Righteousness2:
When I see or hear things as these, I see more reasons to appreciate GOD for the Privilege HE gave to I and my siblings to Have Parents who didn't put us through things as these.

Young man! I Have seen reckless Homes mend together again.
I Have seen almost radical homes come together again in Love.
The Rallying point of these Homes was JESUS Christ.

The Missing link in your Home is JESUS Christ. I can tell you that for Free.
If you can embrace JESUS Christ and Stand in the Gap in Prayer for your Home, you will be Suprised how GOD will mend every Broken walls and restore Love and Unity in the Home.

I Have seen it Happen and I Believe Same will Happen in your Father's house. But Somebody needs to stand in the Gap.

Oluromantic:
Thank God you aren't a girl. This is how some girls develop feminism or stray into the hands of a deceptive lover outside home and I don't blame them. Theyre naturally unable to endure hardship for long. Yet some still won't respect those who can cus he's not looking rich. Myopic gender!

Firstly I salute your perseverance to still keep your sanity at this stage of the ordeal. It's clear you're going through psycho-emotional trauma. I understand the trauma really well cus I went through it too. I had to spend the day out and come back at dead night for a couple of days

Do you work? Perhaps you could get a roommate and share the rent even if it's a face-to-face apartment, it's not about big boy now, it's about not losing your mind and focus. That's your best option. On a second thought, if you have a relative or friend where you can lay your head at nights, reach out to them. If you're in school, stay put in the hostel and come home only when necessary.

But truth be told, you really need a job of you're not in school. God help you bro!

BRATISLAVA:
1.His mom is actually a victim. She must not have any options for her to stay with him. It's not like there are soup kitchens or rent free hostels in Nigeria if she decides to leave him.

2. Also Stockholm syndrome. She doesn't want to be a bad woman. Don't blame her, blame the society. There's nobody who wants to live or be treated like an animal.

Kobojunkie:
1. His mom may be a victim but she is also the reason her children remain in that situation so, she has her part in this as the OP rightly pointed out. Being a victim does not give one a pass on making right decisions of her own.

Not saying she's right, but we can try and empathize or understand her reasons for staying back. Her decisions are clouded by the abuse she suffered. She's been conditioned to stay there. Maybe if she had a way out she was leave him.

2. The Op clearly explains that the mom fights her husband and her reason for staying, again as explained by the OP, has to do with the kids and not a want of the man in question. She is afraid she may not be able to make it on her own out there. That no be Stockholm but anxiety.

Oh, I didn't see where she fought him. I think he mentioned the man beating her constantly. But that's for the OP to say. She might be afraid and anxious, but either way, she's still a victim. We can't blame the brutish nature of his father on his mother. One is the perp and the other a victim. It's hard to understand if you haven't encountered such a case before.

Righteousness2:


GOD Bless you my Brother. I received your message.

BRATISLAVA:
1.Not saying she's right, but we can try and empathize or understand her reasons for staying back. Her decisions are clouded by the abuse she suffered. She's been conditioned to stay there. Maybe if she had a way out she was leave him.

2. Oh, I didn't see where she fought him. I think he mentioned the man beating her constantly. But that's for the OP to say. She might be afraid and anxious, but either way, she's still a victim. We can't blame the brutish nature of his father on his mother. One is the perp and the other a victim. It's hard to understand if you haven't encountered such a case before.

Phillipsburg:


I'm only waiting around to be mobilized for service. So I still have about 3 months at least with them.

emdoni:
You can't say you won't forgive him, Since Christ has given us from all sins, you have no option not to forgive your dad, what he needs now is serious deliverance from the spirit of drinking and fighting, it's well.

Phillipsburg:
It's a long read because I had to pour out my mind wholeheartedly. Please endeavor to read through.



I so much hate my dad right now. And even my mom for supporting him. I can always remember how unfortunate it is for me to find myself in this family in the first place. Infact, not having a family is better than this living hell I found myself because these people are bent on ruining my future with their own life.

My father is the person who will be fighting with my mom in a brutally physical manner where they'd be running after themselves in the street after almost stripping themselves naked. He's the one who doesn't know how to reprimand his children except by using curses. He's the one who would go out and come back drunk and turn everywhere upside down. All these I've endured for almost every part of my life and my mom has refused to leave him saying because she has kids for him.
I know some of you people will start saying all manner of things about how you would have cherished your parents if you had one blah blah blah but this is hell. It's choking me I feel like dying.

I just met a girl who happened to be my girlfriend and we've been together for some time now and my father is help bent on separating us because he doesn't want me to marry close to him so that there wouldn't be clashes between him and the mother of the girl because he feels the woman is a violent person.
As they've turned the house into a place of sorrow, i couldn't think of spending even a minute inside the house. I usually spend the evening with this girl at her place and return when everyone at home must have slept. The next thing was for him to start cursing at the girl and even threatening to go to her house and throw tantrums.
I just want to get out of all these because it's choking me. I can't breathe. I feel like I'm losing my mind because of everything. The emotional torture I feel whenever they start fighting. How angry I feel when he starts cursing everyone and shouting at us in front of the house and disgracing everyone of us throughout the whole neighborhood. The way he go about gossiping and talking bad about his own children and wife to outsiders and the whole neighborhood. I'm sick of everything.

I just wish I was born without a family because I'm even afraid of imbibing his behaviors and acting like him when I later settle down. I will never forgive him for making me become who I don't want to be.

Phillipsburg:


I'm only waiting around to be mobilized for service. So I still have about 3 months at least with them.

Phillipsburg:
It's a long read because I had to pour out my mind wholeheartedly. Please endeavor to read through.



I so much hate my dad right now. And even my mom for supporting him. I can always remember how unfortunate it is for me to find myself in this family in the first place. Infact, not having a family is better than this living hell I found myself because these people are bent on ruining my future with their own life.

My father is the person who will be fighting with my mom in a brutally physical manner where they'd be running after themselves in the street after almost stripping themselves naked. He's the one who doesn't know how to reprimand his children except by using curses. He's the one who would go out and come back drunk and turn everywhere upside down. All these I've endured for almost every part of my life and my mom has refused to leave him saying because she has kids for him.
I know some of you people will start saying all manner of things about how you would have cherished your parents if you had one blah blah blah but this is hell. It's choking me I feel like dying.

I just met a girl who happened to be my girlfriend and we've been together for some time now and my father is help bent on separating us because he doesn't want me to marry close to him so that there wouldn't be clashes between him and the mother of the girl because he feels the woman is a violent person.
As they've turned the house into a place of sorrow, i couldn't think of spending even a minute inside the house. I usually spend the evening with this girl at her place and return when everyone at home must have slept. The next thing was for him to start cursing at the girl and even threatening to go to her house and throw tantrums.
I just want to get out of all these because it's choking me. I can't breathe. I feel like I'm losing my mind because of everything. The emotional torture I feel whenever they start fighting. How angry I feel when he starts cursing everyone and shouting at us in front of the house and disgracing everyone of us throughout the whole neighborhood. The way he go about gossiping and talking bad about his own children and wife to outsiders and the whole neighborhood. I'm sick of everything.

I just wish I was born without a family because I'm even afraid of imbibing his behaviors and acting like him when I later settle down. I will never forgive him for making me become who I don't want to be.