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jay bee:
@OP
u and men problems at this tender age of urs

ogugua88:
Since when is being normal a problem?

Money can't buy you love or happiness, as he has proven to you.

190:
[color=RED]Lacrissa have u ever dated a REAL MAN   [/color]

jay bee:
@OP
u and men problems at this tender age of urs

Lacrissa:
I agree with you a 100 percent. It's just that since i came back, see the way they all are treating me, my uncles, family members, friends that the man that would marry me with the way I look, they would enjoy, drinks and all that- I know they all are joking. Then my brother now. I am still young and so is the guy but he is not from a very rich family.

Nekai:
OP, don't put the cart before the horse. There are so many things a gal like u can be focused on instead of hypothetical scenarios.  

Listen 2 the wise words of jay bee.

jay bee:
I have advised you numerous times on this board to focus more on other things cos you don't seem to be able to hold your own in relationships.
Just sort of wondering why that solid advice is being met with deaf ears.


You seriously need to take a break

ogugua88:
Well, ignore parents to an extent. After they have pushed you into marrying a wealthy man who turns out to be a wife-beater, they will push you to leave that same man with lightning speed and then tell you "I'm sorry". Crocodile tears and apologies.

You are living your life for you, not for anyone else. Parents and siblings are just as human as you are. Just because they are old doesn't mean they aren't capable of making mistakes. Just because your parents have married doesn't mean what they did is best for you. Everyone is different. You are the one in love with this man, not your parents, your brother, or anyone else.

Yes, as the saying goes, the old man can see sitting down what the young man sees standing on a tree, but it doesn't mean the old man has 20/20 vision. Take everything with a grain of salt. Consider what they're saying, but do what you feel is best for you. A man doesn't need money to prove how much he loves you. A man does need love, for you and from you, to be willing to go to any length to provide for you. Do keep that in mind.

There is this guy in the US I was seeing before coming to Naija so basically doing long distance or so, but the problem is he is just a normal guy. When I say normal, i mean not really rich and of course does not have the "wow" factor. I on the other hand, I am really pretty and my elder brother is always talking of class, wealth, name etc

Today he went to my laptop and saw my skype and the guy from the US and started telling me what kind of funny name does he have and all that, If the person isn't the president's son or from a very rich family, then nothing.

I am already thinking twice, if eventually our relationship grows, how i would introduce him to the family and all that or if i should just start with another person.

P.S he is really good to me and loves me sooooooo much but he is not all that rich compared to my family.

Please no insults or critique, I'm only asking for your thoughts, opinions and advice. Thanks

Na wa oO! So people like me who eat ones a day due to no money, no food, no go fit marry pple wey come from OBODO-OYINBO(America), oh oh A question for you: Where is your brother working??

Lacrissa:
I understand what you both are trying to say but why would you think my relationship is the center of my life? And yes I am young but I am also a UNI graduate. Graduated even last year and how old must a girl be, before she starts having people in her life to know better, date, court and eventually marry? When she's 30 or what?


It's not even my parents, it's my elder brother. Everytime, class, where they are from etc and it's bothering me, but yes I agree with you.


P.S @ Jaybee, I got other plans of my own, not just the relationship aspect. I am even trying to set up a mini store here in Naija (Cosmetics from abroad)

It's not even my parents, it's my elder brother. Everytime, class, where they are from etc and it's bothering me, but yes I agree with you.


P.S @ Jaybee, I got other plans of my own, not just the relationship aspect. I am even trying to set up a mini store here in Naija (Cosmetics from abroad)

henn!! Abeg no forget add bleaching cream, make me self be like Michael jacko

Cuddlemii:
Too much details madam. I can see the mouth thing runs in the family. Why not keep it in the family and marry the top shot brother.

tellwisdom:

Na wa oO! So people like me who eat ones a day due to no money, no food, no go fit marry pple wey come from OBODO-OYINBO(America), oh oh A question for you: Where is your brother working??

Cuddlemii:
@poster
I always discuss the undiscussed. I dont even care about money, your brother's tantrums and your age. I care about the long distance thingy where you date via skype etc. Babes please its better you get a church rat here in naija that you can see and date.

Forget all those yankee based fiancee or relationships oh, its a 70/30 chance and you might end up wasting your time to the age that your "wealthy and classy" brother might be your only resort. What steps has yankee lover taken towards your marrying you, have you met his people?

Was mentioning you being pretty necessary at all. Anyways, thats the more reason you should quickly get a stable guy here now that u still got it.

Lacrissa:
What mouth thing? I stated that to emphasize a something to him so what are you talking about? Go take a hike somewhere please.

Cuddlemii:
Whats wrong with you? Im just advicing u stop publicizing your biz plans in public. You have goals and plans would have been more appropriate. Whats our own with cosmetic shop from US, thats even a biz that is everywhere in naija.

Anyways best of luck with your choices and if the yankee guy makes u happy then stick with him cos happiness is what matters. If he treats you well then good for u cos a poor guy that treats u like a jewel is better than a king that treates u like a slave.

tblacker:
OP
Your heading and contents got me confuse. The heading suggest to me that you are about to say yes to someone that is asking your hand in marriage but the content is only talking about a relationship. I'd go with the content anyway. I assume you are already double-dating with all you have said because there is motive. You can plan your life around the yankee guy if you feel safe with him and he is treating you just the way you wanted it. Giving another guy some chance into your heart is just what I can not fathom in this your case,the guy that is not doing well and you already have your fears for him.Have you imagine how miserable the dude would feel if your heart is a mirrior and he can see all the thought running in your mind as regards him?

My advice,if you are still going back and the yankee guy is for real,turn whatever you have for the modest 9ja guy into friendship and face the man after your heart.

As for the age,I can't imagine calling a graduate a kid,so that is out of picture for me.Getting married at early age is an advantage as far as am concern.

P.S if you have a doubt in your mind about the yankee guy,roll on with the 9ja guy and ignore all the drama from your brother and encourage your guy to brave it out. Good luck dear.

He works in a good firm. We are doing well, we may not be the president's children or Dangote family but we are doing ok. He just sometimes want to bite more than he can chew. I know it's good to think big but man! to some extent.

Mehnn, una matter  tire me!