abisoye2:
Nairaland has always been a place of resort when it comes to finding lasting solution to one's problem/albatross as this platform is beclouded with cerebral intellectuals.

==> I am a young man of 27 years old from an average background. I'm currently outside the country earning little above #200k doing blue colar job in one of the Emirates of UAE. I have NCE certificate in one of the Colleges of Education in Nigeria of which I intended to further into Degree(BSc) in Nigeria before travel opportunity showcased which I obliged.
However, I wish to migrate to one the European countries preferably through study route(as one of the easy way to migrate) so as to acquire my Degree(Bsc, because I have great passion for education) and to improve my life(you understand) before considering anything else.

I have been saving larger portion of my salaries to around #2.7m which is not enough for my plan but i'm still managing my work and still saving to actualize my plan with the help of God.

Sorry I forgot to tell you intellectuals that I'm the only Son among 6 children and I'm sinlge. Now, my mother back home is trying to tell me to start a building project on our vacant land and indirectly proposing 'getting married' to me as the larger part of her prayers when discussing on phone is how God should give me a good woman, the loving woman...(you know African Mothers').
It's good to note that my elder sisters have birthed children so Mum is already a "Grandma". I tried to explain to her politely that my plan is not to marry now or spending my little money on building a house only to halfway and continue struggling and saving from scratch rather to develop myself first and then money will come with it and I can now consider marriage afterwards.

I Also think about business but I think it's risky. Also, marrying and leaving my wife back home doesn't sit well with me and bringing her here making family wouldn't be easy as maintaining family is expensive here and there is no child benefit/support compared to the west. Perhaps taking care of my widow mother and taking care of wife/family and sometimes relatives wahala from my paltry salary is striking fear into my bone marrow.

So, getting married now/starting a building project would take away my money and might shatter my plans.

Great Nairalanders, please I am confused, advise me, come to my rescue!

Admin, please help my life by pushing this for me. E dakun!

pansophist:
Usually people give advice base on their own worldview, which is largely shaped by their generational period and gender. Because she is your mother doesn't mean she knows the best for you. Yes, she wants the best for you, but she does not know the best for you. Let that sink in.

Also, you should listen to advice from people who you admire their lifestyle. Not trying to be insulting, but if your mum that have spent at least 20 years on earth before birthing you could not figure it out financially and depends on you who was here when she was an adult, then listen to her, nod your head like a lizard, but do what's best for you.

Thirdly, telling you to get married is not a bad advice, but you don't have to listen to it. Marriage by nature, marriage is an institution that improves your current situation, not to make it worse. Unless the girl you'll marry will somehow make your life better, e.g, is equally educated, financially stable, or God help you, have a foreign passport and loves you, then by all means, get married to her.

But if you'll marry now a lady that doesn't equally compliments you financially, and you start doing the financial lifting of her and God forbid, her family, and after performing all the expensive marriage rites, you'll either bring her to UAE, or be sending cash while she stays in Nigeria (and God help you if she is not loyal), then don't get married. I'm not against lifting people, but have strong leg first, not when you're trying to survive.

I'm not saying you shouldn't marry a woman who you'll lift financially, but at your situation, it's suicidal. It's like giving someone the only seed you have, instead of planting it first, let it germinate, and you can give as much fruit as you want. Only get marry if you are strong, that your wife's money won't bother you. Not now. Please.

About land. I can't help but say, are you mad? Don't try that nonsense. After buying, then you'll begin constructing, and may God help you if your family are not trustworthy. But even if they are, how does it improves your situation? Why not work on being strong? That should be your only priority. Be strong financially first. And when you're wealthy enough, you'll even buy a house in London, no problem. And if you have actually traveled around, buying a land and building a house in Nigeria will turn you off.

If I were you, I'll just get an admission and move to Europe. There are lots of schools in places like Poland where the tuition fee is less than one million naira. Move to Europe, and money won't be a problem. Even if you have only primary school cert, if you're not lazy, you'll make so much money in Europe. Some of the dumbest douchbag that I know makes at least 1500 euros doing menial jobs in places like Germany or Netherlands, and Poland is just an hour drive from Berlin.

