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Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Vinnie2000(m): 7:48am On Dec 29, 2021
siofra:


Thank you ma'am. As a virgin girl I appreciate this photo.

Nairaland men are so funny. They'll cherry pick only parts of the Bible that suits them. They'll insist on the part where women should stay chaste till marriage but ignore the part where Saint Paul says fornication is a sin irrespective of gender.

They think they have sense grin



This Siofra Babe though! sad smiley

According to the Englishman, He who Pays the piper dictates the Tunes!
In this case, the Person who spend Big Amounts as the Bride Price dictates the chastity status of the Partner!

I am sure you saw the Thread last 2 weeks when a 90 yr old Emir married a 20 yr old Girl!.. shocked sad
He Has the Money and His Making all the Choices for Himself!

If You have a Brother who has made Millions Abroad and he comes to Nigeria to look for a Wife, would you recommend a lady whom Lots of Guys have Sampled her coochie? sad embarassed

No, with his Financial Status, You would recommend something Fresh for him to Enjoy! tongue

So Dat's it! Stop the Self deceit and Unnecessary arguments!
Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Toks2008(m): 7:50am On Dec 29, 2021
siofra:


Thank you ma'am. As a virgin girl I appreciate this photo.

Nairaland men are so funny. They'll cherry pick only parts of the Bible that suits them. They'll insist on the part where women should stay chaste till marriage but ignore the part where Saint Paul says fornication is a sin irrespective of gender.

They think they have sense grin

Are you even making any sense?

How does this change the narrative?
Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by siofra(f): 7:55am On Dec 29, 2021
Toks2008:


Are you even making any sense?

How does this change the narrative?

If you men will agree to no sex before marriage then women will stay chaste before marriage like it used to be in the old days. But you people will not agree.

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Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Truvelisback(m): 8:03am On Dec 29, 2021
Toks2008:
This is not a thread to judge anyone or bring down any gender but it is an eye opener for the world to understand the importance of sexual chastity and perhaps we will start to train the girl child to understand the value of her sexuality, to make them understand that they own the key to a sexually chaste world, to learn how to say NO to guys who are ever willing to snatch their innocence and to teach them that GOD places a very high premium on their sexuality and sex before marriage is nothing to be proud of, to look away from the Satanic norm of having many husbands in the name of boy friends before actually settling down and to teach them how to guide their sexuality tenaciously until their wedding night.

Before i go on, let us take a look at the definition of a bride price and take a journey down into history of how bride price started and the importance of bride price both from the scriptures and from human tradition .

Bride Price :This is basically the money paid to the father of a female for taking her virginity.....By extension, it means if you are not the man who took her virginity, you have no business paying any bride price on her.

Exodus chapter 22 verse 16 to 17
“If a man seduces a virgin who is not betrothed and lies with her, he shall give the bride-price for her and make her his wife. If her father utterly refuses to give her to him, he shall pay money equal to the bride-price for virgins.”
Deuteronomy 22:28–29
“If a man meets a virgin who is not betrothed, and seizes her and lies with her, and they are found, then the man who lay with her shall give to the father of the young woman fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife, because he has violated her. He may not divorce her all his days.

As we all can clearly see in these scriptures, you are either a virgin or married and when a man have sex with a woman that is still a virgin, he has violated her and this is dishonest to her virginity and therefore he must pay the virgin price because the man has damaged the future of the lady.

An example about paying bride price from the scriptures was when Abraham bought gifts for Rebecca who happens to be a virgin
Genesis 24:16
The woman was very beautiful, a virgin; no man had ever slept with her. She went down to the spring, filled her jar and came up again. Then the servant brought out gold and silver jewelry and articles of clothing and gave them to Rebekah; he also gave costly gifts to her brother and to her mother. Genesis 24:53

Even The Quran sees it as Haram for a lady to have any sexual relation outside marriage.


FROM AFRICAN CULTURE AND TRADITION

Paying bride price is an age long practise in many African countries and beyond but it usually goes with what is called “Blood or sheet ceremonies or also called virginity testing,

This is designed to generate proof that a bride's sexual encounter with her new husband is her first sexual experience: blood on the sheets is, apparently, demonstration, that her hymen was ‘broken’ on her wedding night,” and once a lady fails this test. the man must take her back to her family and in some instances, accompany her with drummers singing songs of shame and the bride price he paid is returned to him.

CONCLUSION

As i wrote earlier, i am not judging anyone but this write up has clearly shown that Bride price or dowry as it is called in some places is only for virgin brides but this does not mean that a man can not still pay whatever he is asked just to show how deeply he desires the lady for a wife but be it as it may, it is imperative for any lady who wants to get married as a non virgin to calm down and not ask for too much because in the first instance, she does not deserve any bride price but ought to be given to the man totally free just to cover her shame.

