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Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by ufeedoh: 10:08am On Dec 10, 2022
You are a good man, but sometimes we need to draw lines with people. 1st red flag was not even carrying the luggage from naija down then you even still went to pick him from the airport Ah the same foods you cargo is part of what you have been feeding him ….you are far far too nice in thi uk inflation you host someone this long with such a terrible attitude. I hail you oo
babajeje123:
Advise needed please.
Now I am begining to understand why most Nigerians here don't want to accomodate newcomers who are Nigerians. I accommodated a guy who is becoming difficult for me to handle just because I don't like wahala. We lived in the same house in Nigeria and during those period we were never friends. We only exchanged greetings sometimes as he was very rude and proud. So when he got to know that I left Naija with my family, he became a 'friend', called me one day and asked for what he needed to do to come to the UK. I explained all I did without any reservations and advised him on what he needed to do. He applied to a University and a week to his resumption, he had not gotten his CAS. He was worried as he had sent so many emails and made calls to the Uni without a single reply, so I went to the Uni to ask for the reason for the delay as there was also no update on his application portal. The lady I spoke to was not going to converse with me but after some pressure, she spoke and from our conversation, it didn't appear he was going to get the CAS. I remembered a friend who is an Agent of the Uni and spoke to him, sent his details and the following day he got his CAS. No penny was collected. I guided him on how to apply for his visa which he got. Prior to him getting his visa, he was asked from the Home Office to forward additional documents like payslip etc and he was afraid of what to do. I connected him to a friend who had the same experience and that one guided him on additional docs he could send and eventually he got his visa. He spoke to me about accomodation and I told him he could put up with my family and when he is settled, he can start looking for one. While he was coming we asked him to help us bring food stuff which we were going to ask someone to buy and give to him and he told me point blank that he like doesn't travel with luggages. I was taken aback. So i needed to beg him and explained to him that he would not carry any load till he get to Newcastle his final destination and I promised to come and pick him at the airport. He agreed however he didn't come with any of the foodstuff except for my wife's laptop that someone took to meet him at the airport in Nigeria. His reason was that the payment system of the airline he used was not working and so there was no way to pay for additional luggage. My wife begged him to at least picked some dry fish but he insisted that he had his luggages to carry. So we cargoed our foodstuff. Because of that, my wife and her family insisted that I must not go and pick him at the airport which I agreed initially but later went to pick him. When I looked at the hours of layover he had at Doha and Heathrow and considering the fact that he would arrive Newcastle at 10:30pm, I went to pick him without my wife's consent though I explained to her sister when I took the kid to her house. Wify was on a night shift luckily that day. On my way to the airport, I called to let him know I was on my way when he had not even left Heathrow but when I got there my phone dropped and the screen shattered when I went to use the toilet. I can't receive any calls or make any. As a village boy I am, I stood at the international wing of the airport instad of the domestic wing. He arrived, was calling but I couldn't pick. Eventually we met after hours and the first thing he did was to attack me. 'I have been calling and waiting in the cold since, all those we came together have gone and I am the only one left. If I knew where I was going, I would have left since', he raged. I was going to retort but smiled and explained everything to him. Helped him with his luggages to where I parked and paid £25 for parking.

