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How Do You Control Your Anger? by Tbvxl: 12:43am On Oct 10
Yes how do you control your anger?
These days my GF has been getting on my nerves to the extent I'd have this sudden feeling to slap her or beat her but instead I end up hitting my hand on the wall or anything close to me,but one thing is I would like never lay my hands on her.

There was a day my little niece of about 3 years had me angry and I beat her like she was grown up but later i felt bad about it.
Some would say it is best you walk away right? Lol! Yeah I have tried walking away from but one thing I realized is once I am angry and I don't burst out immediately I end up feeling pained and the more I feel the pain ,the angrier I get.


So how do y'all get over your anger issues?

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Re: How Do You Control Your Anger? by Sonnobax15(m): 12:55am On Oct 10
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Yesterday I was really heart-broken by a banny whom I truly love....I didn't really think too much about it via say I was already getting used to the system already grin

Mennnnnnnn..like seriously if you dey play bet,you go by-force dey uses to how to control your anger cheesy

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Re: How Do You Control Your Anger? by Cyphar(m): 12:57am On Oct 10
When it's my woman I just stay silent. Or i just go out to a joint and smoke. tongue

When it is my mom... I'll not eat her food. That thing dey pain her ehh grin

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Re: How Do You Control Your Anger? by chatinent: 1:03am On Oct 10
I don't let it control me. I walk away.
Re: How Do You Control Your Anger? by Kobojunkie: 1:16am On Oct 10
Tbvxl:
Yes how do you control your anger?
These days my GF have been getting on my nerves to the extent I'd have this sudden feeling to slap her or beat her but instead I end up hitting my hand on the wall or anything close to me,but one thing is I would like never lay my hands on her.

There was a day my little niece of about 3 years had me angry and I beat her like she was grown up but later i felt bad about it.
Some would say it is best you walk away right? Lol! Yeah I have tried walking away from but one thing I realized is once I am angry and I don't burst out immediately I end up feeling pained and the more I feel the pain ,the angrier I get.

So how do y'all get over your anger issues?
You even assaulted a 3-year old and it doesn't occur to you still that you may have anger issues? undecided

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Re: How Do You Control Your Anger? by WoundedLamb: 1:31am On Oct 10
Kobojunkie:
You even assaulted a 3-year old and it doesn't occur to you still that you may have anger issues? undecided

You are probably right. But I think he knows this already. I mean, that's obviously why he created this thread. I just wonder why the anger issues only come up when he's dealing with those he's physically stronger than or those who can't do anything in retaliation. It would have been more apparent if it also leads to hit his boss at work or a military man in the street. For me, he's just a control freak. He believes certain people must follow his command, and when they don't, he gets mad. I'm not saying this to upset or attack him. I just think knowing the real issue is a perquisite to finding a solution.

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Re: How Do You Control Your Anger? by Tbvxl: 1:31am On Oct 10
Kobojunkie:
You even assaulted a 3-year old and it doesn't occur to you still that you may have anger issues? undecided



I have anger issues and it is really wearying me down
Re: How Do You Control Your Anger? by Tbvxl: 1:33am On Oct 10
WoundedLamb:


You are probably right. But I think he knows this already. I mean, that's obviously why he created this thread. I just wonder why the anger issues only come up when he's dealing with those he's physically stronger than or those who can't do anything in retaliation. It would have been more apparent if it also leads to hit his boss at work or a military man in the street. For me, he's just a control freak.





Lol! Just last week I fought with a friend all because of my anger issues.
I think I just need help
Re: How Do You Control Your Anger? by Kobojunkie: 1:38am On Oct 10
WoundedLamb:
You are probably right. But I think he knows this already. I mean, that's obviously why he created this thread. I just wonder why the anger issues only come up when he's dealing with those he's physically stronger than or those who can't do anything in retaliation. It would have been more apparent if it also leads to hit his boss at work or a military man in the street. For me, he's just a control freak.
I wouldn't create a thread on nairaland if I knew I had anger issues. Instead, I would be out there talking to the right professionals or doing actual research to find real solutions that I could implement and get working asap in my situation. So, no, it's not obvious at all that the OP realizes he has serious anger issues. undecided

