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falcon01:
Sometimes I wish I can post voice note in Nairaland

pls am in tears. I need some one to talk to me. Am i the only person that sees it as wrong? I love her with my life. But this is just too much for me to take

Cover your face in shame op, for good 7 years, you have been fvcking someone child without any plan to marry her, thunder wey go fire you still dey sambisa forest dey prepare. Dat girl na idiot. U be real time waster. Mumu

Yo Hommie.
7 years? Buhari go come and go, and still rear cow for the remaining 3 years, and you're still fucking and unfucking person's pikin? And now u wan break up on top say e no inform u for the abortion plan? Damn!

If u dnt have anything to say, stop showing ur ignorance here pls. We started dating when in college, when we graduated she decided she is fuderring her education b4 marriage. She got admitted in university and now she is in her 400level. So, 3years in college plus over 4 years in the university due to luck down makes it over 7years.

akinreals:
Cover your face in shame op, for good 7 years, you have been fvcking someone child without any plan to marry her, thunder wey go fire you still dey sambisa forest dey prepare. Dat girl na idiot. U be real time waster. Mumu

If u dnt have anything to say, stop showing ur ignorance here pls. We started dating when in college, when we graduated she decided she is fuderring her education b4 marriage. She got admitted in university and now she is in her 400level. So, 3years in college plus over 4 years in the university due to luck down makes it over 7years.

Frelex:
Good day nairalanders. Pls i have been dating my girlfriend for 7 years now. We had never made mistake of getting pregnant. But last month she said she dnt see her period and i told to be patient and she would see it.

On saturday she told me she was going for test and i agreed. Only for her to call me letter in the evening that the test was positive she was pregnant and she bought abortion pillz and aborted.

Nairalanders am really hurt and pained. Was she not soppose to seek my concent? Does she have right to abort without letting me know?

Am breaking up the relationship, but 1st, i need u guys advise and opinion.

Can u continue a relationship when ur gurl frnd abort without asking u 1st?

PLS IMPREGNATE HER AGAIN. LET'S SEE IF SHE WILL ABORT IT.

Frelex:
pls am in tears. I need some one to talk to me. Am i the only person that sees it as wrong? I love her with my life. But this is just too much for me to take

u are in tears for what?

I'm confused.

Sad

fati2001:


u are in tears for what?

I'm confused.

that am loosing the relationship i so much cherrish

This is not something to support or celebrate. She went behind your back and your child is now dead because of her unilateral decision. She may have the legal right to do that without your consent, but the moral right? No. That os very wrong of her.

Lasticlala amd seun am i wrong?

If it is a big deal to you that she made a decision like this without telling you then it seems you two have value systems that are different enough that a long-term relationship between you may not work. So probably the best thing to do is wrap it up now and find someone whose values more closely align with your own.

Nobody here will empathize with you. Did you asked her the reason for such decision?
I do not think leaving her is the solution cus you never know the status(maybe she had many abortions already) of the next one you gonna meet. Talk to her on her decision and find out the hidden things you never know.

Dissap:
Yo Hommies
7 years? Buhari go come and go and still rear cow for the remaining 3 years, and you're still fucking and unfucking person's pikin? And now u wan break up on top say e no inform u for the abortion plan? Damn!

My nigga. For the first time you're making a sane comment here
You deserve this and more my OG

There is a belief that once the sex is done, what happens after that is up to the woman. After all, if she decides to have the baby that is 9 months of work on her body, and then 18 years of work with a child. Certainly the male can play a huge role in it, but If she doesn’t fully trust you, then you are just a question mark to her in this whole equation. And for her, it may be easier to assume you simply will not be there. So if she looks at it that way, her decision was based on that she doesn’t want to raise a child alone right now, or doesn’t want a child at all.