My wife wasn't happy with his stay and she showed it. It was like a pay-back moment for all the guy's behaviours to her in Naija but I would not have any of that. I ensured that they guy sit with us, eat with us, go to church with us, gave him numbers to call for jobs etc. When I felt my wife was taking things to far as she reported me to my mum that I hosted a stranger in this UK economy where things are expensive and my mum also started mounting pressure, I reported her to her sister too. I told her sister that I was not going to ask the guy to leave until he gets a job and I won't join my wife in not relating well to the guy. This became an issue between us which we later settled. I convinced her to forget the past as this should even be a lesson to us that we should always treat people well as you don't know where you will meet them again or when you will need their help. The guy started working and everybody was happy. One day wife raised a point that the guy was suppossed to buy even if it's ordinary bottle of milk and I quickly trashed that conversation. One day I wanted to get the rug cleaner in his room and I saw cans of drinks, cartons of McDonalds under his bed with groceries. He had gone to work / or class that day. To be candid, I felt somehow and spoke to my wife about what I found. At that point, I began to remeber all the guy's attitudes and they started getting to me. I remembered a day we wanted to go out without the kids and I asked if the kids could stay at home with him, he said no that he was going to have online lecture. Since then we always take them to a friend's place or wify sister's if we feel they shouldn't follow us even if he is at home. I remebered how he never for once asked if I had fixed my phone's screen or not, I remebered how he never asked if we have received the foodstuff he was to bring but we needed to cargo. I remebered how we, 4 of us are sleeping in one room, wife and the kids just for him to have his privacy. I remebered how our bills, water, electricity and gas had increased since he came and to God who made me, I never bothered about any of these for once. I felt someone is using me and I concluded to tell him to look for accommodation but I won't change my attitude to him. So I asked him about his search for accomodation and he said he was thinking about raising his school fees balance and that would take a while since he can only work for 20hrs in a week. I told him that he should look for the ones that are cheaper and since holidays are here, he can work full time to raise his balance. Besides, we are 4 sleeping in a room and it is not convenient for us. His body language confirmed he was not ready to leave so I started helping him to look for a shared apartment. I got one via a church member and he went there for inspection though he didn't want to go initially. His reason was that he was having an online lecture at the time they asked him to come which he must received at home. I spoke to the person and they said he could come at any time since they would be at home throughout the day. When I told the guy, he said he can't still go because of some group discussion he would have after the lecture bla bla bla. At that point, I told him that he needed to go because we are 4 in the room and it is not convenient for us. He went only for him to come back and tell me that he doesn't like this house. He said the house is close to his Uni but he just doesn't like it and that I shouldn't worry, he would leave by this weekend. 'No wahala', I said and since then he has been giving me attitude. He came back from work on Thursday morning, I opened the door, greeted him and he didn't answer. All along, he stays in his room and when food is ready, I would be the one to go and call him and he comes out immediately. But since Wednesday, when I go to call him for food, he won't come out until after 20 - 25 minutes. So this afternoon before I went to pick one of the kids from school, I called him to come and eat but he didn't answer. When I returned, I still met the food untouched. I wanted to call him again but I decided to face my project that is frustrating my life and then he came out to eat. He started saying a lot of things about him getting accommoation that I was not listening to. But the last thing he said made me to decide to put this here. I heard him said, 'I will leave when I get a good accommodation'. I just said okay, he ate his food and left for his room.

Please I need advise to handle this maturedly. Since he came none of his people called to say 'thank you' not even his girlfriend that we know. But I don't care at all as all I want is for him to leave as I don't want to continue to sacrifice the comfort of my family to someone who is unappreciative.
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by ukay2: 10:17am On Dec 10, 2022
bigtt76:
But na true naaaah cheesy Make dis cold reset hin head then he go understand those dry fish he refused bring back na saving grace for winter peppersoup. OP that Friday deadline you agree sef too long angry



I always tell people.....don't start what you cannot finish.....

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Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by AirBay: 3:28pm On Dec 10, 2022
Omo!!! @babajeje123 I Salute your wife pass. Dash that woman some £££

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Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by eniola1010(m): 3:41pm On Dec 10, 2022
Abeg make we try dey talk about investment and pension o.
This pension wey dem dey commot for payslip. If i leave the job wetin go happen to the pension.

And i heard some pension the custodian use it for investment and if the investment flop. When you retire nothing for u o

Imagine custodian put pension of staffs for ftx lol
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by donshegzy: 3:43pm On Dec 10, 2022
Brothers and sisters in the house. I’m back again.

Say there are two options.

Company A is offering x amount + profit sharing and company B is offering (x+5k).

Which option is the best?

I’m wary of using the benefits part in A because someone said (share benefits and share losses too). Even if that’s not true, one doesn’t know how they calculate profit and the % of profit that’ll be added on. Also, what if the company doesn’t record “that much profit to go round or make the option worth it.”

