She is far way older and I used to see her as a mother figure. The last time I feel this hurt and heart broken was when my first relationship broke up. It is not that I am that comfortable financially, but if she needed money badly, she should have asked me. (at least I still gave her and her kids something b4 leaving). It's so so so sad. I pray I will get over this pain soon.

Awwww . . . . This is so sad!

I can't imagine passing through the same thing, I'll be totally heart broken.

I guess you've learnt your lesson for next time. Take heart.

I can feel your pain. You can't be betrayed by someone you don't trust. It's one of those things. One thing is, she can never betray you again, cos the trust is gone. Get over it.

I undastand d way u feel. It,s just dat ure angry and disappointed.Don't worry u'll get over it.But pls let it be a lesson not 2 TRUST dat much. DON"T even trust urself TRUST ONLY GOD.

Even ma elder sis dat's like all i ve, even though i trust her and she is trustworthy, i dont think idon't think i trust her up to 7o% with money.i've never trusted anyone 80% infact im vry meticulous wen it comes wit dealing wt people.
Money has power.It can shatter a r/ship of years within a twinkle of an EYE.

dere was once i needed some stuff,i didn't ve time 2 go get them myself.my sis did it 4 me.But wait---------We made an estimation of what every single item will cost n i gave her the total money, transport fare and a little cash jst in case.
BTW if she needs Money,i give her wen she doesnt ve not withholding anytin.She mustnt make cash from me by tricks.not fair @ ALL.

I'm into business,(it's kinda normal depending on who it's being done to)  it's very common with d peeps I deal with, I already know most of em so I add d money for em witout dem tellin me lol, while some call to inform me b4 coming, but ur sister doing it to u is too efing baaaaaad

I would not have batted an eyelid if it were a younger sister,maybe cos Im the eldest child and used to the pranks siblings play to get money off their elder and financially better-off sibling.

As she is your elder one,just laugh it off.If it were me,I wud call her,tell her what the real prices are and let her know I now know she played a fast one on me but I wud appreciate she come out straight to ask me for money rather than cheat me.

Not such a big deal,IMO.

. . .and OP,sure u never pulled such stunt on her in the past?Not saying it's payback time but If you have and she laughed it off then . . .One good turn deserves another.

NB;My [/b]opinion,[b]you don't have to agree with me.

Money, money, money, what thou will cause, ur hand will not be able to amend, can u imagine, a blood sister cheating her blood , oga o, such is life.
I av a sister who always lie to me whenever I ask of the price she got something, and at times when I get something and tell her the price, guess what she will say, haa, that is the fake u bought o, at first, I usually get annoyed, but what can I do, overtime I got over it and never asked her for any price again, afterall, market no dey pursue me to come price now.
You will get over it with time, pele

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Money can make people do anything,
pls take heart, don't let this get to you or affect your relationship with her. One day she will reap her harvest

Sorry o

What's stopping you from calling her and giving her a piece of your mind and let her know you are aware of what she did, rather than resent her and start wallowing in pain and be waking up in cold sweats with your skin crawling, for the rest of your life, whenever you have a family event that compels you to be in the same place as her.

Better go take the bull by the horns and nip things in the bud now whilst you still can, before you mistakenly blurt something out 2/3 years down the line and people turn on you and say "ha ha, na 1000 years old issue you still dey carry for head since"! ! ! You know Nigerians and their elders-can-do-no-wrong-mentality, so if this pains you that much, let her know biko.

Yeah call her and tell her that You found out those things cost less

Even if she argues dont argue with her, At least she knows you found her out.

You can talk tongue in cheek

"Auntie, It seemed that prices doubled the day we went to the market" " Maybe they didnt like our face"

And if you are someone like me, Use small curse to escort am, like

" Well if those market women duped me or anyone that duped me they would use the money to pay hospital bills and tell her to say Amen"

OR a more subtle one:

Well God would make those that swindled "us" never stop cos they always be in need and need to swindle and God would always continue to bless us so that we can always have more than enough to give them. Auntie say Amen na!!!!"LOL

^^^
Ha ha ha, classic ogbologbo, e don tay wey you don dey indulge, lol.

dayokanu:

Yeah call her and tell her that You found out those things cost less

Even if she argues dont argue with her, At least she knows you found her out.

You can talk tongue in cheek

"Auntie, It seemed that prices doubled the day we went to the market" " Maybe they didnt like our face"

And if you are someone like me, Use small curse to escort am, like

" Well if those market women duped me or anyone that duped me they would use the money to pay hospital bills and tell her to say Amen"

OR a more subtle one:

Well God would make those that swindled "us" never stop cos they always be in need and need to swindle and God would always continue to bless us so that we can always have more than enough to give them. Auntie say Amen na!!!!"LOL

rotflmao

dayokanu:

Yeah call her and tell her that You found out those things cost less

Even if she argues dont argue with her, At least she knows you found her out.