I hope this makes sense.
The sense too much.

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Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Toks2008(m): 8:04am On Dec 29, 2021
siofra:


If you men will agree to no sex before marriage then women will stay chaste before marriage like it used to be in the old days. But you people will not agree.

Even me that wrote this will most likely ask a lady for sex before marriage but i will never Put a gun in her head or force my way in which means IF SHE SAYS NO, i will gladly let her be.

So please stop thinking this way.
Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Loreettaa: 8:08am On Dec 29, 2021
Another stupid take from a backward mindset. Lord knows I'll rather roast my hymen on the grill than date any of these paleolithic patriarchs on this forum.

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Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Vinnie2000(m): 8:21am On Dec 29, 2021
Loreettaa:
Another stupid take from a backward mindset. Lord knows I'll rather roast my hymen on the grill than date any of these paleolithic patriarchs on this forum.


Why not kukuma give it to MannaVultureGriller? cheesy grin grin

Jokes apart, u ladies need to tone it on the Aggression! sad
Trust me, if you were a Man, u wouldn't want a 'Pussy distributor' as Wife.. smiley

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Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by fati2001(m): 8:29am On Dec 29, 2021
odinson1:


There is nothing like A Male virgin,speaking from a biological and cultural standpoint.



EVERYTHING GO DOWNWARD IN AFRICA NIGERIA ACCORDING TO TRADITIONAL AND BIOLOGY cheesy



ONLY NIGERIAN MEN ARE FORBIDDEN TO BE VIRGIN "


https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/news/a54572/male-virgin-advice/&sa=U&ved=2ahUKEwjrgp-N8er0AhUF6aQKHWZDDbAQFnoECAwQAg&usg=AOvVaw2d6Oma_Y_ld32PFJrZo-U8

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Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Loreettaa: 8:29am On Dec 29, 2021
Vinnie2000:



Why not kukuma give it to MannaVultureGriller? cheesy grin grin

Jokes apart, u ladies need to tone it on the Aggression! sad
Trust me, if you were a Man, u wouldn't want a 'Pussy distributor' as Wife.. smiley
Give that advice to your sister. Not me.
Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Toks2008(m): 8:32am On Dec 29, 2021
Loreettaa:
Another stupid take from a backward mindset. Lord knows I'll rather roast my hymen on the grill than date any of these paleolithic patriarchs on this forum.

If you call this backward then I can only pity you and your daughters if you have any.

That you have accepted sexual recklessness does not mean it is the norm. You are the backward thinking fellow. Please change your mindset.

Ask yourself... If you are a man, will you even marry some of the ladies you know for free?

Yes Virginity does not define a woman but it goes a long way to define a
Her marital worthiness.

We are not judging anyone but let's say it as it is.

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Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by fati2001(m): 8:37am On Dec 29, 2021
Toks2008:


If you call this backward then I can only pity you and your daughters if you have any.

That you have accepted sexual recklessness does not mean it is the norm. You are the backward thinking fellow. Please change your mindset.

Ask yourself... If you are a man, will you even marry some of the ladies you know for free?

Who wants a free for all Lady for a wife?

Yes Virginity does not define a woman but it goes a long way to define a
Her marital worthiness.

same as Men! cheesy


keep ur body holy grin

you can't BE A SINNER AND STILL HAVE THE GUTS TO CRITICIZE cheesy

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Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Toks2008(m): 8:39am On Dec 29, 2021
fati2001:


same as Men! cheesy

See anytime I see anyone pull this string I just laugh at the lameness.

Sexual immorality is a sin both for men and women but it is utter foolishness to place a man and a woman in the same level when it comes to sexual chastity.

And mind you, nobody is criticizing anyone... We are not condemning anyone... We only say that do not deserve a bride price.. If you are not intelligent enough to Gerrit then firggerit.

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Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by fati2001(m): 8:43am On Dec 29, 2021
Toks2008:


See anytime I see anyone pull this string I just laugh at the lameness.

[s]Sexual immorality is a sin both for men and women but it is utter foolishness to place a man and a woman in the same level when it comes to sexual chastity.[/s]


I KNOW IT IS VERY TO PLACE A MAN AND WOMAN IN SAME LEVEL WHEN IT COMES TO SEXUAL THINGS


WHAT A CLOWN




MALE VIRGIN IS SAME AS FEMALE VIRGIN...

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Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Toks2008(m): 8:45am On Dec 29, 2021
fati2001:


I KNOW IT IS VERY TO PLACE A MAN AND WOMAN IN SAME LEVEL WHEN IT COMES TO SEXUAL THINGS


WHAT A CLOWN




MALE VIRGIN IS SAME AS FEMALE VIRGIN...



