Hello nairaland, please allow me pick your brain. A young lady who attends a different church from her mother's, is about to be married and the mother threatened not to attend if the solemnization isn't done in her church. Is it that serious?

This is actually sad cuz no church wedding for me unless ileave this judgemental country

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Parents church,she should honour her parents

Iyaebe:
Parents church,she should honour her parents

l stand with you

Iyaebe:
Parents church,she should honour her parents

I concur

If your parents insist it should be done in their church kindly oblige them.

My church will tell you during marriage counseling if your parents insist do the solemnization there, several cases of couples having their marriage counseling in my church and then travel down to the parents church for solemnization in the parents church e. G Baptist, Anglican etc, lots of our parents attend the orthodox churches.

These things are not that hard.

Diarygirl:
Hello nairaland, please allow me pick your brain. A young lady who attends a different church from her mother's, is about to be married and the mother threatened not to attend if the solemnization isn't done in her church. Is it that serious?

you have to look at it with these 4 points

1 is it fair for someone to have part of their dream be cut to fullfil someone dream's ? do you still call it your dream wedding or mum's dream wedding, You can only wed once no one should impose their wish on someone special day

2 Having been going to her own church means she has more support from people within her church its easy to navigate etc then her mums

3 The mum is doing it for her own pride, would she be happy if eg her own mum insist that their own aniversary should be done at her mum's church than her own ?

4 there are things you can honour other people by doing something to honour them but a wedding is not, its something you can no repeat unless if you remarry so why not the lovely make it thier own


sometimes a self reflection is needed