Acidosis:
You have two ladies who understand and know your financial weakness probably more than you do.

Home based lady wants to use your weakness against you. Abroad based lady wants to use your weakness to her advantage. The former is ready to dum.p you and her marriage with you for a better life. The other wants you to risk a marriage with her for a better life. Hence, acknowledge that they're both selfish and none is better than the other. Agreed?

The common factor above is you, your financial situation. One knows you so bad that she can't seem to trust a future with you based on her experiences despite offering you loans at different occasions. The other knows you're financially desperate you will accept her offer (as you've depended on her for financial assistance twice).

Your financial situation is the challenge so work on yourself if you must settle with either. Hustle so well so your home-based girl can start believing in you and your future OR hustle so well and make enough money to settle abroad on your (own) terms and finance.

If your financial state will remain an instrument in their hands, then you may have to walk away from both.

CharisEleos:
Build your own life and stop relying on ladies

Divoc19:
Her threats to leave is part of attitude giving.
If you know she really loves you she won't go anywhere. That woman saying what she doesn't mean

Kindaheart32:
. I don't want to have resentment for her when things work out.

Divoc19:
No you won't, rather you'll appreciate her for making you double your hustle. May God bless the works of your hands

Kindaheart32:
. Go back and read my post. I like when I spend my money because it makes me feel like a man. If I chose to go with the other lady, it is for me to go get a decent income. Someone must lend a hand for you to cross the bridge. I am not a lazy person.

CharisEleos:


Easy bro . I never called you lazy. I'm saying, stop letting them toss you about.

Good day.

tensazangetsu20:
If you know what is good for you marry the American lady and Japa.

Kindaheart32:
I chose to post this in the family sections because I feel I will have nothing but a great opinion I can work with
I am in a serious relationship that focuses on getting married to each other. My girl is the most wonderful soul a man will ever be with. It has been two years and covid 19 deal with us. I noticed that anytime things went south for me, my lady will come with some attitudes. Note she doesn't depend on me because she has her job and we spend money on each other. I am a blessed person which God always Crown my efforts with something to show. So it's not like I am bad luck, right now I am rich( if you know what I mean) but I know things will improve.
Here is my problem: I have a female friend who has been disturbing me to relocate me to the US on the condition that I marry her and create a life for myself. We have been friends for years and she has supported me financially twice.
I keep telling her I have a serious relationship. Before this my friend, there was another who gave me the same offers I turn the lady down. I didn't want to hurt my girl because I am the first man she is in love with and I don't want to ruin her emotionally. I love her deeply without a second thought.
My girl keep threatened me to walk away anytime I have a setback.
If I reject this offer and stay with her and she walks away from the relationship, I know I kiss goodbye with anything marriage, and I also lost the opportunity to make a decent income. Note I don't plan to live in my country. Please people who had experienced this how do you deal with it and what should I do.

Acidosis:
You have two ladies who understand and know your financial weakness probably more than you do.

Home based lady wants to use your weakness against you. Abroad based lady wants to use your weakness to her advantage. The former is ready to dum.p you and her marriage with you for a better life. The other wants you to risk a marriage with her for a better life. Hence, acknowledge that they're both selfish and none is better than the other. Agreed?

The common factor above is you, your financial situation. One knows you so bad that she can't seem to trust a future with you based on her experiences despite offering you loans at different occasions. The other knows you're financially desperate you will accept her offer (as you've depended on her for financial assistance twice).

Your financial situation is the challenge so work on yourself if you must settle with either. Hustle so well so your home-based girl can start believing in you and your future OR hustle so well and make enough money to settle abroad on your (own) terms and finance.

If your financial state will remain an instrument in their hands, then you may have to walk away from both.

Divoc19:
Her threats to leave is part of attitude giving.
If you know she really loves you she won't go anywhere. That woman saying what she doesn't mean

Arsenate:

She means what she said, and if I were the op, I'll thank her for making my decision a little easier. Trust me, she'll walk away the minute a better man comes her way and if she was the one with an offer similar to the op, she won't hesitate a second, she'd dump his assss faster than a speeding bullet.

Divoc19:
Thank you man, for telling me about how me women behave.

Arsenate:

Always at your service, sweetheart.