It’s all a mix. But I’ll like to hear you guys’ opinion on it. Have you been in the situation? Any advice?
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by Nobody: 4:07pm On Dec 10, 2022
eniola1010:
Abeg make we try dey talk about investment and pension o.
This pension wey dem dey commot for payslip. If i leave the job wetin go happen to the pension.

And i heard some pension the custodian use it for investment and if the investment flop. When you retire nothing for u o

Imagine custodian put pension of staffs for ftx lol

All pension custodians invest the funds.

Otherwise it’ll be severely atrophied by inflation. Any amount saved over 40 years will be worth much much less in real terms.

You can check your workplace/state pension.

You can also set up a SIPP to invest a separate pension for yourself , or use a lifetime ISA.

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Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by jimps(m): 4:55pm On Dec 10, 2022
Has anyone here written PRINCE2 Foundation exam before please?
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by Strata1716: 5:06pm On Dec 10, 2022
jimps:
Has anyone here written PRINCE2 Foundation exam before please?




I haven’t written it but I’m hoping to write it 1st quarter of next year, can you please help with how much it costs and where to register for it ?
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by semmyk(m): 5:37pm On Dec 10, 2022
What's the system you want to upgrade its memory?
NB: if it's a laptop or desktop, you don't need the server spec you referenced.
The equivalent RAM memory for desktops and laptops will be about one-tenth of the price
adnanshaoun582:
Can I upgrade its Memory? I have a spare memory https://www.allhdd.com/hpe-815098-b21-memory/
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by semmyk(m): 5:41pm On Dec 10, 2022
What would you like to know.
I wrote sometimes back around 2007. Seems Amarathripple0 or Solumtoya wrote recently this year.
In-btw, you might want to decide between Prince 2 and Prince 2 Agile.
PS: I checked now and notice we sitting with 6th Ed.
jimps:
Has anyone here written PRINCE2 Foundation exam before please?
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by jimps(m): 5:52pm On Dec 10, 2022
Strata1716:


I haven’t written it but I’m hoping to write it 1st quarter of next year, can you please help with how much it costs and where to register for it ?

I tried sending you a PM but I’m unable to.
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by jimps(m): 5:56pm On Dec 10, 2022
semmyk:
What would you like to know.
I wrote sometimes back around 2007. Seems Amarathripple0 or Solumtoya wrote recently this year.
In-btw, you might want to decide between Prince 2 and Prince 2 Agile.
PS: I checked now and notice we sitting with 6th Ed.

Thank you,
Yes I’ve been preparing lately for prince2 and yes it’s the 6th edition �.

I tried sending a PM.
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by semmyk(m): 6:01pm On Dec 10, 2022
There's been some discussion on this thread on investment and pension. There's room for more wider and tailored discussion.
Regarding pension investment, there're safeguards, guidelines, regulations in place. There's the pension regulator. Nonetheless, investment remains #risk.
Pension types: www.gov.uk/pension-types
Knowing about pension: https://www.workplacepensions.gov.uk/employee/

Perhaps I might chip in that if you can handle your investments, pls do so. #dedication #sacrifices #NoEmotions
Be dodged about with and be steadfast. You might built an empire and retire #early!. PS: no guarantees.
eniola1010:
Abeg make we try dey talk about investment and pension o.
This pension wey dem dey commot for payslip. If i leave the job wetin go happen to the pension.
And i heard some pension the custodian use it for investment and if the investment flop. When you retire nothing for u o
Imagine custodian put pension of staffs for ftx lol
[UPDATED]
For property investment, read this collation on page 686
semmyk:
[PROPERTY INVESTMENT]
... ...
There's one on ISA, I'll try look for it.
There was one on stock. I'll try look for it as well.

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Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by Strata1716: 6:02pm On Dec 10, 2022
jimps:


I tried sending you a PM but I’m unable to.

