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|How To Know When It's Time To End A Relationship by wendyberry(m): 2:19pm On Nov 06, 2021|
How to know when its time to end a relationship is a skill that's just as important but far less studied than knowing how to start things off. We're typically appalling at it. We mumble we delay, we become strange, we hedge.
And there's a reason we've messed things up so badly. It's not as if we're stupid, unskilled, or unkind. It's because we're attempting to be kind. All of our ineptness, ignorance, and brutality stem from this.
Because we are emotional, we strive not to be cold and instead attempt to be polite. The core of sentimentality is the want to be loved, even by people you don't like and can't stand. It's a selfish desire to keep receiving love's emotion without having to pay for it.
But kindness has no role whatsoever to play at the charred end of relationships. Being sweet and understanding merely prolongs the torture for the other person. If we are being so tender, is it possible that we truly mean the dark things we are ostensibly saying? Could we be so loving and, at the same time, calling it a day?
Above all, we must extinguish hope. We, on the other hand, waffle much too often. 'At the end of a relationship, it is the one who is not in love which delivers the sweet speeches,' Marcel Proust accurately noted. Parting lovers may find themselves in the bizarre scenario of one person grieving because they are being abandoned and the other crying because the announcement of the left has caused them anguish - tears that the abandoned party misinterprets as shows of caring.
The kindest way to end a relationship is to make extremely brutal speeches – of a sort that will leave the other person in no doubt at all that you're not an especially nice person. The truly courageous way to leave is to allow yourself to be hated by someone who loves you.
There's no time to waste. Don't fool yourself into thinking you're doing someone a favour by extending the time they may remain under the pleasant notion that you desire them. Their main concern is to quit squandering their lives. Don't trust them when they say they won't find anybody else like you; they may believe it now and perhaps tell you so lovingly. But when they do figure out who you are, they won't believe you. True compassion entails getting out – even if the vacation has already been planned and informing everyone at this late stage would be extremely embarrassing.
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|Re: How To Know When It's Time To End A Relationship by Godada(m): 2:39pm On Nov 06, 2021|
|Re: How To Know When It's Time To End A Relationship by slickycee: 2:43pm On Nov 06, 2021|
This is true and correct.
Op you're very smart to understand this.
The people that only hurts you with words and move on
Are by far the kindest.
|Re: How To Know When It's Time To End A Relationship by iamtardey: 2:46pm On Nov 06, 2021|
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|Re: How To Know When It's Time To End A Relationship by Bigpapi: 5:44am On Nov 07, 2021|
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|Re: How To Know When It's Time To End A Relationship by Boogyman557: 5:46am On Nov 07, 2021|
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