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Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by Nooneonline(m): 6:08pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
LilMissFavvy:u are very wrong 7 Likes |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by Nobody: 10:16pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
jaszplus12:I know why the mixed feelings but nothing to worry much , you can start lecturing her on sex education & personal hygiene . 4 Likes |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by jaszplus12(m): 10:20pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
oke2018:Very much so! Thank you for the encouragement... Already informed her on hygiene... gradually move on from there... |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by Nobody: 11:48pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
jaszplus12:You're welcome good to see that we still have some responsible fathers in this present generation , God will strengthen you & give you the wisdom needed in grooming your daughter becoming the woman you want her to be. 6 Likes |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by jaszplus12(m): 11:57pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
oke2018:A thunderous AMEN to your prayers! And wish for you even greater blessings! |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by Nobody: 8:05am On Mar 01, 2022 |
jaszplus12:Amen 5 Likes |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by VEXT: 12:40pm On Mar 01, 2022 |
oke2018: There are more responsible father's than responsible mother's out there... 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by Nobody: 2:11pm On Mar 01, 2022 |
VEXT:I'm not arguing with you. 9 Likes |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by dahmie2013: 7:50am On Mar 02, 2022 |
Congratulations, mine was at the age of 9. 5 Likes |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by jaszplus12(m): 2:10pm On May 14, 2022 |
dahmie2013:Wow! Frightening!! |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by Nekky5(f): 6:35pm On May 14, 2022 |
Hahaha!!! every girl child deserves some love from her parents while growing up. It is in the course of teaching them to know their bodies, sex education and all that it entails, would makes us not lose them to the wrong people. They become our friends when you become theirs First. 7 Likes |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by HeyHey(f): 9:12pm On May 14, 2022 |
My experience was not pleasant. When I started, it was on a Saturday. I was 11, I went to wee when I saw the stain. I told my mum, she said I should get pieces cloth and use (in 2007-/08, when pad was every where). She said she didn’t have money for pad (which was a lie bc she owned 2 cars), later she gave me tissue paper to use. The tissue paper kept moving to the side and scattering on the floor while I was walking. Once she saw the tissue paper and started shouting for the whole house to hear that I was on period and scattering tissue round the house. After then, my male cousin will make remarks like “rotten egg is smelling “ etc. if I make any mistake that time, what I will hear is “you no be small pikin, no be breast Dey your chest so”, it was extremely embarrassing I went to pay phone to call my sister, she came home from university. Gave me always and explained menstruation, ovulation, a cycle, hygiene and abstinence to me. She go me roll on, body sprays too. And encourage me to be very neat while it’s flows. Sir, it’s good you are interested. Kindly let your daughter know (together with your madam), what is involved. How to take care of herself, wash up, hygiene generally. What the implications of menstruation are, the pain and how to deal with it ( a lot of people attribute bad behavior to menses, saying it’s mood swing etc. I believe people should be kind through their period instead of creating excuses) Though there is actually hormonal changes, lots of purging, pain, and sometimes stains. How to embrace her new changes and adapt to them 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by emmanuelbrown26: 10:11pm On May 14, 2022 |
VEXT:Gbamsolutely. U hv said it all, I hv being seen more responsible fathers than mothers. Just go to any drug store around u and hear d koko. A mother would be billed some thousands Naira of drugs,the next thing u go hear na,when d papa return from work I go buy am 1 Like |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by Pascopele: 1:30am On May 15, 2022 |
ALL my daughter are given sex education from age 8 Sex education, I make sure they are still intact till eldest left for college. I monitor their periods like a hawk and any small thing na hospital straight. I personally teach them their cycles days, how to place the pad on their pants & make them understand if they wish to have sex it's their choice but condom is a MUST. However, I kept some sex book in my room and would ask them to bring another book close to it for me. I know this would make them read the book since my adult kids are d curios type. As for the boys, I know they already know something I give them a twenty leaf excercise book and tell them to write all they know about Hiv/Aids. Once they are about to enter college we'd sit and talk and the subject might go into s.ex at some point and I'd tell my daughters not to sleep with any man and all that but if they wish to condom is a MUST. As some grew older, I usually would ask if they'd a boyfriend. Once in a while I'd chip in the 'if you want to have sexx, make sure you use a condom. Don't let the man deceive you into not using a condom' advise. I remember when went to visit my daughter one certain time in college. I told her I saw the por'n she'd been watching in my dvd and some more in my book rack. She was embarassed but I just laughed about it. All in all, I was okay. Sex education lecture on SafeHavenJoint telegram channel Don't miss it 9 Likes |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by QuinModah(f): 1:43am On May 15, 2022 |
