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|This Bad Attitude Of Women by Lostchild(m): 11:05pm On Jul 07|
Last month I acknowledge the neglect of an elderly mama that got me so worried that I thought about sharing this my opinion on nairaland why women are so self-centered and some husband are even giving in to their wife selfishness. I say this because I have seen this selfish act repeat itself many times, again and again and I feel I compel to spit this out of my heavy heart toward this bad attitude of women.
1. During 2014/2015 I saw a business manager who's mother previously suffers health issues and the woman has to be in wheel chair suffering in pains. Her son who is a top manager had to take his suffering mother to live with him and his wife because the woman need help outside her self. The wife of this man told her husband that she cannot be in the same house with her mother inlaw. She told her husband that it is either the man get rid of his mother or she will leave the marriage. She gave the man an option, it is either the hubby choose between his mother or she, herself. This man became very confuse because he love his wife at the same times he dearly love his belove mother who was in a wheel chair suffering. This manager became frustrated and started seeking God intervention to save his mother and marriage
2. I know of a white man from California who lost his birth mother when he was a toddler. His barren pathernal aunty became the one that raised him to adult-hood and sent him to the university. This man did not know any other mother apart from his aunt who gave him life. At age 70 plus the woman began to suffers stroke and needed help from her son as she was not able to live alone because of her body paralises. The man took his mom to live with him and that was the beginings of his marital woes. The wife of this white man, said she cannot stand her mother inlaw to live with them. Things escalated to the point where they ended up in court and finally got divorced. The mother lived with her son for another four years before she passed away. According to the man, she call his ex wife "a devil" and was happy that he finally choose his lovely mother over his selfish ex wife.
3. I know of a woman who lost her sight (blindness) of which she cannot live without the help of her children. The problem is that all her children are married adult with their own family. The strangiest thing is that, this woman has sons but none of their wives is willing to make such sacrifice to help their mother inlaw. A blind woman without the help of her children, she will not survive. The good thing is that it was one of her son in law was the one that accept his mother inlaw to live with them. He embrace this woman like his own mother and cared for her like his own mother.
4. Due to health problems, my own mother lived with my sister and her husband but she cannot near the wives of my brother's. The husband of all my sisters, they embrace my mother like their own, they cared for her greatly but my own mother could not receive any sympathy from my sisters inlaw. There is more to my mother story, but I will just stop here.
From what my late mother experienced, I have taken a vow never to allow any of my brother's wife or any sister in laws into my circle.
Imagine you as a husband, your wife will claim that she love you but yet she cannot extend little of that love to your family members
She cannot embrace your family because it is just about she and her own family. She will want you to embrace her own family and she will see yours as pain in her ass. She will feel threaten when her husband sent money or show love and care to his own family and not hers.
That which women claim they feel for their hubby is nothing but self
This may be my last thread in bashing women as I just have to voice out and express my disdain over this evil character of women. I always see that women live for today and not for tommorow, they forget that they will grow old someday and need help in their old age.
REMEMBER: Do unto others, what you want others to do unto you:
All of you nairaland women that wanted to eat me raw because of this post, the reason I didn't respond to your selfish quote is because I can see that all of you are still selfish young mothers. You are still too young and selfish to understand that the love between your husband and his mother is unconditional. Tomorow you will abandone your husband, but you can never abandone your own children. In the same way, our mothers can never abandoned us.
Imagine if you are my wife, your mother has health issues, I am sure you will bring her to come and live with you in my house right?
If I am the only child of my mother, and my mom has health issues, I can not bring her to come and live with me in my compoud / house right?
Nigeria Women; Una too bad
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|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by Lostchild(m): 11:09pm On Jul 07|
I may sound like a narcissist, I may sound like fault-finder, I may sound like a women hater, I may seem like a person who enjoy creating thread just to abuse or attack women. No, I am a humanitarian, a person who has handle people with care all his life.
I just have a short time on nairaland and I need to share my views and opinion about personal life and experienced.
I am a lover of humanity, I so much hate selfishness and injustice. I see suffering as crime against humanity, I value (women with children, elderlys, handicap in all difficult situation
I have seen that women naturaly have many characters that I hate, that is why I have to write, remind them about their bad attitude for the last time
Last week I was doing research trying to get some sensitive info and I came across a thread that says "What Men Don't Know About Women" One of the writers revealed that, they as women do not like their mother inlaw, I was shocked
What is that? a sickness in women?
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by Hathor5(f): 11:10pm On Jul 07|
You are really an attention seeker, aren't you?
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by vickydankal(f): 11:10pm On Jul 07|
You really need help because you continue this way there's going to be problems somewhere.
Either you change environment, friends or your mindset. You are seeing the wrong or worst kind of things in women.
Yes women are selfish but not that percentage you gave.
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by mariahAngel: 11:13pm On Jul 07|
Dude seriously! What's with you and your obsession with women?
If you continue like this, people will stop taking you seriously. I assure you. (I've stopped for a long time now)
Know what the issue(s) is/are and address it/them once and for all.
I understand that you're odd (which isn't a bad thing), but you need to get a hold of yourself.
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by brownemmanuel43(m): 11:30pm On Jul 07|
Op is 101% right.
Man piking dun see many many things for this life.
The selfishness of women is just beyond humanity. A woman will put on that angelic attitude when she enters she will start bringing out Delilah and Jezebel attitude.
They always happy for their friend to come around but never happy to see the husband's people around.
Well I don't blame them, I only blame some idiotic SIMPs that gives them the hand
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|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by bukatyne(f): 11:33pm On Jul 07|
I was thinking of a more general discussion when I saw the topic.