Forgive your mum, for she doesn't know what she is doing. This historical quote that Jesus said on the cross of calvary is how you should approach your mum. She doesn't know better. And if you make the mistake and refuse to develop your finances and make other people happy instead, you'll regret it. Not a threat, but a fact. And it's more painful because you're the cause of your own agony. You wont have the luxury to blame anyone. And they would see you as stupid, and what you will hear is, "you've been abroad since, what did you achieve"? Doesn't matter if you suspend your goal to help them. That's hell. You've been advised.

Gerrard59, Tensazangetsu20, Raalsalghul. Thanks very much. Your advice make sense. I hope the op listen to it.

stinflame:


Then Sir, that person is destined to be poor and been unmarried won't change his or her situation. Been married was even what Is keeping a good percentage of them alive. Marriage like I said no dey stop one's blessings...

pansophist:
Usually people give advice base on their own worldview, which is largely shaped by their generational period and gender. Because she is your mother doesn't mean she knows the best for you. Yes, she wants the best for you, but she does not know the best for you. Let that sink in.

Also, you should listen to advice from people who you admire their lifestyle. Not trying to be insulting, but if your mum that have spent at least 20 years on earth before birthing you could not figure it out financially and depends on you who was here when she was an adult, then listen to her, nod your head like a lizard, but do what's best for you.

Thirdly, telling you to get married is not a bad advice, but you don't have to listen to it. Marriage by nature, marriage is an institution that improves your current situation, not to make it worse. Unless the girl you'll marry will somehow make your life better, e.g, is equally educated, financially stable, or God help you, have a foreign passport and loves you, then by all means, get married to her.

But if you'll marry now a lady that doesn't equally compliments you financially, and you start doing the financial lifting of her and God forbid, her family, and after performing all the expensive marriage rites, you'll either bring her to UAE, or be sending cash while she stays in Nigeria (and God help you if she is not loyal), then don't get married. I'm not against lifting people, but have strong leg first, not when you're trying to survive.

I'm not saying you shouldn't marry a woman who you'll lift financially, but at your situation, it's suicidal. It's like giving someone the only seed you have, instead of planting it first, let it germinate, and you can give as much fruit as you want. Only get marry if you are strong, that your wife's money won't bother you. Not now. Please.

About land. I can't help but say, are you mad? Don't try that nonsense. After buying, then you'll begin constructing, and may God help you if your family are not trustworthy. But even if they are, how does it improves your situation? Why not work on being strong? That should be your only priority. Be strong financially first. And when you're wealthy enough, you'll even buy a house in London, no problem. And if you have actually traveled around, buying a land and building a house in Nigeria will turn you off.

If I were you, I'll just get an admission and move to Europe. There are lots of schools in places like Poland where the tuition fee is less than one million naira. Move to Europe, and money won't be a problem. Even if you have only primary school cert, if you're not lazy, you'll make so much money in Europe. Some of the dumbest douchbag that I know makes at least 1500 euros doing menial jobs in places like Germany or Netherlands, and Poland is just an hour drive from Berlin.

Forgive your mum, for she doesn't know what she is doing. This historical quote that Jesus said on the cross of calvary is how you should approach your mum. She doesn't know better. And if you make the mistake and refuse to develop your finances and make other people happy instead, you'll regret it. Not a threat, but a fact. And it's more painful because you're the cause of your own agony. You wont have the luxury to blame anyone. And they would see you as stupid, and what you will hear is, "you've been abroad since, what did you achieve"? Doesn't matter if you suspend your goal to help them. That's hell. You've been advised.

Gerrard59, Tensazangetsu20, Raalsalghul. Thanks very much. Your advice make sense. I hope the op listen to it.

Nasri100:


This guy. Intelligent.

Oyin2212:

Wow man your advice always goes deep. Felt like you were talking to me directly. I appreciate.

