Hello dear Nairaland

I have been dating a girl for the past 5 years she has every thing I want in a lady but she’s too dependent since I have been dating her I buy from latest iPhones to sanitary pads , data , house rent , I even sent her to a fashion school which I spent millions on her, when she was at the fashion school.

Ever since she has resumed her school I told her won’t she be doing something in school like handling her friends and clients wears like sowing and selling quality materials I promise to open website , create mobile app , register her company , open cooperate account for her she’s yet to believe she can start making money her self .

During the conversation she told me how do I expect her to cope with class I was like woman I only allowed you to school because you should be able to stand out at-least you are not working for any one even when we get married she insists until she finish her school honestly I was pissed and decided not to give her any penny again until she fix her self..

Because I am a business man I have businesses running I believe my partner should also be doing something for her self not depending on me most time I don’t feel comfortable spending a dime on her again..

I need advice..

Not me reading a fool's fable on a Sunday morning.

Learn to say no...

You're the problem...

Who would turn down a free meal?

Boundaries... These are of utmost importance in a relationship!

Gadaf007:
Hello dear Nairaland

I have been dating a girl for the past 5 years she has every thing I want in a lady but she’s too dependent since I have been dating her I buy from latest iPhones to sanitary pads , data , house rent , I even sent her to a fashion school which I spent millions on her, when she was at the fashion school.

Ever since she has resumed her school I told her won’t she be doing something in school like handling her friends and clients wears like sowing and selling quality materials I promise to open website , create mobile app , register her company , open cooperate account for her she’s yet to believe she can start making money her self .

During the conversation she told me how do I expect her to cope with class I was like woman I only allowed you to school because you should be able to stand out at-least you are not working for any one even when we get married she insists until she finish her school honestly I was pissed and decided not to give her any penny again until she fix her self..

Because I am a business man I have businesses running I believe my partner should also be doing something for her self not depending on me most time I don’t feel comfortable spending a dime on her again..

I need advice..

This your story tho... Latest iPhones, millions, house rent...

Jennyclay:
LIES!!! Another thread to bash, Insults, humiliate and disparage Ladies.

You just created a new account to insult women. You better go and find something to do with your life.

Lady I am not insulting any one I never wanted to use my main account for this purpose if you can’t contribute maturely to this post you can unfollow this post

Ain't you men tired of opening threads about women just for clickbit. But if this story is true, OP " your money, your choice". Dont come and disturb us, you should learn how to make decisions by yourself "as a man" and stop looking for public validations/opinions.

Gadaf007:


Lady I am not insulting any one I never wanted to use my main account for this purpose if you can’t contribute maturely to this post you can unfollow this post

Don't you know frustrated red hungry pillers men on this forum would start insulting and bashing ladies before of this your fake story.

Jennyclay:
Don't you know frustrated red hungry pillers men on this forum would start insulting and bashing ladies before of this your fake story.

Stop being defensive and calling my true life story fake I don’t want want insults I want advice okay

Nigeria girl go suck you die..
Do anything to avoid Nigeria girl

Gadaf007:
Hello dear Nairaland

I have been dating a girl for the past 5 years she has every thing I want in a lady but she’s too dependent since I have been dating her I buy from latest iPhones to sanitary pads , data , house rent , I even sent her to a fashion school which I spent millions on her, when she was at the fashion school.

Ever since she has resumed her school I told her won’t she be doing something in school like handling her friends and clients wears like sowing and selling quality materials I promise to open website , create mobile app , register her company , open cooperate account for her she’s yet to believe she can start making money her self .

During the conversation she told me how do I expect her to cope with class I was like woman I only allowed you to school because you should be able to stand out at-least you are not working for any one even when we get married she insists until she finish her school honestly I was pissed and decided not to give her any penny again until she fix her self..

Because I am a business man I have businesses running I believe my partner should also be doing something for her self not depending on me most time I don’t feel comfortable spending a dime on her again..

I need advice..

Nigeria girls are liability

Gadaf007:



Stop being defensive and calling my true life story fake I don’t want want insults I want advice okay

Okay Sir, I have heard. Let the gullible ones give you advice oo.

#catwalking out of this thread.

mcmurphy132:
Nigeria girl go suck you die..
Do anything to avoid Nigeria girl

Nothing to even suck from you sef

Qatar2022:

Nigeria girls are liability

Hope you're not a liability to your mother who gave birth to you?

Jennyclay:
Okay Sir, I have heard. Let the gullible ones give you advice oo.

#Walking out of the thread.

Thank you understanding

Gadaf007:
Hello dear Nairaland

I have been dating a girl for the past 5 years she has every thing I want in a lady but she’s too dependent since I have been dating her I buy from latest iPhones to sanitary pads , data , house rent , I even sent her to a fashion school which I spent millions on her, when she was at the fashion school.

Ever since she has resumed her school I told her won’t she be doing something in school like handling her friends and clients wears like sowing and selling quality materials I promise to open website , create mobile app , register her company , open cooperate account for her she’s yet to believe she can start making money her self .

During the conversation she told me how do I expect her to cope with class I was like woman I only allowed you to school because you should be able to stand out at-least you are not working for any one even when we get married she insists until she finish her school honestly I was pissed and decided not to give her any penny again until she fix her self..

Because I am a business man I have businesses running I believe my partner should also be doing something for her self not depending on me most time I don’t feel comfortable spending a dime on her again..

I need advice..

Have you spent millions on your immediate family?

hmmmm Bros, suffree na! Haba!

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Nothing to even suck from you sef



Hope you're not a liability to your mother who gave birth to you?[/quote
It has not change anything, you're a liability

I had a good laugh reading this.

The fashion school must be in Paris or new York.


Kindly allow the girl enjoy her stupendously rich boyfriend's wealth.