Thanks, I’ve just sent a dm.
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by semmyk(m): 6:24pm On Dec 10, 2022
I'll try look out for it. However, will be faster responding to you here and you might get wide variety from others. Feel free to ask here. There are no right or perfect question. On this thread, we tried to make everyone welcomed and at ease.
jimps:
Thank you,
Yes I’ve been preparing lately for prince2 and yes it’s the 6th edition �.
I tried [i]sending a PM[/u].
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by jimps(m): 6:37pm On Dec 10, 2022
semmyk:
I'll try look out for it. However, will be faster responding to you here and you might get wide variety from others. Feel free to ask here. There are no right or perfect question. On this thread, we tried to make everyone welcomed and at ease.
Thank you so much, I really appreciate
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by olalekan9320(m): 6:44pm On Dec 10, 2022
babajeje123:

I know but will I give him ultimatum or what? How will I explain to him again since he felt offended when I insisted he should go and check one on Wednesday only for him to return and say he doesn't like it.
when you are nice that's how people treat you. Give him ultimatum, a week or two or even at most a month, if he doesn't by then, call police
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by Amarathripple0: 7:06pm On Dec 10, 2022
jimps:


Thank you,
Yes I’ve been preparing lately for prince2 and yes it’s the 6th edition �.

I tried sending a PM.

You are right @ semmyk , I wrote it this year. jimps , what do you need? You can ask here
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by igbsam(m): 7:52pm On Dec 10, 2022
babajeje123:
Advise needed please.
Now I am begining to understand why most Nigerians here don't want to accomodate newcomers who are Nigerians. I accommodated a guy who is becoming difficult for me to handle just because I don't like wahala. We lived in the same house in Nigeria and during those period we were never friends. We only exchanged greetings sometimes as he was very rude and proud. So when he got to know that I left Naija with my family, he became a 'friend', called me one day and asked for what he needed to do to come to the UK. I explained all I did without any reservations and advised him on what he needed to do. He applied to a University and a week to his resumption, he had not gotten his CAS. He was worried as he had sent so many emails and made calls to the Uni without a single reply, so I went to the Uni to ask for the reason for the delay as there was also no update on his application portal. The lady I spoke to was not going to converse with me but after some pressure, she spoke and from our conversation, it didn't appear he was going to get the CAS. I remembered a friend who is an Agent of the Uni and spoke to him, sent his details and the following day he got his CAS. No penny was collected. I guided him on how to apply for his visa which he got. Prior to him getting his visa, he was asked from the Home Office to forward additional documents like payslip etc and he was afraid of what to do. I connected him to a friend who had the same experience and that one guided him on additional docs he could send and eventually he got his visa. He spoke to me about accomodation and I told him he could put up with my family and when he is settled, he can start looking for one. While he was coming we asked him to help us bring food stuff which we were going to ask someone to buy and give to him and he told me point blank that he like doesn't travel with luggages. I was taken aback. So i needed to beg him and explained to him that he would not carry any load till he get to Newcastle his final destination and I promised to come and pick him at the airport. He agreed however he didn't come with any of the foodstuff except for my wife's laptop that someone took to meet him at the airport in Nigeria. His reason was that the payment system of the airline he used was not working and so there was no way to pay for additional luggage. My wife begged him to at least picked some dry fish but he insisted that he had his luggages to carry. So we cargoed our foodstuff. Because of that, my wife and her family insisted that I must not go and pick him at the airport which I agreed initially but later went to pick him. When I looked at the hours of layover he had at Doha and Heathrow and considering the fact that he would arrive Newcastle at 10:30pm, I went to pick him without my wife's consent though I explained to her sister when I took the kid to her house. Wify was on a night shift luckily that day. On my way to the airport, I called to let him know I was on my way when he had not even left Heathrow but when I got there my phone dropped and the screen shattered when I went to use the toilet. I can't receive any calls or make any. As a village boy I am, I stood at the international wing of the airport instad of the domestic wing. He arrived, was calling but I couldn't pick. Eventually we met after hours and the first thing he did was to attack me. 'I have been calling and waiting in the cold since, all those we came together have gone and I am the only one left. If I knew where I was going, I would have left since', he raged. I was going to retort but smiled and explained everything to him. Helped him with his luggages to where I parked and paid £25 for parking.