Juicy001:


Bros, listen to mumsy..
You might feel you dont need a woman but how about a woman that will support you? Pray, Encourage and also put you in line when ever you're going off course?
Your mum cant do all that na,
Dont just look at it from the negative side but also the positive side, you're just scared of the unknown and its understandable cus we are humans,its in our nature....
Def it's not something to rush into but think about it...
Cuz in my opinion, omoh na to marry continue with your dreams till they become reality, nothing sure pass this one.
Remain blessed

badliman:
Well I will advice that your plan is actually right and very ok with your plan, just tell your mum that are thought and your thought are the same that she should continue praying for you. I will advice you go for Poland or Germany through the admission opportunity for now is closed for Poland until January but I am not sure of Germany. So admission fee for Poland and the school fee now is almost 2ma if not over because of the naira free fall. But you can google it and process it online. Pls don't give any stupid agent money ooooo. Well for the business side I will advice you go for leverage business that is what the rich men do, let your money work for you....for more info visit google and and b active on social media

abisoye2:
Nairaland has always been a place of resort when it comes to finding lasting solution to one's problem/albatross as this platform is beclouded with cerebral intellectuals.

==> I am a young man of 27 years old from an average background. I'm currently outside the country earning little above #200k doing blue colar job in one of the Emirates of UAE. I have NCE certificate in one of the Colleges of Education in Nigeria of which I intended to further into Degree(BSc) in Nigeria before travel opportunity showcased which I obliged.
However, I wish to migrate to one the European countries preferably through study route(as one of the easy way to migrate) so as to acquire my Degree(Bsc, because I have great passion for education) and to improve my life(you understand) before considering anything else.

I have been saving larger portion of my salaries to around #2.7m which is not enough for my plan but i'm still managing my work and still saving to actualize my plan with the help of God.

Sorry I forgot to tell you intellectuals that I'm the only Son among 6 children and I'm sinlge. Now, my mother back home is trying to tell me to start a building project on our vacant land and indirectly proposing 'getting married' to me as the larger part of her prayers when discussing on phone is how God should give me a good woman, the loving woman...(you know African Mothers').
It's good to note that my elder sisters have birthed children so Mum is already a "Grandma". I tried to explain to her politely that my plan is not to marry now or spending my little money on building a house only to halfway and continue struggling and saving from scratch rather to develop myself first and then money will come with it and I can now consider marriage afterwards.

I Also think about business but I think it's risky. Also, marrying and leaving my wife back home doesn't sit well with me and bringing her here making family wouldn't be easy as maintaining family is expensive here and there is no child benefit/support compared to the west. Perhaps taking care of my widow mother and taking care of wife/family and sometimes relatives wahala from my paltry salary is striking fear into my bone marrow.

So, getting married now/starting a building project would take away my money and might shatter my plans.

Great Nairalanders, please I am confused, advise me, come to my rescue!

Admin, please help my life by pushing this for me. E dakun!

abisoye2:
Nairaland has always been a place of resort when it comes to finding lasting solution to one's problem/albatross as this platform is beclouded with cerebral intellectuals.

==> I am a young man of 27 years old from an average background. I'm currently outside the country earning little above #200k doing blue colar job in one of the Emirates of UAE. I have NCE certificate in one of the Colleges of Education in Nigeria of which I intended to further into Degree(BSc) in Nigeria before travel opportunity showcased which I obliged.
However, I wish to migrate to one the European countries preferably through study route(as one of the easy way to migrate) so as to acquire my Degree(Bsc, because I have great passion for education) and to improve my life(you understand) before considering anything else.

I have been saving larger portion of my salaries to around #2.7m which is not enough for my plan but i'm still managing my work and still saving to actualize my plan with the help of God.

Sorry I forgot to tell you intellectuals that I'm the only Son among 6 children and I'm sinlge. Now, my mother back home is trying to tell me to start a building project on our vacant land and indirectly proposing 'getting married' to me as the larger part of her prayers when discussing on phone is how God should give me a good woman, the loving woman...(you know African Mothers').
It's good to note that my elder sisters have birthed children so Mum is already a "Grandma". I tried to explain to her politely that my plan is not to marry now or spending my little money on building a house only to halfway and continue struggling and saving from scratch rather to develop myself first and then money will come with it and I can now consider marriage afterwards.

