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Re: Divorce: Read This Before You File For A Divorce by Hathor5(f): 5:23am On Jun 26, 2021 |
Mindlog: Insecurity has a way of clouding the logical sphere of the brain. Makes you wonder what went wrong. Where did this fear of not being manly enough stem from? How comes so many men confuse being strong with being an asshole? It takes much more strength and a whole lot of wisdom to be a powerful gentleman. That's the art. There is a sad increase of children and adolescents with attachment disorder and conduct disorders all due to dysfunctional homes. I know after completing my specialty in Clinical Child Psychology, my appointment book would be brimming with young ones who needs professional intervention. You will need to do a lot of damage control. My hopes lie with you and your colleagues. 2 Likes |
Re: Divorce: Read This Before You File For A Divorce by Hathor5(f): 5:24am On Jun 26, 2021 |
cococandy: I needed to bookmark this sentence. 2 Likes |
Re: Divorce: Read This Before You File For A Divorce by Mindlog: 5:45am On Jun 26, 2021 |
cococandy: It is their insecurities speaking, the fear of the possibility that a woman can have a better life outside the man she severed relationship with. I recall back in school, my Marriage and Family Therapy lecturer said most men fear second marriages except the ones gifted with the gene of being serial husbands because when a marriage collapses, women are usually blamed as being the cause, the man is hailed and convinced that there are women who are eager to be his wife and the need for him to be reflective over his role in his failed marriage is ignored. He goes into another marriage without changing things in himself that may have caused the earlier flop and begins to realize that it is also heading the way of the first but because he doesn't want the attention of the society to redirect at him and begin to have a rethink that the ex-wife wasn't really at fault but the man, he is now forced to swallow things he wouldn't have in his first marriage and some wives of the second marriage cash in on that but there are men whey no send, they are eager for their third marriage and the next....until they are no longer financially attractive to draw women into marriage. 7 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Divorce: Read This Before You File For A Divorce by pocohantas(f): 7:15am On Jun 26, 2021 |
For a gender that claims not to benefit from marriage, you guys spend way too much time pressurizing women to marry or remain in marriages. But we all know it is not because you care about women. 8 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Divorce: Read This Before You File For A Divorce by postmann: 8:03am On Jun 26, 2021 |
Mindlog: 50 years in biss is better than 80 years as a single divorced woman. |
Re: Divorce: Read This Before You File For A Divorce by Mindlog: 8:36am On Jun 26, 2021 |
postmann: What is your definition of "bliss" in your context? Where did you read it up or were you taught in school that being single or divorced is a mental disorder? Go read gerontology journals and also observe your environment more keenly without being beclouded, you will note that women retain family and social webs better than men. In old age, old women are less lonely than old men as you are more likely to see an old man living alone without family than seeing an old woman living so. 5 Likes |
Re: Divorce: Read This Before You File For A Divorce by crackhaus: 11:22am On Jun 26, 2021 |
I have a solution. Modern men should be humble enough to embrace the role of a househusband while their modern wives go work for the money. By the time they want to get divorced, he's the one who will gain half or more of Afterall, he deserves all of it and so much more for taking a back-seat and losing out on his own advancement just to support her ambitions. Sense will not kill me lai lai... 3 Likes |
Re: Divorce: Read This Before You File For A Divorce by Cuttycool(f): 11:42am On Jun 26, 2021 |
TRASH TRASH TRASH..... you sound like children do not grow, like she will forever be caring for infants. The child will grow and keep her company. Divorce is better than a sad marriage. Oga, even the divorced man might not be lucky to get a lady better than the wife he divorced, you mentioned a virgin, you are a joker, go find virgin let me see. You think decent virgin girls are looking for old divorced men? That's why you men die in your loneliness, because you abandon your kids to wife, the wife bears all the praises and pains, while you die in loneliness or get killed by side chick or still have a second failed marriage. 1 Like |
Re: Divorce: Read This Before You File For A Divorce by Cuttycool(f): 12:02pm On Jun 26, 2021 |
, you are totally correct, or a knot just unscrewed from his brain. He thinks he can guiltstrip and fool women, he thinks this is olden days? Who marriage epp? Is marriage life? Matcheeww. Saintmary: |
Re: Divorce: Read This Before You File For A Divorce by RightToReject(m): 12:22pm On Jun 26, 2021 |
The problem with the OP's posit and position, which makes his post repulsive, stems from the same place of ignorance, love for oppression and outright delight in evil like almost all of you cherish so much. OP, just like many men, has an erroneous understanding of what respect, submission, loyalty, etc means, just like almost all of you on the opposing side have an erroneous understanding of what a loving and understanding husband is. - To the OP, a respectful, submissive, loyal wife is a wife who condones witting and unwitting nonsense actions and inactions from her husband. - And to many of you on the opposing side, a loving and understanding husband - a real man - is a husband who condones your witting and unwitting nonsense actions and inactions. Hypocritically disingenuous and unscrupulous lots. A healthy marriage is only possible where altruism in particular and scrupulousness, which must be met in words and actions by both parties, are the bond that holds the spouses together. And in the absence of them, divorce or separation is better than togetherness in such union, except where one or both parties involved are insane and derive pleasure in abuses. |
Re: Divorce: Read This Before You File For A Divorce by cococandy(f): 12:45pm On Jun 26, 2021 |
Your lecturer really hit the nail on the head . Mindlog: |
Re: Divorce: Read This Before You File For A Divorce by cococandy(f): 12:48pm On Jun 26, 2021 |
pocohantas: Every. Passing. Minute. |
Re: Divorce: Read This Before You File For A Divorce by kabaarikabaari: 3:34pm On Jun 26, 2021 |
marriage is not a do or die affair. nothing last for ever except d word of God. not all marriage last because not all men are husband material. it is perfectly said that wat a man can do, a woman can do more better.. 2 Likes |
Re: Divorce: Read This Before You File For A Divorce by ImaIma1(f): 9:46pm On Jun 26, 2021 |
Mindlog: You hit the nail of the head. Men just try to use manipulative narratives to keep women enslaved in marriages that they should walk away from. We keep hearing that women age faster than men, yet women still keep aging and outlive the men. Their insecurity and need to be in control is so evident in these kind of writeups they come up with. The crazy thing is that many of these guys that have alot to say about marriage/divorce issues are single. 1 Like |
Re: Divorce: Read This Before You File For A Divorce by bukatyne(f): 6:38pm On Jun 28, 2021 |
socialmediaman: What does this have to do with the OP? |
Re: Divorce: Read This Before You File For A Divorce by socialmediaman: 9:14pm On Jun 28, 2021 |
bukatyne: It was directed at your comment, not the OP |
Re: Divorce: Read This Before You File For A Divorce by descarado: 9:19pm On Jun 28, 2021 |
Didn't bother reading after number 2 reason why you shouldn't divorce. Ladies, over to una Make I go look for better drama watch |
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