phymba:

Dear Nairalanders,

I am an Ibo man who has dated a yoruba lady for 6 years now. Six months ago we

had our full introduction. Things were good. We have even fixed a date agreed to

by both families and printed our wedding card. A few days ago we had a

misunderstanding. She confessed to me that while we dated, she slept with another man

because she had financial need and i was not buoyant then (she did not ask me for

this cash.) This incident was almost three years ago


In the confusion of the moment, i voiced  out loud that i do not think our wedding

would hold. I was confused how this could have happened.She was in agony and really

grieved. She went home weeping and informed her parents. Though later in the day, i called

to tell her that all was forgiven since she already confessed. I was willing to go

ahead. I visited her people since she involved them and explained that i was

willing to carry on.

Now the lady says she has doubts concerning my affections and on

this doubt cannot continue with me. I love her and am ready to go through.I have begged

her and done everything i know, she still insists that she has doubt because i

hesitated in my forgiveness. Somebody help me out here before our issues becomes

"stories that touch".

Where did i go wrong Please, please advice me!!!!

jennykadry:

You are too weak to be an Igbo man. I cannot believe you are even begging her, seriously. You have the right to be pissed off but you ''crying'' and begging her is just annoying

jennykadry:

^^ sharappp diaaaa jooo, new bie indeed

tru2u:

Phymba, i see strength where others see weakness. kudos to her for confessing and more kudos
2u for the forgiveness. it is not a weakness pls,pls. it only shows what real love/care is.
I hope our men here will read and learn. Your reaction is rare and commendable. But if she still behaves
crazy, maybe it's now spiritual which she will regret, trust me, it happened to my sis.
Take heart and go get her.