I'm sorry I even responded to you in the first instance..
Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by fati2001(m): 8:50am On Dec 29, 2021
Toks2008:


I'm sorry I even responded to you in the first instance..


BECAUSE YOU HYPOCRITE SELF IS JUDGING YOU
cheesy


SO NOW THE FORNICATORS ALL WANT A VIRGIN WIFE ,WHAT ABOUT THE VIRGIN MEN? I GUESS THEY SHOULD ALL RUN TO THE GIRLS YOU ALL SLEPT WITH....




KIAA DEVIL SABI WORK cheesycheesy


I'M A VIRGIN AND CAN'T STOOP SO LOW FOR A MAN THAT HAVE TASTED ALL THINGS UNDER SKIRT DURING HIS YOUTHFUL ERA angry it
is time for all the virgins to stand up [man and woman ] because this nonsense act is becoming unbearable YOU SHOULD ALL PLACE A HIGH DEMAND ON YOURSELVES

don't sit down and watch fornicators stealing away ur LAWFUL HOLY LAMB

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Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Toks2008(m): 8:58am On Dec 29, 2021
fati2001:



BECAUSE YOU HYPOCRITE SELF IS JUDGING YOU[/b] cheesy


SO NOW THE FORNICATORS ALL WANT A VIRGIN WIFE ,WHAT ABOUT THE VIRGIN MEN? I GUESS THEY SHOULD ALL RUN TO THE GIRLS YOU ALL SLEPT WITH....




KIAA DEVIL SABI WORK cheesycheesy


I'M A VIRGIN AND CAN'T STOOP SO LOW FOR A MAN THAT HAVE TASTED ALL THINGS UNDER SKIRT DURING HIS YOUTHFUL ERA angry it
it is time for all the virgins to stand up [man and woman ] because this nonsense act is becoming unbearable

I knew you are not a male cos no male will reason the way you do.

For the last time, this thread is not about judging anyone but just stating the fact that ONLY VIRGIN BRIDES DESERVE A BRIDE PRICE.

If you are not intelligent enough to grasp sorry I can't help you and if indeed you are a Virgin and you remain so till marriage THEN YOU DESERVE A BIG BRIDE PRICE.

It is only sad that you may wait forever if you want a Virgin groom but you just might be lucky if you allow me introduce my friend to you. He is a Virgin but strangely he is about 40 years.

If you miss this opportunity you may never see it again o.
Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by fati2001(m): 9:01am On Dec 29, 2021
[s]
Toks2008:


I knew you are not a male cos no male will reason the way you do.

For the last time, this thread is not about judging anyone but just stating the fact that ONLY VIRGIN BRIDES DESERVE A BRIDE PRICE.

If you are not intelligent enough to grasp sorry I can't help you and if indeed you are a Virgin and you remain so till marriage THEN YOU DESERVE A BIG BRIDE PRICE.

It is only sad that you may wait forever if you want a Virgin groom but you just might be lucky if you allow me introduce my friend to you. He is a Virgin but strangely he is about 40 years.

If you miss this opportunity you may never see it again o.
[/s]


STILL POINTLESS


VIRGIN GIRLS PLS SETTLE DOWN FOR A VIRGIN BOY....



DON'T GIVE UR BODY TO A PERSON THAT SLEPT WITH THOUSANDS SOULS DURING HIS /ER YOUTH ERA... .. [ MEN AND WOMEN ]

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Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Chloraseptic: 9:02am On Dec 29, 2021
Some Nairaland guys obsession with females is so creepy me thinks they are jobless..

Almost every guy here believes that 99 percents of Nigerian girls are olosho except their sisters and mother's. Funny guys.

Women and men have always been they way they are now right from time immemorial...

Y'all should just rest abeg..
Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Toks2008(m): 9:06am On Dec 29, 2021
fati2001:
[s][/s]


STILL POINTLESS


VIRGIN GIRLS PLS SETTLE DOWN FOR A VIRGIN BOY....

DON'T GIVE UR BODY TO A PERSON THAT SLEPT WITH THOUSANDS SOULS... [ MEN AND WOMEN ]

I'm enjoying this convo... OK so how will. You get a Virgin boy to marry?

Will you put up an Ad?, OK lemme guess... You will be asking any man that approaches you if he is a Virgin? grin

Babe abeg enjoy your day.
Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by fati2001(m): 9:12am On Dec 29, 2021
Toks2008:


I'm enjoying this convo... OK so how will. You get a Virgin boy to marry?

Will you put up an Ad?, OK lemme guess... You will be asking any man that approaches you if he is a Virgin? grin

Babe abeg enjoy your day.


yeap ,IT IS NOT A CRIME..