To the OP:
While the women in your OP are not hospitable, unaccommodating, unkind and some other adjectives;
It is naive to think the husbands as more 'caring'. If I asked you what the son-in-laws did for their MILs, it would most likely surround provisions of money and comfort.
If those MILs (especially as they need extra care) were coming with helps, the wives MIGHT be more open to accommodating them.
These things require serious discussions and planning not 'my mother is coming' and 'no she cannot come' statements.
The wife is expected to be the primary care giver. What is her current schedule? For the MILs that need extra care, who will provide that? If it would be outsourced, can they afford it? Do the MILs need special, separate meals? Does the house need to be re-arranged? Special eating schedule? Special medical attention? Etc. Etc.
I am curious why the mothers don't choose their daughters' (if they have) houses as the first choice. Less friction for both parties & easier to manage.
A woman embracing her in-laws is different from a husband doing so.
Also the context of relationship is different.
That is not to say all parties shouldn't be respectable, respect boundaries and be 'good' in-laws all round.
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by TarOrfeeek: 11:34pm On Jul 07|
They think having a Toto makes the world revolve around them.
They see their fellow women as competition and do everything possible to amass resources.
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|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by chatinent: 12:13am On Jul 08|
Ọ bụ n'ọnụ ndị okenye ka ị ga-amata ụda oji...but this assertion is biased.
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by ImaIma1(f): 12:23am On Jul 08|
Op you will be alright.
You need to open more threads and keep
bashing so that you can be fine. Since this is what makes you sleep well at night.
I can even give you a topic for tomorrow...Nigerian women are evil...
As you sleep, you can dream about more women-bashing threads for tomorrow. Good luck
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by SportsHD: 1:52am On Jul 08|
So, somebody took time to write this epistle?
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by MALIGNANTGuest: 2:28am On Jul 08|
brownemmanuel43:That's a woman for you.
I never compromise when it comes to taking decisions involving them.
When I wanted to marry I set my standards high, since I knew most will gravitate towards me becos of money. In my Family we don't marry LEECHES.
It's only a woman that can successfully separate spiritually conjoined Male Twins.
As Men, rather than losing out entirely, you must bring home a hardworking lady with an evidence of common sense, else no marriage.
Since we adopted it, ALL MEN in the Family are doing great independently despite their anticipated insults and denigrations.
Like my DAD will always say, that it's better to be insulted by a gainfully employed lady than a jobless one for all will do the same at their appointed times.
For the MOTHERS, don't rejoice yet, becos your son is not your son until he's married. Becos after marriage, u may not visit ur son again.
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by frozen70(f): 4:43am On Jul 08|
Funny you, lol
This one is not married yet, he is already against women
Him case go double in future
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by frozen70(f): 4:47am On Jul 08|
Op, your moniker says lostchild
You need to find your mum, probably she didn't tell you more good things about women
But since you are lost, you can't find good things in women
Keep bashing women and make sure you don't marry any woman because of the hatred in their attitude,. You will still experience more negative things from women
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|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by socialmediaman: 4:57am On Jul 08|
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by Dailyparrot: 5:25am On Jul 08|
All I see in this thread are words of lamentation.
Not from the OP but from the alleged women
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by Khonifer: 5:30am On Jul 08|
Don’t mind the wicked women! Op marry a man and live a healthy and peaceful life hear?
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by greenie77: 6:03am On Jul 08|
I support you, he should focus on men and it would be easier to meet one of them who will tick his boxes.
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by ImaIma1(f): 7:46am On Jul 08|
He's obviously still a kid either by age or in his head. No man (I don't mean boy) can be opening such useless and senseless threads
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by frozen70(f): 11:16am On Jul 08|
He is creating future problems for himself
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by Kaybae(f): 12:15pm On Jul 08|
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by Citygal: 2:50pm On Jul 08|
I’m just reasoning this thing....
What if this is karma to these old mother in laws?
What if this is how they also treated their mother in laws when they were young and newly married and they are reaping it now?
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by poshestmina(f): 5:54pm On Jul 08|
Why would I go through so much stress when the woman has daughters that can look after her?
Except we are rotating her round everyone in the country .
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by CHoccolaTE: 7:58pm On Jul 08|
Op just concocted list of lies in his post. All those stories are figment of his imagination.
I pity anyone that believes that fabu writeup.
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by mariahAngel: 10:05pm On Jul 08|
What if she has no daughters and an only son?
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by Saintmary(f): 10:24am On Jul 09|
A lot of women worship their sons and mistreat their daughters, not knowing that the sons will be hampered by their wives when they will need someone to care for them in their old age.
If you're a woman reading this, take good care of your daughters, so that they will be kind to you in your old age.
My two cents.
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by Lostchild(m): 11:29am On Jul 09|
I have already name my next topic as "
"How I Date A Mermaid Girl ( My Story)
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by Lostchild(m): 11:44am On Jul 09|
My past problems will not repeat itself in my future.
My future is well plan
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by Lostchild(m): 11:46am On Jul 09|
God will place me in a situation where I will not be at the mercy of any human.
I will not even be @ the mercy of my children
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by Lostchild(m): 11:47am On Jul 09|
You just prophesy into my future.
I will have no daughters but only sons
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by Lostchild(m): 11:48am On Jul 09|
My words hit all the women above like a heavy stone
|Re: This Bad Attitude Of Women by greenie77: 12:52pm On Jul 09|
No, rather it is your unresolved fixation with women that is the heavy stone you are carrying and you would do well seeking professional help.....Nairaland is not a therapy room.
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