Now, this is not a gender thing; how does it feel to show up at your host's house empty-handed and leave without even giving some compliments. No one is expecting you to show up with gifts every time you visit your friends but it doesn't hurt if you do at least once.

Personally, I don't feel comfortable going to a friend's house, most especially for the first time, and show up empty-handed. Even if it's something little, I'd take along or buy on the way. I once had a friend(not a close friend, trying to know each other better) visit me. I had to go out of my way to prepare a nice meal and got drinks so I could host properly in my little way. My visitor showed up, ate, and left without even complimenting my cooking of which I'm sure was nice...chai. That was the painful part.

I was surprised because I would never do that if I'm being hosted. I'm not saying a gift is always necessary, but at least give your host a nice compliment that would bring a smile to his/her face?
What are your thoughts guys?

This is why we have hotels.
I no dey go person house
Them no dey come my house
If you miss me and we want see make we dey one hotel drink we'll catch fun make everybody dey go their house.
I cherish my privacy
In this part of the world o

But in situations wey be say na compulsory dinner or meeting it's advisable to hold something edible or drinkable. In a place I used to live when invited na different food you go see for table. From different families. We go chop am gossip go house. But here I no know.

Simple. Reduce your people-expectations and experience true peace.

BigMediaNG:
Simple. Reduce your people-expectations and experience true peace.

I agree. I just feel it's normal etiquette.

I don't expect but, if you bring, it's okay.
And, if I'm okay financially, I'll buy a little gift when I'm visiting. Or if it's my boys, I'll bring that big 'ol bag of weed.
The goat of gifts.

RealMarv:

I agree. I just feel it's normal etiquette.

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You'll be shocked how low humanistic morality has dropped. I've stopped expecting and see people as plain fools. To the ones I've housed and fed,I've seen so much to believe too many people aren't normal. It tilts towards around say 90%


Just do your part and leave people with their pettiness alone

BigMediaNG:
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You'll be shocked how low humanistic morality has dropped. I've stopped expecting and see people as plain fools. To the ones I've housed and fed,I've seen so much to believe everyone else asides me in the world is sane


Just do your part and leave people with their pettiness alone

All I see here is self-righteousness. How dare you call people fools because they don't meet your own behavioural standards? Having flaws is one of the things that make us humans.

Perfection is a never-ending process. Don't judge people based on your standards, it is a sign of pride and you [of all self-righteous people] should know what comes after that.

Humanoid01:

All I see here is self-righteousness. Having flaws is what makes us humans. Perfection is a never-ending process. Don't judge people based on your standards, it is a sign of pride and you [of all self-righteous people] should know what comes after that.

Here they come. Funny generation that never exhausts itself of psychological nuances

First of all, in the past 25 years of my life,I've not gone to peoples houses to eat. In occasions I eat in a group, I donate the lion share, however small or large. Its about aporeciate people, not playing coy to give credence to filthy habits


Your reserve psychological sling stone can and will never bruise my ego. Never

RealMarv:
Now, this is not a gender thing; how does it feel to show up at your host's house empty-handed and leave without even giving some compliments. No one is expecting you to show up with gifts every time you visit your friends but it doesn't hurt if you do at least once.

Personally, I don't feel comfortable going to a friend's house, most especially for the first time, and show up empty-handed. Even if it's something little, I'd take along or buy on the way. I once had a friend(not a close friend, trying to know each other better) visit me. I had to go out of my way to prepare a nice meal and got drinks so I could host properly in my little way. My visitor showed up, ate, and left without even complimenting my cooking of which I'm sure was nice...chai. That was the painful part.

I was surprised because I would never do that if I'm being hosted. I'm not saying a gift is always necessary, but at least give your host a nice compliment that would bring a smile to his/her face?
What are your thoughts guys?

What compliment are u angry abt? Is it 4 the taste of ur food or for eating ur food?

BigMediaNG:



Here they come. Funny generation that never exhausts itself of psychological nuances

First of all, in the past 25 years of my life,I've not gone to peoples houses to eat. In occasions I eat in a group, I donate the lion share, however small or large. Its about aporeciate people, not playing coy to give credence to filthy habits


Your reserve psychological sling stone can and will never bruise my ego. Never

So because you have been in situations where you had to be selfless, you see others who are different as fools and you think you're better than them?

This very feature you just exhibited makes you even worse than those you belittle. You are proud because you think you are selfless. That in itself actually makes you selfish, and it defeats the personality that you're trying so hard to depict.

Humanoid01:

So because you have been in situations where you had to be selfless, you see others who are different as fools and you think you're better than them?

This very feature you just exhibited makes you even worse than those you belittle. You are proud because you think you're selfless. That in itself actually makes you selfish, and it defeats the personality that you're trying so hard to depict.

The judge and the interpreter. The one who assumes my imagination, my perspective and judges it.


Continue to wallow in your nonsense. I'm busy

BigMediaNG:




The judge and the interpreter. The one who assumes my imagination, my perspective and judges it.


Continue to wallow in your nonsense. I'm busy

Dey there dey deceive yourself.

Addition: If you show up empty -handed, you're not permitted to leave your host empty-handed unless you don't have.