I am really concerned that this man has a girlfriend that is a potential victim of abuse and a 3-year old who has already been traumatized by his lack of control. undecided
Re: How Do You Control Your Anger? by Kobojunkie: 1:39am On Oct 10
Tbvxl:
I have anger issues and it is really wearying me down
The impression I get from your OP is that of someone looking for a hi-five for assaulting others. If help is what you need, why not ask for help locating anger management counselors in your area, or something along those lines? undecided
Re: How Do You Control Your Anger? by WoundedLamb: 1:43am On Oct 10
Tbvxl:






Lol! Just last week I fought with a friend all because of my anger issues.
I think I just need help

The question is, what gets you so upset? Yes, you might have anger issues but the real problem is the trigger. Knowing the kind of things that discompose you would be the first step towards addressing the issue. If you get mad when things aren't done your way, then you need to work on your desire to always be in control. This is just an example. My point is, intense anger is a response you give when your brain can't come up others ways of addressing certain triggers. If you know those triggers and teach your brain how to address them, you'll see a difference.

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Re: How Do You Control Your Anger? by WoundedLamb: 2:00am On Oct 10
Kobojunkie:
I wouldn't create a thread on nairaland if I knew I had anger issues. Instead, I would be out there talking to the right professionals or doing actual research to find real solutions that I could implement and get working asap in my situation. So, no, it's not obvious at all that the OP realizes he has serious anger issues. undecided

I am really concerned that this man has a girlfriend that is a potential victim of abuse and a 3-year old who has already been traumatized by his lack of control. undecided

Yeah... but then we see people come here all the time to showcase thier skin disease and seek advice on how to cure them. They obviously know they have medical issues and that they need to a doctor, but they still come here nevertheless. Take OP as one of those. He created this thread to know how people have successfully handled thier anger issues in the past and that means he knows he's got the same problem himself. And he'd probably resort to seeing a shrimp if people who have had to deal with the plight tell him that's what they did. I mean, I'm not surprised someone would come to the internet first for a behavioral problem seeing how shrimps aren't popular in Nigeria.

And yes, I fear for the girlfriend too.
Re: How Do You Control Your Anger? by chukwuibuipob: 2:08am On Oct 10
sad Anger sad! Sha nor go find the trouble of Hungry pipu.Hungry pipu are Angry pipu
Re: How Do You Control Your Anger? by Mercychen(f): 6:05am On Oct 10
I used to get angry and react so irrationally. Like if Im angry I can say really nasty things.

I remember the day I was supposed to meet with a nairaland date. I got to the place before him after hoping he was already on his way. Meanwhile I had called severally before leaving the house to be sure where he was but he didn't pick. So I assumed he was on his way, only to get there and call and he told me he had not even taken his bath. Chai!!!!! And this person lives miles away from me. My head just sparked!

Right there on the phone, I began to say all manner of things. ( I didn't abuse him though). He tried to calm me down. No way, i was fuming and ranting. One mind told me, let this person go and bathe now instead of engaging him on phone and still delaying him. Then I cut the call.

After some mins, I called, he was just leaving the house. I started again.. lol.. that day I was really vexed!!! And I really showed it.

I used to overreact whenever I'm angry until the day I saw it boldly written at the RCCG camp that Anger lies in the bossom of a fool. So I said I don't wanna be a fool no more and started working on it.

what I do now whenever I'm angry, i just keep mute. Because if I talk, it would be worse than physically destroying things. So I'll just keep mute for like 30mins or an hour and be singing praises in my heart until I'm calm. This has worked tremendously for me.

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Re: How Do You Control Your Anger? by Pumpumking: 6:09am On Oct 10
Tbvxl:
Yes how do you control your anger?
These days my GF has been getting on my nerves to the extent I'd have this sudden feeling to slap her or beat her but instead I end up hitting my hand on the wall or anything close to me,but one thing is I would like never lay my hands on her.

There was a day my little niece of about 3 years had me angry and I beat her like she was grown up but later i felt bad about it.
Some would say it is best you walk away right? Lol! Yeah I have tried walking away from but one thing I realized is once I am angry and I don't burst out immediately I end up feeling pained and the more I feel the pain ,the angrier I get.


So how do y'all get over your anger issues?


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