There is this my neighbor that am really close to. We are very fond of each other before he got married two years ago. So after the marriage, I decided to give him some space though we are still close.

Sometimes last month, I visited him, it happens that they were having am argument with the wife some moment before I entered. But wetin concern me. I did what I came for and left. So as he was escorting me out, he now told me the cause of the quarrel.

According to what he said, that the wife was complaining that he is not sending enough money to her jnr sister who is in sch. And that the sister is always complaining of been broke.
The man was like he doesn't have much money these days as he too have junior ones that he is sponsoring in school.

I didn't have much to say to him, I only told him to explain to the wife about his financial situation.

This have got me thinking. Is the man supposed to carry the burn of his wife sister. Like is he obligated to so as a responsibility.

I do not knw much abt the wife family, but I knw that the man has 3 junior once who are in sch. Two of which are in a state university.

I really want to know, is it an obligation for the man to carry some of the burden of the wife family or he can only give when he have and wants to.

There are only four responsibilities
1. Marry their daughter and take good care of her
2. Contribute advice and money as led by the spirit of God when issues arrive
3. Turn up for events like burial, wedding and child naming
4. Bring their daughter home to see her family or visit them from time to time

This is the mistake alot of men make when going into marriage.
Once bride price is paid for the wife, the Husband has no responsibility to the wife's Family.its as simple as that.

Before a man takes the bold decision of marriage, he should have a thorough discussion with the wife and the should both agree to set serious boundaries that involves the Wife's Family and the Husband's Family.

Like I said earlier, No Husband owes a Wife's Family as long as her complete bride price is paid, anything the man wants to give after the stage of "bride price" should be of his own free will.

BirtherOfKings:
There are only four responsibilities
1. Marry their daughter and take good care of her
2. Contribute advice and money as led by the spirit of God when issues arrive
3. Turn up for events like burial, wedding and child naming
4. Bring their daughter home to see her family or visit them from time to time

Exactly

DaddyRochie1642:
This is the mistake alot of men make when going into marriage.
Once bride price is paid for the wife, the Husband has no responsibility to the wife's Family.its as simple as that.

Before a man takes the bold decision of marriage, he should have a thorough discussion with the wife and the should both agree to set serious boundaries that involves the Wife's Family and the Husband's Family.

Like I said earlier, No Husband owes a Wife's Family as long as her complete bride price is paid, anything the man wants to give after the stage of "bride price" should be of his own free will.

Stingy man

Make them comfortable

On a more serious note. Hes not under any obligation to sponsor the wife's younger sister or any member of her family for that matter. However, he can come in of his own volition to assist where and when he feels like helping them. And that is If he has. It's not compulsory he must do it.

A man should be as much responsible to his wife’s family as the wife is to her husband’s, with both putting themselves first.

Bearing the burden of three families alone (yours, your parents, and your wife’s) is not a walk in the park.

Omoh this marriage wahala carry gele o... Abeg women should be helping us in marriage stuff... it's not a one-way traffic

No responsibility. Anything a man does for his in-law is out of goodwill

From the comment so far I can see that it's not a man's responsibility to cater for his wife's family. Anything he does for them should be out of his own volition.

Fully understood.

Rich4god:
There is this my neighbor that am really close to. We are very fond of each other before he got married two years ago. So after the marriage, I decided to give him some space though we are still close.

Sometimes last month, I visited him, it happens that they were having am argument with the wife some moment before I entered. But wetin concern me. I did what I came for and left. So as he was escorting me out, he now told me the cause of the quarrel.

According to what he said, that the wife was complaining that he is not sending enough money to her jnr sister who is in sch. And that the sister is always complaining of been broke.
The man was like he doesn't have much money these days as he too have junior ones that he is sponsoring in school.

I didn't have much to say to him, I only told him to explain to the wife about his financial situation.

This have got me thinking. Is the man supposed to carry the burn of his wife sister. Like is he obligated to so as a responsibility.

I do not knw much abt the wife family, but I knw that the man has 3 junior once who are in sch. Two of which are in a state university.

I really want to know, is it an obligation for the man to carry some of the burden of the wife family or he can only give when he have and wants to.

He owes his wife family nothing, so far he can take care of his own family, whatever he feels like to give to his inlaw, is a previlage not a right

The wife should provide for her family if she thinks it's an easy task or responsibilities

Rich4god:
From the comment so far I can see that it's not a man's responsibility to cater for his wife's family. Anything he does for them should be out of his own volition.

Fully understood.

Exactly.

It is not the man's responsibility, what are the men in the wife's family doing that their in-law will be responsible for their daughter/sister/niece who is in school?