Basically you have to see it from her perspective. it’s probably hard to see it from her perspective because you are used to seeing it from yours. You know how trustworthy you are (or at least we all believe we are trustworthy). But if she’s only known you for a 7years, it’s hard for someone to have that much trust that the other person is sticking around for the next 20 years.

as for why she acted like it’s no big deal, consider that it may be very hard for her to cope with guilt, or the external pressures that are placed on her. Right now it might be easier to pretend that nothing happened. Over time, she will be able to process those feelings when she believes that its safe for her to do so. Let her feel supported by you. Be kind to her, and let her know That you are there if she needs to talk to someone. You will do your best to accept her decision, and help her in any way. Either that, or maybe she really doesn’t care. That is certainly a possibility.

if you are still stuck on the idea that you should have been included on this decision, try to understand that there will be some things in relationships that are outside of your control. The woman will not always want your input. For example, if she makes a big career move, she may just not care what you think. Or if she buys a new car, she may not ask you because it’s her money. She may view it the same way with kids—-she doesn’t want them because it’s her body. Try to process this reality and ask yourself at what point are you over-controlling and/or selfish.

7yrs of dating?? U have bin awarded wit a Bachelor of medicine.Congrats Dr

adexpa:
Nobody here will empathize with you. Did you asked her the reason for such decision?
I do not think leaving her is the solution cus you never know the status(maybe she had many abortions already) of the next one you gonna meet. Talk to her on her decision and find out the hidden things you never know.

Hmm!! Confused

she simply don't want to be a baby mama. so if u want a child from her or u luv her as u claim, den what stops u from marrying her?

Dear op, its like u want to use d pregnancy to tie dis innocent girl down..
Honestly she doesn't see any future with u..dats y she can neva birth ur child...
Or maybe ure nt her level ... Just go nd get another gf already.... Nd stop wasting ur time

Damn Niggar!!!!!
Be grateful that she saved you from raising another mans child

Break up with her. This is a huge red flag. An abortion is a big deal that she should talk to you about even if she won't keep the foetus. The way she had the abortion decision swiftly reeks of experience. She isn't a newbie to that life. Make your decision wisely.

Frelex:
pls am in tears. I need some one to talk to me. Am i the only person that sees it as wrong? I love her with my life. But this is just too much for me to take

shes not ready for pregnancy if you actually love just talk to her. Couples have misunderstanding and this doesn't mean it's the end except of she has other motive maybe she's been unfaithful and is scared it might not be yours so decided to deal with it, who knows?? Cause these hoes ain't loyal.

The pregnancy isn’t yours or she has no plans of marrying you. You get money or you don hammer?

Frelex:
that am loosing the relationship i so much cherrish

You are actually a very very stupid fellow! So she can't get pregnant again ryt? Pls get fvck off, she deserves better

ednut1:
The pregnancy isn’t yours or she has no plans of marrying you. You get money or you don hammer?

See I've experienced something like this and d person acted like the op, mine was even a mistake but looking back now I thank God all that happened.

Frelex:
Good day nairalanders. Pls i have been dating my girlfriend for 7 years now. We had never made mistake of getting pregnant. But last month she said she dnt see her period and i told to be patient and she would see it.

On saturday she told me she was going for test and i agreed. Only for her to call me letter in the evening that the test was positive she was pregnant and she bought abortion pillz and aborted.

Nairalanders am really hurt and pained. Was she not soppose to seek my concent? Does she have right to abort without letting me know?

Am breaking up the relationship, but 1st, i need u guys advise and opinion.

Can u continue a relationship when ur gurl frnd abort without asking u 1st?

For God sake, what type of dating takes 7 year's. What is that?

If your story is not made up. Then it seems there are certain things you've not settled or show signs of settling, hence her decision.

akinreals:
Cover your face in shame op, for good 7 years, you have been fvcking someone child without any plan to marry her, thunder wey go fire you still dey sambisa forest dey prepare. Dat girl na idiot. U be real time waster. Mumu

gerrout abeg.. u werent forced to comment.. ofopu

Richardjemedafe:
This is not something to support or celebrate. She went behind your back and your child is now dead because of her unilateral decision. She may have the legal right to do that without your consent, but the moral right? No. That os very wrong of her.

Lasticlala amd seun am i wrong?

no jawe

Opemiposii:
gerrout abeg.. u werent forced to comment.. ofopu

Would you like it if a man dates you for seven years? Let's say he was 22 and she 20, it means both are 29 & 27 respectively. As a woman, does it make sense to you?