I was home, i was 13 then, everyone was around, watching a movie on a weekend I think, went to pee then noticed my pant stained, I panicked, stood in the toilet for 30 minutes didn't know what to do, I thought I injured myself down there but I didn't feel pain, I pressed the place no pain, I was pacing, looking at the ceiling thinking if I'm dying cos my mum being a nurse said once you start bleeding non stop in a sensitive place, you're dying, but she didn't say where I pee from was part of it, I was on the verge of tears when my elder sis came and I explained things to her, she just smiled, brought out pad and fixed it for me, then she explained how it is done, do you know that when she told my mum, she just looked at me and removed face, I was never given a sex education angry Honestly our ancient parents nor try at all, most didn't teach their offspring basic teaching on sex and all, we all should do better with our kids please, it can prevent soo many ills. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by Lamanii22(f): 2:20am On May 15, 2022 |
Wooow… I didn’t start mine til I was 16…. I like fathers that are very much present in the lives of their children… I have a daughter now and it gives me joy whenever she’s with her dad….. 9 Likes |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by Oyindamolah: 2:35am On May 15, 2022 |
Mine: I started mine in school Jss 3 when I was , I already knew what it was so I went to the school canteen, bought a pad and cleaned myself up, when I told my mom, she said I should not allow men to touch me that I shouldn't even shake hands with them unless I will get pregnant and if I get pregnant that she will just carry her grand child and deny me, I used up to 5 pads that day not because it was heavy flow ooo, I just wanted to do big girl 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by Hamachi(f): 2:37am On May 15, 2022 |
So, two ladies stepped into our school compound to advertise and create awareness about always ultra pad. They were moving from one class to another with loads of pad. Before they stepped into our class, most of the boys in my class were already saying it that; those ladies came to distribute female bumbum special bread. I was just shinning my teeth grin cos it was a hilarious statement grin. Las las, they stepped into our class and shared one pack of pad (always ultra) each to every female student after a brief health talk on personal hygiene and how to use the pad during emmenia. When I got home, I shew it to mumsy and her reply was in one sentence "go and keep it for yourself". I hearkened to her immediately. One certain morning, after about a week I noticed that I was having an unusual slight abdominal cramp; I overlooked it and went to to take my shower, that was where i discovered blood stain in between my thigh. Immediately my mind flashed back to the female bumbum special bread grin and mumsy's word. Even without letting mumsy to know, i tore the pack and pick up one and put it in my vulva. It was a concomitant occurrence. It all happened while I was in JSS one 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by lavylilly: 2:41am On May 15, 2022 |
I saw mine SS1, before then we have been reading "hints magazine" so coupled with the little our home mistress told us,I was comfortable with myself the day I saw mine. I menstruated for over a year before my mum got to know. She couldn't even educate me,I guarded myself all through. I promised my girl kids education about this and sex education at their 10th year. I can't hide it from them. 10 Likes 1 Share
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Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by lavylilly: 2:43am On May 15, 2022 |
emmanuelbrown26:smh |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by Threesha(f): 3:18am On May 15, 2022 |
In my school pupils of about 9 years and above were taken into different rooms (girls by a few female teachers and boys by male teachers) and taught about the reproductive system and changes that will take place in their bodies. Older girls were told to share their first experiences. In addition we learnt about reproduction in class. However, my grandmother had told my sister and I that if we sleep with boys, we would *see red*. So despite all the lessons in my head I was like, "I can't menstruate because I don't *play with boys*. One day after break I started feeling some pain in my stomach. I was about 13. We had been told about all the signs and I could tell that something was wrong somewhere. I was scared. At the same time I thought it could not come (coz of granny's claim). We walked out of the class to go for lunch. I was so scared that I didn't even want to check my dress. I was walking with a group of girls. One of them came and tied her sweater around my waist and said, " You have soiled your dress." I went home and didn't come back to school that day. I think I shed some tears 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by emmanuelbrown26: 6:21am On May 15, 2022 |
lavylilly:Shake it very very well before boko go cut am |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by jaszplus12(m): 3:53pm On May 16, 2022 |
Nekky5:This formular equals to successful parenting!! |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by jaszplus12(m): 3:58pm On May 16, 2022 |
HeyHey:Thank you for this imput and I'm very sorry about how you were traumatized at the beginning. Hopeful that you have healed. Yes... I'm always open to all my children. The boys are also informed to help her go through any situation... We are on hand for our children's growing up years! God bless us all... |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by jaszplus12(m): 4:01pm On May 16, 2022 |
Pascopele:I'm learning from you sir! Great work!! 3 Likes |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by jaszplus12(m): 4:03pm On May 16, 2022 |
Lamanii22:Good to hear! |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by jaszplus12(m): 4:04pm On May 16, 2022 |
Oyindamolah:Big girl!!! Funny too.... Thank you! 4 Likes |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by jaszplus12(m): 4:08pm On May 16, 2022 |
lavylilly:Wow.... Some experiences are really incomprehensible! Parents didn't know you were having periods for a whole year?? Thank God you were capable!! |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by DrFunmisticGlow: 5:49pm On May 16, 2022 |
Beremx:menstruation is not beautiful, it's icky and uncomfortable. 6 Likes |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by Beremx(f): 6:02pm On May 16, 2022 |
DrFunmisticGlow:that’s your own wahala. Mine was a beautiful experience |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by Pascopele: 6:56pm On May 16, 2022 |
jaszplus12: 2 Likes |
Re: My Daughter's First Menses! by DrFunmisticGlow: 1:51am On May 17, 2022 |
Beremx:what was beautiful about it? 8 Likes |
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