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What Would You Have Me Do? by Brightw278: 9:47pm On Jul 09, 2021
I'm in a very confused state right now. I met this girl a couple of months ago at freinds wedding and I never thought it would get down to this

I'm a young gradute in my late twenties just getting myself together. I can afford basic needs and I earn a decent salary.

This girl I just met is way above my class she is also older in her early 30s we both love each other and she is perfect in her own ways. The problem is she wants to settle down as soon as possible, but the problem is I have a lot of plans and a whole lot of things I want to do.

I want to go pursue my masters degree program very soon. Infact I have been given admission just waiting for resumption. And I don't see my self settling down anytime soon. I still have a lot of things I would want to accomplish before settling down.

I don't want the contribution to be one sided. I want to contribute as possible as I can but she seem to be in a hurry. She said she has enough to take care of us. But this is not how I planned my life. Although I earn enough to support a family but I don't think I'm ready. I don't want to hurt her feelings and I don't want to lose a good woman as well. What should I do

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Re: What Would You Have Me Do? by slawormiir: 9:49pm On Jul 09, 2021
Damnnn niggar

A niggar is confused...
This is to say you are 25 year old and the baby girl is 30

It is going to end in premium tears son...
Although matured ladies are sweet

But the desperate ones are full of deceit...they will hide all their bad characters....
After the marriage before you realize what you have put your hand into

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Re: What Would You Have Me Do? by lilvicky68(m): 9:53pm On Jul 09, 2021
Age difference is making you confused..I think you're not ready to settle with an older lady..

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Re: What Would You Have Me Do? by SmellySperm(m): 9:54pm On Jul 09, 2021
I think she's only being kind coz she's approaching ENP hence the desperation.

You're still in your prime, build up yourself first. You'll still find a good woman at the appropriate time

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Re: What Would You Have Me Do? by Brightw278: 9:54pm On Jul 09, 2021
lilvicky68:
Age difference is making you confused..I think you're not ready to settle with an older lady..
I'm not concerned about the age, financially too she has an edge, but she is more concerned because she thinks age is not on her side
Re: What Would You Have Me Do? by lilvicky68(m): 9:56pm On Jul 09, 2021
Brightw278:
I'm not concerned about the age, financially too she has an edge, but she is more concerned because she thinks age is not on her side
That's she's desperate to get married..try to talk to her calmly and end things up..
Re: What Would You Have Me Do? by lilvicky68(m): 9:57pm On Jul 09, 2021
SmellySperm:
I think she's only being kind coz she's approaching ENP hence the desperation.

You're still in your prime, build up yourself first. You'll still find a good woman at the appropriate time
True talk bro..make him pass am over to a matured guy..em222 can takeover from the OP..
Re: What Would You Have Me Do? by SmellySperm(m): 9:59pm On Jul 09, 2021
lilvicky68:

True talk bro..make him pass am over to a matured guy..em222
Yeah bro... She should take her love to a matured guy who's ready and allow op to concentrate

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Re: What Would You Have Me Do? by lilvicky68(m): 10:01pm On Jul 09, 2021
SmellySperm:

Yeah bro... She should take her love to a matured guy who's ready and allow op to concentrate
ENPs can be dangerous oh.. you never can tell what she's packaging to unleash on him..
Re: What Would You Have Me Do? by Cholls(m): 10:01pm On Jul 09, 2021
My brother you have no choice than to hurt her feelings ooo. Or you want to kill yourself by going into marriage where you're physically, mentally and emotionally not ready

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Re: What Would You Have Me Do? by SmellySperm(m): 10:04pm On Jul 09, 2021
lilvicky68:

ENPs can be dangerous oh.. you never can tell what she's packaging to unleash on him..
Make i sha no talk my experience. ENPs will act all nice,once u wife them,they unleash their true colors. He shouldn't go that route
Re: What Would You Have Me Do? by lilvicky68(m): 10:06pm On Jul 09, 2021
SmellySperm:

Make i sha no talk my experience. ENPs will act all nice,once u wife them,they unleash their true colors. He shouldn't go that route
Make person no see fire still carry him hand put inside..ENPs are ready to give you kpekus 3 times a day ,food, money and artificial peace of mind..but the day them go turn around for you.. you go surprise..
Re: What Would You Have Me Do? by pansophist(m): 10:43pm On Jul 09, 2021
She is desperate, she needs to lock a man down quickly, and time is not on her side. Leave her, there is just no way around it. Usually, you should be marrying a woman you're older than, not your age mate, or one even older than you with at least five years. The fact you brought this online shows you don't want it, so don't force it. Usually, If you see a girl you want to marry, you'll be so excited that you'll just want to marry her quickly. If you're doubting then it's probably not her.

Also, her desperation is proof that you need to know that her love is not wholesome. It's a utility love, like loving a job because it pays you well, she loves you because she wants to use you to achieve the Mrs status, regardless if you want it now or not. That's selfishness, not love. When you'll be 45, looking fresh and gallant, she would be 50 and way older. You'll have to be truly soaked in the word of God not to cheat.

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Re: What Would You Have Me Do? by AfroKnight: 10:59pm On Jul 09, 2021
Sorry to say this, but you have to break up.

Clearly, your goals do not align with hers. Tell her your plans. You must be ready to let her go cos if you take your time and later decide not to marry her, she will nakèd herself and swear for you. grin

To avoid that, just tell her what you intend to do for now. If she says she can wait, hmmm, don’t believe her. Cos the truth is she can’t wait.

You have to let her go.

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Re: What Would You Have Me Do? by BlueAir: 10:59pm On Jul 09, 2021
undecided guy I've been in ur shoe and you've always got to learn to keep your woman under your control. The older one I dated and was doing gra gra for marriage succumbed to my words. I damn told her marriage guarantees her nothing unless shes willing to get married today and divorce next week. Hence she should stop carrying marriage on head to me. She carefully considered that and never spoke to me of marriage.and believe u me,she was totally under my thumb because I made it clear to her even without marriage,she can still grow. Save urself headaches and give her ur terms and conditions. If she accepts, u two continue,if she doesn't,you tell her you two have to go seperate ways. Or are u afraid big momma will flog you for giving her unfavorable conditions? undecided

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Re: What Would You Have Me Do? by chatinent: 11:28pm On Jul 09, 2021
You are still asking what to do..instead of asking where to run to.

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Re: What Would You Have Me Do? by Opemiposii(f): 6:01am On Jul 10, 2021
'lord of host' hmmm

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