My wife wasn't happy with his stay and she showed it. It was like a pay-back moment for all the guy's behaviours to her in Naija but I would not have any of that. I ensured that they guy sit with us, eat with us, go to church with us, gave him numbers to call for jobs etc. When I felt my wife was taking things to far as she reported me to my mum that I hosted a stranger in this UK economy where things are expensive and my mum also started mounting pressure, I reported her to her sister too. I told her sister that I was not going to ask the guy to leave until he gets a job and I won't join my wife in not relating well to the guy. This became an issue between us which we later settled. I convinced her to forget the past as this should even be a lesson to us that we should always treat people well as you don't know where you will meet them again or when you will need their help. The guy started working and everybody was happy. One day wife raised a point that the guy was suppossed to buy even if it's ordinary bottle of milk and I quickly trashed that conversation. One day I wanted to get the rug cleaner in his room and I saw cans of drinks, cartons of McDonalds under his bed with groceries. He had gone to work / or class that day. To be candid, I felt somehow and spoke to my wife about what I found. At that point, I began to remeber all the guy's attitudes and they started getting to me. I remembered a day we wanted to go out without the kids and I asked if the kids could stay at home with him, he said no that he was going to have online lecture. Since then we always take them to a friend's place or wify sister's if we feel they shouldn't follow us even if he is at home. I remebered how he never for once asked if I had fixed my phone's screen or not, I remebered how he never asked if we have received the foodstuff he was to bring but we needed to cargo. I remebered how we, 4 of us are sleeping in one room, wife and the kids just for him to have his privacy. I remebered how our bills, water, electricity and gas had increased since he came and to God who made me, I never bothered about any of these for once. I felt someone is using me and I concluded to tell him to look for accommodation but I won't change my attitude to him. So I asked him about his search for accomodation and he said he was thinking about raising his school fees balance and that would take a while since he can only work for 20hrs in a week. I told him that he should look for the ones that are cheaper and since holidays are here, he can work full time to raise his balance. Besides, we are 4 sleeping in a room and it is not convenient for us. His body language confirmed he was not ready to leave so I started helping him to look for a shared apartment. I got one via a church member and he went there for inspection though he didn't want to go initially. His reason was that he was having an online lecture at the time they asked him to come which he must received at home. I spoke to the person and they said he could come at any time since they would be at home throughout the day. When I told the guy, he said he can't still go because of some group discussion he would have after the lecture bla bla bla. At that point, I told him that he needed to go because we are 4 in the room and it is not convenient for us. He went only for him to come back and tell me that he doesn't like this house. He said the house is close to his Uni but he just doesn't like it and that I shouldn't worry, he would leave by this weekend. 'No wahala', I said and since then he has been giving me attitude. He came back from work on Thursday morning, I opened the door, greeted him and he didn't answer. All along, he stays in his room and when food is ready, I would be the one to go and call him and he comes out immediately. But since Wednesday, when I go to call him for food, he won't come out until after 20 - 25 minutes. So this afternoon before I went to pick one of the kids from school, I called him to come and eat but he didn't answer. When I returned, I still met the food untouched. I wanted to call him again but I decided to face my project that is frustrating my life and then he came out to eat. He started saying a lot of things about him getting accommoation that I was not listening to. But the last thing he said made me to decide to put this here. I heard him said, 'I will leave when I get a good accommodation'. I just said okay, he ate his food and left for his room.

Please I need advise to handle this maturedly. Since he came none of his people called to say 'thank you' not even his girlfriend that we know. But I don't care at all as all I want is for him to leave as I don't want to continue to sacrifice the comfort of my family to someone who is unappreciative.