Thanks.

Let me be real with you OP;

From my huge wealth of experience, I've realized that not everyone is born to become an entrepreneur.

I once put a lot of pressure on my babe like this. Dammit, shît wasn't working. Then I switched; I began to explore and feed her passion. Today, the story is different.

Ocholu:
Let me be real with you OP;

From my huge wealth of experience, I've realized that not everyone is born to become an entrepreneur.

I once put a lot of pressure on my babe like this. Dammit, shît wasn't working. Then I switched; I began to explore and feed her passion. Today, the story is different.

Thanks for your contributions

What do you suggest ?

Which passion if hers did you feed, please?

Ocholu:
Let me be real with you OP;

From my huge wealth of experience, I've realized that not everyone is born to become an entrepreneur.

I once put a lot of pressure on my babe like this. Dammit, shît wasn't working. Then I switched; I began to explore and feed her passion. Today, the story is different.

Which passion of hers did you feed, please?

doggedfighter:
Which passion if hers did you feed, please?

She loves fashion she already Learnt how to sow in a local way, that why I enrolled her into fashion school and she’s very good sowing after her graduation so I expect she should be up a-least for her self doing the little she can.. she will be graduating in next 2 years in uni does she expect me to allow her put all those skill to test after 2-3 years I am scared of marrying a lazy lady

doggedfighter:


Which passion of hers did you feed, please?

Remove your mind from the gutter jorrie.

Ocholu:


Remove your mind from the gutter jorrie.

Oh, so sorry you misunderstood this question.

I just wanted to know her passion.

Nothing more .

Miniano:


She loves fashion she already Learnt how to sow in a local way, that why I enrolled her into fashion school and she’s very good sowing after her graduation so I expect she should be up a-least for her self doing the little she can.. she will be graduating in next 2 years in uni does she expect me to allow her put all those skill to test after 2-3 years I am scared of marrying a lazy lady

Please she's not lazy. Not everyone is good at multitasking.


Juggling things is a lot for some people.

Don't lose a good woman because of something you can circumvent.



Relax and enjoy the woman you have built over the years.

Don't work for another to eat.


Give her time to concentrate on school.

After that you plan again.


Nairaland boys will come here to spew trash .

It draws blood from their eyes when a man spends and better the life of his woman.

Work with your woman at her own pace.

The final decision is yours to make.

Gadaf007:
Hello dear Nairaland

I have been dating a girl for the past 5 years she has every thing I want in a lady but she’s too dependent since I have been dating her I buy from latest iPhones to sanitary pads , data , house rent , I even sent her to a fashion school which I spent millions on her, when she was at the fashion school.

Ever since she has resumed her school I told her won’t she be doing something in school like handling her friends and clients wears like sowing and selling quality materials I promise to open website , create mobile app , register her company , open cooperate account for her she’s yet to believe she can start making money her self .

During the conversation she told me how do I expect her to cope with class I was like woman I only allowed you to school because you should be able to stand out at-least you are not working for any one even when we get married she insists until she finish her school honestly I was pissed and decided not to give her any penny again until she fix her self..

Because I am a business man I have businesses running I believe my partner should also be doing something for her self not depending on me most time I don’t feel comfortable spending a dime on her again..

I need advice..

If what you wrote up there not imagination, you are going to regret if you eventually got married to her

Oga by buying everything ur lady wants for her, is not the way to show love ooooo

Life is ups and downs, by starving her with her desires once in a while even if you can afford, is the best way to bring up woman, even kids as well, this would toughening them to be able to stand the test of time during the time of unpleasant situations oooo

Fiscus105:



If what you wrote up there not imagination, you are going to regret if you eventually got married to her

It’s not imagination this is my true life story.

Thank you for your contribution

doggedfighter:


Please she's not lazy. Not everyone is good at multitasking.


Juggling things is a lot for some people.

Don't lose a good woman because of something you can circumvent.



Relax and enjoy the woman you have built over the years.

Don't work for another to eat.


Give her time to concentrate on school.

After that you plan again.

I don’t just like people feeling too comfortable around me without doing anything to make funds…


Thank you for your contribution

Miniano:


Thanks for your contributions

What do you suggest ?

Trust me, she already knows the kinda person you are. She also feels the pressure you've literally embedded in her especially as regarding making money. But, like I implored earlier, not everyone is cut for the serious rudiments of scaling a business.

Some are good in management;
Sales;
Innovation;
Etcetera.

If you've been with her for that long, you'd have noticed some characteristics in her that can be explored or tweaked that can bring in income.
She may also be built for premium products/designs. Hence, her desire to finish the school before she begins to create her ideas for sell. People like that are near perfectionist. Steve Jobs; founder of Apple Inc and the founder of Hawei are typical examples. Na only premium products them de build. But before that, they don't rush to start building a product or service.

Ocholu:


Trust me, she already knows the kinda person you are. She also feels the pressure you've literally embedded in her especially as regarding making money. But, like I implored earlier, not everyone is cut for the serious rudiments of scaling a business.

Some are good in management;
Sales;
Innovation;
Etcetera.

If you've been with her for that long, you'd have noticed some characteristics in her that can be explored or tweaked that can bring in income.
She may also be built for premium products/designs. Hence, her desire to finish the school before she begins to create her ideas for sell. People like that are near perfectionist. Steve Jobs; founder of Apple Inc and the founder of Hawei are typical examples. Na only premium products them de build. But before that, they don't rush to start building a product or service.

appreciate this

Thumbs up �

Datboredberri:
Learn to say no...

You're the problem...

Who would turn down a free meal?

Boundaries... These are of utmost importance in a relationship!

What boundaries are you talking about, Berry?

I am trying understand the place of boundaries in this case?