SINCE YOU GUYS ASKED WOMEN ABOUT THEIR SEXUAL HISTORIES ...


VIRGINS WISE UP DON'T BE A TERMINAL FOR A SCRAP CAR WITH A KNOCKED ENGINE angry


VIRGINS[MALE OR FEMALE ]PLACE YOURSELVES HIGH AMONG THEM FORNICATORS





VIRGIN OR NO PUBLIC COMMUNITY DICK HOLDER AS A SOULMATE

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Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Toks2008(m): 9:20am On Dec 29, 2021
fati2001:



yeap ,IT IS NOT A CRIME..


SINCE YOU GUYS ASKED WOMEN ABOUT THEIR SEXUAL HISTORIES ...


VIRGINS WISE UP DON'T BE A TERMINAL FOR A SCRAP CAR WITH A KNOCKED ENGINE angry


VIRGINS[MALE OR FEMALE ]PLACE YOURSELVES HIGH AMONG THEM FORNICATORS

OK for real I have a bestie who is a virgin and he is very interested in marrying only a virgin lady... Send me a PM and I will link you up... You know how difficult it is to get a male virgin.
Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by fati2001(m): 9:23am On Dec 29, 2021
Toks2008:


OK for real I have a bestie who is a virgin and he is very interested in marrying only a virgin lady... Send me a PM and I will link you up... [s]You know how difficult it is to get a male virgin.[/s]


NO BODY SHOULD CHOOSE FROM ME.. I CHOOSE BY MYSELF


AND VIRGIN MEN ARE EVERYWHERE JUST AS WATER, AIR, FIRE AND SAND cheesy

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Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Loreettaa: 9:54am On Dec 29, 2021
Toks2008:


If you call this backward then I can only pity you and your daughters if you have any.

That you have accepted sexual recklessness does not mean it is the norm. You are the backward thinking fellow. Please change your mindset.

Ask yourself... If you are a man, will you even marry some of the ladies you know for free?

Yes Virginity does not define a woman but it goes a long way to define a
Her marital worthiness.

We are not judging anyone but let's say it as it is.
Take several seats. Aren't you married? Your business should be what's between your wife's legs and not mine.
Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Toks2008(m): 10:05am On Dec 29, 2021
Loreettaa:

Take several seats. Aren't you married? Your business should be what's between your wife's legs and not mine.

Who are you for me to worry about? Stop feeling too important.

Focus on the subject matter.

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Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Toks2008(m): 10:06am On Dec 29, 2021
fati2001:



NO BODY SHOULD CHOOSE FROM ME.. I CHOOSE BY MYSELF


AND VIRGIN MEN ARE EVERYWHERE JUST AS WATER, AIR, FIRE AND SAND cheesy

Nah one sharp bad guy go marry you laslas cos ladies love bad guys.
Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by fati2001(m): 10:09am On Dec 29, 2021
Toks2008:


[s]nah one sharp bad guy go marry you laslas cos ladies love bad guys.
[/s]


HOW WISH NAH LIKE THAT I FOR DON BAD AND PUT MYSELF UNDER THAT..

SOME PEOPLE AND BASELESS DELUSION SELF MCHTWEEE

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Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Loreettaa: 10:18am On Dec 29, 2021
Toks2008:


Who are you for me to worry about? Stop feeling too important.

Focus on the subject matter.
Married man, what's your bloody business what people do with their privates?
Are you ready to divorce your wife or what? Hunting for a new one?

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Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Toks2008(m): 10:32am On Dec 29, 2021
Loreettaa:

Married man, what's your bloody business what people do with their privates?
Are you ready to divorce your wife or what? Hunting for a new one?

OH I just checked and realize it's you..

We have discussed this before, if you want me, I'm all yours... Remember what I wrote on the other thread... Marriage is an achievement for ladies but it is only a title for men.

Don't worry about my marital status, if you Wan do make you do... I will pay your bride price regardless and you will experience heaven on earth.
Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Loreettaa: 10:35am On Dec 29, 2021
Toks2008:


OH I just checked and realize it's you..

We have discussed this before, if you want me, I'm all yours... Remember what I wrote on the other thread... Marriage is an achievement for ladies but it is only a title for men.

Don't worry about my marital status, if you Wan do make you do... I will pay your bride price regardless and you will experience heaven on earth.
Noise

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Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Toks2008(m): 12:56pm On Dec 29, 2021
Loreettaa:

Noise

You no well.
Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Toks2008(m): 3:00pm On Dec 30, 2021
But why do some ladies get angry whenever they see threads like this?
Re: Dear Spinster, Do you deserve a Bride price? by Elporo(m): 3:14pm On Dec 30, 2021
Nairaland don open women nyash kpata kpata grin

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