Kick the ungrateful b.ard out. WTF

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Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by Lexusgs430: 7:59pm On Dec 10, 2022
@babajeje123 - This is what you get, when you decide to stick your neck out, from a grizzly's enclosure....... grin
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by igbsam(m): 8:22pm On Dec 10, 2022
babajeje123:
Advise needed please.
Now I am begining to understand why most Nigerians here don't want to accomodate newcomers who are Nigerians. I accommodated a guy who is becoming difficult for me to handle just because I don't like wahala. We lived in the same house in Nigeria and during those period we were never friends. We only exchanged greetings sometimes as he was very rude and proud. So when he got to know that I left Naija with my family, he became a 'friend', called me one day and asked for what he needed to do to come to the UK. I explained all I did without any reservations and advised him on what he needed to do. He applied to a University and a week to his resumption, he had not gotten his CAS. He was worried as he had sent so many emails and made calls to the Uni without a single reply, so I went to the Uni to ask for the reason for the delay as there was also no update on his application portal. The lady I spoke to was not going to converse with me but after some pressure, she spoke and from our conversation, it didn't appear he was going to get the CAS. I remembered a friend who is an Agent of the Uni and spoke to him, sent his details and the following day he got his CAS. No penny was collected. I guided him on how to apply for his visa which he got. Prior to him getting his visa, he was asked from the Home Office to forward additional documents like payslip etc and he was afraid of what to do. I connected him to a friend who had the same experience and that one guided him on additional docs he could send and eventually he got his visa. He spoke to me about accomodation and I told him he could put up with my family and when he is settled, he can start looking for one. While he was coming we asked him to help us bring food stuff which we were going to ask someone to buy and give to him and he told me point blank that he like doesn't travel with luggages. I was taken aback. So i needed to beg him and explained to him that he would not carry any load till he get to Newcastle his final destination and I promised to come and pick him at the airport. He agreed however he didn't come with any of the foodstuff except for my wife's laptop that someone took to meet him at the airport in Nigeria. His reason was that the payment system of the airline he used was not working and so there was no way to pay for additional luggage. My wife begged him to at least picked some dry fish but he insisted that he had his luggages to carry. So we cargoed our foodstuff. Because of that, my wife and her family insisted that I must not go and pick him at the airport which I agreed initially but later went to pick him. When I looked at the hours of layover he had at Doha and Heathrow and considering the fact that he would arrive Newcastle at 10:30pm, I went to pick him without my wife's consent though I explained to her sister when I took the kid to her house. Wify was on a night shift luckily that day. On my way to the airport, I called to let him know I was on my way when he had not even left Heathrow but when I got there my phone dropped and the screen shattered when I went to use the toilet. I can't receive any calls or make any. As a village boy I am, I stood at the international wing of the airport instad of the domestic wing. He arrived, was calling but I couldn't pick. Eventually we met after hours and the first thing he did was to attack me. 'I have been calling and waiting in the cold since, all those we came together have gone and I am the only one left. If I knew where I was going, I would have left since', he raged. I was going to retort but smiled and explained everything to him. Helped him with his luggages to where I parked and paid £25 for parking.