I Also think about business but I think it's risky. Also, marrying and leaving my wife back home doesn't sit well with me and bringing her here making family wouldn't be easy as maintaining family is expensive here and there is no child benefit/support compared to the west. Perhaps taking care of my widow mother and taking care of wife/family and sometimes relatives wahala from my paltry salary is striking fear into my bone marrow.

So, getting married now/starting a building project would take away my money and might shatter my plans.

Great Nairalanders, please I am confused, advise me, come to my rescue!

Admin, please help my life by pushing this for me. E dakun!

MeghaneMorgane:
I don’t know why parents like to put pressure on young people to get married. I want to marry and I know I should marry but please don’t make it a do or die affair. When the right man comes, I’ll get married.

Op please focus on making your life better. Don’t come and bring another woman to come and suffer. Don’t bring children into this world to come and suffer. Except if it is the woman who wants to willingly suffer with you. If not, focus on your life.

abisoye2:
Nairaland has always been a place of resort when it comes to finding lasting solution to one's problem/albatross as this platform is beclouded with cerebral intellectuals.

==> I am a young man of 27 years old from an average background. I'm currently outside the country earning little above #200k doing blue colar job in one of the Emirates of UAE. I have NCE certificate in one of the Colleges of Education in Nigeria of which I intended to further into Degree(BSc) in Nigeria before travel opportunity showcased which I obliged.
However, I wish to migrate to one the European countries preferably through study route(as one of the easy way to migrate) so as to acquire my Degree(Bsc, because I have great passion for education) and to improve my life(you understand) before considering anything else.

I have been saving larger portion of my salaries to around #2.7m which is not enough for my plan but i'm still managing my work and still saving to actualize my plan with the help of God.

Sorry I forgot to tell you intellectuals that I'm the only Son among 6 children and I'm sinlge. Now, my mother back home is trying to tell me to start a building project on our vacant land and indirectly proposing 'getting married' to me as the larger part of her prayers when discussing on phone is how God should give me a good woman, the loving woman...(you know African Mothers').
It's good to note that my elder sisters have birthed children so Mum is already a "Grandma". I tried to explain to her politely that my plan is not to marry now or spending my little money on building a house only to halfway and continue struggling and saving from scratch rather to develop myself first and then money will come with it and I can now consider marriage afterwards.

I Also think about business but I think it's risky. Also, marrying and leaving my wife back home doesn't sit well with me and bringing her here making family wouldn't be easy as maintaining family is expensive here and there is no child benefit/support compared to the west. Perhaps taking care of my widow mother and taking care of wife/family and sometimes relatives wahala from my paltry salary is striking fear into my bone marrow.

So, getting married now/starting a building project would take away my money and might shatter my plans.

Great Nairalanders, please I am confused, advise me, come to my rescue!

Admin, please help my life by pushing this for me. E dakun!

Raalsalghul:


I agree, but there's need to always have some physical cash lying around in case of emergencies.

Not all investments can easily be liquidated.

JesusDWay:


You can't even build anything with that money, just focus on your plans to relocate to either Europe or North America!

If it's Europe you want to go, I may suggest you go to Switzerland, you can work and school and salary can be as much as 2000Euro so, strat researching that.

Raalsalghul:


I agree, but there's need to always have some physical cash lying around in case of emergencies.

Not all investments can easily be liquidated.

Babinski:


Pursue your dream with your resources. You can always buy land and build a house later. If your dream is worth pursuing, it is also an investment. Be sure not to lose focus because some purported side investments that become distractions.

youngfaraday1:
You did state your area of discipline in your NCE.
I will suggest/advice on ONLY one area that will change your career and give you a future but also make some research on it, ask questions and if still in doubt check my signature.
Australia as a country via study route.
If you are hardworking, which I beleive you are as UAE is not an option on a normal day. You can study and work @ 40 hours/ forthnight, make sure your chosen career is in the country's skilled list and you are already on your way to PR.
Note: Your funds may not be able at this stage but just do more enquries y you continue your UAE hustle to increase your savings to achieve your goal.
Best of Luck, Cheersquote author=abisoye2 post=106212358]

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