You can talk tongue in cheek

"Auntie, It seemed that prices doubled the day we went to the market" " Maybe they didnt like our face"

And if you are someone like me, Use small curse to escort am, like

" Well if those market women duped me or anyone that duped me they would use the money to pay hospital bills and tell her to say Amen"

OR a more subtle one:

Well God would make those that swindled "us" never stop cos they always be in need and need to swindle and God would always continue to bless us so that we can always have more than enough to give them. Auntie say Amen na!!!!"LOL

Busy_body:

What's stopping you from calling her and giving her a piece of your mind and let her know you are aware of what she did, rather than resent her and start wallowing in pain and be waking up in cold sweats with your skin crawling, for the rest of your life, whenever you have a family event that compels you to be in the same place as her.

Better go take the bull by the horns and nip things in the bud now whilst you still can, before you mistakenly blurt something out 2/3 years down the line and people turn on you and say "ha ha, na 1000 years old issue you still dey carry for head since"! ! ! You know Nigerians and their elders-can-do-no-wrong-mentality, so if this pains you that much, let her know biko.

agreed.

dayokanu:

Yeah call her and tell her that You found out those things cost less

Even if she argues dont argue with her, At least she knows you found her out.

You can talk tongue in cheek

"Auntie, It seemed that prices doubled the day we went to the market" " Maybe they didnt like our face"

And if you are someone like me, Use small curse to escort am, like

" Well if those market women duped me or anyone that duped me they would use the money to pay hospital bills and tell her to say Amen"

OR a more subtle one:

Well God would make those that swindled "us" never stop cos they always be in need and need to swindle and God would always continue to bless us so that we can always have more than enough to give them. Auntie say Amen na!!!!"LOL

LOL. nairaland has finished me today. so many funny threads.

How do you know she colluded with the traders? Maybe the traders just duped you and your sister.

x.

Busy_body:

What's stopping you from calling her and giving her a piece of your mind and let her know you are aware of what she did, rather than resent her and start wallowing in pain and be waking up in cold sweats with your skin crawling, for the rest of your life, whenever you have a family event that compels you to be in the same place as her.

Better go take the bull by the horns and nip things in the bud now whilst you still can, before you mistakenly blurt something out 2/3 years down the line and people turn on you and say "ha ha, na 1000 years old issue you still dey carry for head since"! ! ! You know Nigerians and their elders-can-do-no-wrong-mentality, so if this pains you that much, let her know biko.

agreed.

dayokanu:

Yeah call her and tell her that You found out those things cost less

Even if she argues dont argue with her, At least she knows you found her out.

You can talk tongue in cheek

"Auntie, It seemed that prices doubled the day we went to the market" " Maybe they didnt like our face"

And if you are someone like me, Use small curse to escort am, like

" Well if those market women duped me or anyone that duped me they would use the money to pay hospital bills and tell her to say Amen"

OR a more subtle one:

Well God would make those that swindled "us" never stop cos they always be in need and need to swindle and God would always continue to bless us so that we can always have more than enough to give them. Auntie say Amen na!!!!"LOL

LOL.  nairaland has finished me today.  so many funny threads.

Well so sad that's life for you, I hope the lesson has been learnt. Don't trust people.

But if her sister bought simular stuff for her other siblings at cheaper prices surely the sister would of voiced out that she has previously bought the items cheaper

@ dayo
i beg no kill me wit LAUGH oo.After she finish d cursing make she tell her sister 2 say Amen, lol,a vry funny comment though
She might not really ve enough guts 2 come out straight to tell her sis she had found out about d trick. Dat's if she's some1 like me,i'll jst try 2 learn my lessons n move on. But if she can,let her tell her or better still send her a text mssge,informing her dat d prices dey bought d stuff 4 are on d high side (very high) and she senses a huge trick on her intelligence.den c wat her reply will be.shekina

Can everyone please stop saying hope you learned your lesson!

We should be able to trust people the world has gone mad!

If you can "forgive and forget", then do so and move on but if talking to her about it will bring you peace, then do so! Sorry you had to go through this!

i wanted to do like others and codemn sister but i remembered i'm also guilty of this.

was very badly broke and i needed money to solve some pressing needs. my elder bro was the only one i felt comfortable asking and so i did but "rounded up the figure". didn't want to say i need money for X, but a little change for Y. you know didn't want to appear as i was begging too much and couldn't handle my own business so i just inflated the price of X to cover Y. i knew he could afford to give me both but like i said i really really hate begging.

won't do so except i absolutely have to. i'm sorry.