My wife wasn't happy with his stay and she showed it. It was like a pay-back moment for all the guy's behaviours to her in Naija but I would not have any of that. I ensured that they guy sit with us, eat with us, go to church with us, gave him numbers to call for jobs etc. When I felt my wife was taking things to far as she reported me to my mum that I hosted a stranger in this UK economy where things are expensive and my mum also started mounting pressure, I reported her to her sister too. I told her sister that I was not going to ask the guy to leave until he gets a job and I won't join my wife in not relating well to the guy. This became an issue between us which we later settled. I convinced her to forget the past as this should even be a lesson to us that we should always treat people well as you don't know where you will meet them again or when you will need their help. The guy started working and everybody was happy. One day wife raised a point that the guy was suppossed to buy even if it's ordinary bottle of milk and I quickly trashed that conversation. One day I wanted to get the rug cleaner in his room and I saw cans of drinks, cartons of McDonalds under his bed with groceries. He had gone to work / or class that day. To be candid, I felt somehow and spoke to my wife about what I found. At that point, I began to remeber all the guy's attitudes and they started getting to me. I remembered a day we wanted to go out without the kids and I asked if the kids could stay at home with him, he said no that he was going to have online lecture. Since then we always take them to a friend's place or wify sister's if we feel they shouldn't follow us even if he is at home. I remebered how he never for once asked if I had fixed my phone's screen or not, I remebered how he never asked if we have received the foodstuff he was to bring but we needed to cargo. I remebered how we, 4 of us are sleeping in one room, wife and the kids just for him to have his privacy. I remebered how our bills, water, electricity and gas had increased since he came and to God who made me, I never bothered about any of these for once. I felt someone is using me and I concluded to tell him to look for accommodation but I won't change my attitude to him. So I asked him about his search for accomodation and he said he was thinking about raising his school fees balance and that would take a while since he can only work for 20hrs in a week. I told him that he should look for the ones that are cheaper and since holidays are here, he can work full time to raise his balance. Besides, we are 4 sleeping in a room and it is not convenient for us. His body language confirmed he was not ready to leave so I started helping him to look for a shared apartment. I got one via a church member and he went there for inspection though he didn't want to go initially. His reason was that he was having an online lecture at the time they asked him to come which he must received at home. I spoke to the person and they said he could come at any time since they would be at home throughout the day. When I told the guy, he said he can't still go because of some group discussion he would have after the lecture bla bla bla. At that point, I told him that he needed to go because we are 4 in the room and it is not convenient for us. He went only for him to come back and tell me that he doesn't like this house. He said the house is close to his Uni but he just doesn't like it and that I shouldn't worry, he would leave by this weekend. 'No wahala', I said and since then he has been giving me attitude. He came back from work on Thursday morning, I opened the door, greeted him and he didn't answer. All along, he stays in his room and when food is ready, I would be the one to go and call him and he comes out immediately. But since Wednesday, when I go to call him for food, he won't come out until after 20 - 25 minutes. So this afternoon before I went to pick one of the kids from school, I called him to come and eat but he didn't answer. When I returned, I still met the food untouched. I wanted to call him again but I decided to face my project that is frustrating my life and then he came out to eat. He started saying a lot of things about him getting accommoation that I was not listening to. But the last thing he said made me to decide to put this here. I heard him said, 'I will leave when I get a good accommodation'. I just said okay, he ate his food and left for his room.

Please I need advise to handle this maturedly. Since he came none of his people called to say 'thank you' not even his girlfriend that we know. But I don't care at all as all I want is for him to leave as I don't want to continue to sacrifice the comfort of my family to someone who is unappreciative.

One thing I've come to understand about this Youkay is don't talk too much and don't write too much. E go land u for trouble
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by gistbite(f): 8:52pm On Dec 10, 2022
Hello ancestors, please how much should I budget if I want to invite my mom from Nigeria. Visa, flights etc thank you.
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by jimps(m): 9:21pm On Dec 10, 2022
Amarathripple0:

You are right @ semmyk , I wrote it this year. jimps , what do you need? You can ask here
Thank you, I’ve been preparing for the exam quite a time now and since I don’t have any experience in project field, I wanted to know if experience matters in getting a job after the successful completion of the foundation exam.
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by mizGene(f): 9:30pm On Dec 10, 2022
jimps:
Has anyone here written PRINCE2 Foundation exam before please?



I wrote the Agile in October. It wasn't difficult but I didn't self study..I did the online class and it was really helpful...scheduled and wrote the exam the same day..

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Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by mizGene(f): 9:34pm On Dec 10, 2022
Strata1716:


I haven’t written it but I’m hoping to write it 1st quarter of next year, can you please help with how much it costs and where to register for it ?
Amarathripple had a recommendation, I'm sure she will respond.. but I used theknowledgeacademy it was listed at close to 2k (with Practitioner) but once you indicate interest and they call you, you can negotiate it to 800 pounds. They will pretend they can't do it, keep you on the call "to ask their manager" cheesy for approval for a discount.. then they will make you an offer. But make sure to get them down to 800 at most.

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Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by Ticha: 10:08pm On Dec 10, 2022
babajeje123:
Advise needed please.

Please I need advise to handle this maturedly. Since he came none of his people called to say 'thank you' not even his girlfriend that we know. But I don't care at all as all I want is for him to leave as I don't want to continue to sacrifice the comfort of my family to someone who is unappreciative.

Put his things out. Change the locks. Job done. If you want to be kind, give him 24 hours notice.

