Love is a beautiful thing and it becomes perfect when you are in love with the right person, but often times most people in love have ended up being emotionally traumatized and manipulated by their partner. This is because they literally ignored the negative signs that was glaring in the relationship.



Don't be a victim, when you notice the below signs in your relationship then it's time to let go.

1) Positive Reinforcement: When your partner is fond of using money, gift to ease his way out of the maltreatment he meted on you. It's a sign of manipulation. This person doesn't intend to stop the maltreatment, he knows that once he gets you your favourite gift, he can be easily forgiven, so the cycle of maltreatment continues.


2) Negative Reinforcement : This is a situation where your partner tries to cajole you into doing something by providing two negative options. In this case, you have no choice but to choose one.

For instance, he tells you that, if you don't give him some amount of money within a week, he would be jailed. He knows you don't want him to go to jail, so he tries to lure you to go extra mile to fulfill his selfish desire of taking money from you.


3) Intermittent Reinforcement : This happens when your partner acts weird towards you. Sometimes he is all cool and caring to you, the next minute he acts cold and doesn't want to speak to you.

He does this on purpose, so that you can crave for his attention. He switches his mood, and becomes unpredictable because he wants you as a puppet, so that he can easily manipulate you.


4) Punishment : Your partner manipulates you through threats, yelling, silent treatment, intimidation, nagging, emotional blackmail.


5) Denial : Your partner never admits that he has done something wrong, even when you catch him he lies about it. He always likes attributing his mistakes as someone's else fault.


6) Guilt Trips : A manipulative partner can never be satisfied. He uses guilt as his weapon. He is always looking for ways to make you feel guilty. Even if he picks up a fight with you, and you respond, he ends up making you feel guilty. He is so perfect in his game.


The moment you notice the above signs, you are in a manipulative relationship. A manipulator derives joy when hurting his partner. Don't be a victim.

When you're doubting your own reality.
If the relationship is very emotionally intense.
When you fear abandonment.
You have a gut feeling that something's wrong.
When you feel insecure.
When they want you to depend on them and only them.
When they keep comparing you to others.