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Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by Amarathripple0: 10:23pm On Dec 10, 2022
jimps:

Thank you, I’ve been preparing for the exam quite a time now and since I don’t have any experience in project field, I wanted to know if experience matters in getting a job after the successful completion of the foundation exam.
The certificate is a plus, a lot of companies love it when candidates have PM certificates. However, the certificate is not enough. While skills are transferable, you need the actual PM knowledge and experience to scale through the interview process because the questions asked would be targeted towards projects you have worked on, how you handled conflict, methodologies you use, PM tools you use etc. Some companies would even ask you to do a presentation of a project you managed from start to finish.

If you don’t have any PM experience, my advice on how to scale the interview process would be to tailor your response in a way that a PM would. Imagine yourself as the one who managed the project’s lifecycle from start to finish including the team, budget etc. Also use PM buzz words like stakeholder, baseline, project sponsor, risk assessment, highlight report, impact analysis, change control, scope, etc. (don’t overdo this though).

You should also google Project Management interview questions and how to answer them. (Reddit has a lot of gems)

You can also target graduate roles as they do not care much about you having any PM experience. However, don’t depend on graduate roles alone, apply to non-graduate roles as well and just sell yourself.

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Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by Amarathripple0: 10:34pm On Dec 10, 2022
mizGene:

Amarathripple had a recommendation, I'm sure she will respond.. but I used theknowledgeacademy it was listed at lose to 2k (with Practitioner) but once you indicate interest and they call you, you can negotiate it to 800 pounds. They will pretend they can't do it, keep you on the call "to ask their manager" cheesy for approval for a discount.. then they will make you an offer. But make sure to get them down to 800 at most.
£800 makes a lot of sense. Strata1716 I think you should go with her route as mine was only affordable because I got a discount through my school.

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Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by jimps(m): 10:36pm On Dec 10, 2022
Amarathripple0:

The certificate is a plus, a lot of companies love it when candidates have PM certificates. However, the certificate is not enough. While skills are transferable, you need the actual PM knowledge and experience to scale through the interview process because the questions asked would be targeted towards projects you have worked on, how you handled conflict, methodologies you use, PM tools you use etc. Some companies would even ask you to do a presentation on a project you managed from start to finish.

If you don’t have any PM experience, my advice on how to scale the interview process would be to tailor your response in a way that a PM would. Imagine yourself as the one who managed the project’s lifecycle from start to finish including the team, budget etc. Also use PM buzz words like stakeholder, baseline, project sponsor, risk assessment, highlight report, impact analysis, change control, scope, etc. (don’t overdo this though).

You should also google Project Management interview questions and how to answer them. (Reddit has a lot of gems)

You can also target graduate roles as they do not care much about you having any PM experience. However, don’t depend on graduate roles alone, apply to non-graduate roles as well and just sell yourself.
Wow this is really really helpful, I’ll work on this more as well, I’m sure I’ll also sail through �

Thank you so much…

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Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by rinzylee(m): 12:22am On Dec 11, 2022
babajeje123:
Advise needed please.


Please I need advise to handle this maturedly. Since he came none of his people called to say 'thank you' not even his girlfriend that we know. But I don't care at all as all I want is for him to leave as I don't want to continue to sacrifice the comfort of my family to someone who is unappreciative.



Kai....You are the definition of a true Christian. I am actually repenting reading this. I don't know if the love and forgiveness of God has seeped this way into my heart. God help me. Please can I become your friend? Biko...please....ejoor?. I'm sending you a PM.

I don't even know how to tell you that the guy needs to be given a quit notice tomorrow. Let him sign an undertaking to leave by next weekend. Involve police, just incase he tries to pick a fight.


But people are inconsiderate o!!!

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Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by Strata1716: 12:47am On Dec 11, 2022
Amarathripple0:

£800 makes a lot of sense. Strata1716 I think you should go with her route as mine was only affordable because I got a discount through my school.

Thanks, her route does sound more cost effective.
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by lavida001: 12:48am On Dec 11, 2022
Chinlov:
ahhh

you sound as if you are afraid of this guy

Are you sure he has nothing over you/ your conscience? i am not understanding ooo

Anyway, na u wear shoe....



So you actually believe in that epistle of lies?

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