Toolady:
Permit me to go into details.
pls I need mature response
After my NYSC last year, my cousin brother invited me to come stay with him so he could look for a job for me or try fix me somewhere.

I was grateful and moved over to stay with him, due to the new environment I didn't know anyone and he was the only friend I had, we talk and do almost everything siblings could do together, earlier January he had a girlfriend and I was happy as she became the second friend I had in this new state, in fact my friendship with her was even closer than that of my brother.
But later along the line the closeness between I and my brother wasn't as it was again, I come back home in the evening and most times I don't see him and began missing his presence.

This isn't even the problem, the problem is that I subconsciously started seeing his girlfriend as my rival which I wasn't suppose to.
2days ago, I prepared a meal for us but he didn't come back home and I ate it alone, I came back home yesterday and found out the pot of soup is gone and pot was washed clean, I was sure he has eaten, so when he came back, he told me he came with her in the afternoon and they ate, I quickly flared up and talked to him in a tone I wasn't suppose to, his girlfriend tried to calm me down and I told her to mind her business as this is family issue, she felt bad and left the house, came back hours later with groceries, cooked meal and left, that's was when it occurred to me that I haven't been good to her and made my emotions got the better of me, I tried to apologize to my brother but i still feel so bad and really don't know how to approach his girlfriend and apologize, I was sure I can't loose my brothers friendship, but I also don't wish for any bad relationship between I and his girlfriend due to my emotions

please I just need mature advice, that's why I bought it to family section

Lalasticlala mynd44

Zonefree:
I'll advice you die that nonsense feelings you're developing for your cousin. Go and get your own boyfriend and leave another girl's boyfriend alone!

Toolady:
I wasnt developing feelings for my cousin

hmm
The commenter below me has something to say

Zonefree:


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Wasn't developing feelings but you started seeing his girlfriend as your rival.

I'm tempted to call you olosho, but, I'll let that slide.

Toolady:
I wasn't developing feelings for my brother.
I was loosing the friendliness that exist between us.
U know what, just forget

Toolady:

This isn't even the problem, the problem is that I subconsciously started seeing his girlfriend as my rival which I wasn't suppose to.

Toolady:
Permit me to go into details.
pls I need mature response
After my NYSC last year, my cousin brother invited me to come stay with him so he could look for a job for me or try fix me somewhere.

I was grateful and moved over to stay with him, due to the new environment I didn't know anyone and he was the only friend I had, we talk and do almost everything siblings could do together, earlier January he had a girlfriend and I was happy as she became the second friend I had in this new state, in fact my friendship with her was even closer than that of my brother.
But later along the line the closeness between I and my brother wasn't as it was again, I come back home in the evening and most times I don't see him and began missing his presence.

This isn't even the problem, the problem is that I subconsciously started seeing his girlfriend as my rival which I wasn't suppose to.
2days ago, I prepared a meal for us but he didn't come back home and I ate it alone, I came back home yesterday and found out the pot of soup is gone and pot was washed clean, I was sure he has eaten, so when he came back, he told me he came with her in the afternoon and they ate, I quickly flared up and talked to him in a tone I wasn't suppose to, his girlfriend tried to calm me down and I told her to mind her business as this is family issue, she felt bad and left the house, came back hours later with groceries, cooked meal and left, that's was when it occurred to me that I haven't been good to her and made my emotions got the better of me, I tried to apologize to my brother but i still feel so bad and really don't know how to approach his girlfriend and apologize, I was sure I can't loose my brothers friendship, but I also don't wish for any bad relationship between I and his girlfriend due to my emotions

please I just need mature advice, that's why I bought it to family section

Mods please I don't need this on FP, I just want to make it less public

Beremx:
This one you’re living with your cousin, I dey suspect you sha. Hope you’re not making sexual advances towards your cousin? This one you dey jealous cousin babe. Cousins of this generation can’t be trusted.
Shebi the other time I read on NL where a female cousin was dressing seductively towards her cousin?

It is well o!

Toolady:
Permit me to go into details.
pls I need mature response
After my NYSC last year, my cousin brother invited me to come stay with him so he could look for a job for me or try fix me somewhere.

I was grateful and moved over to stay with him, due to the new environment I didn't know anyone and he was the only friend I had, we talk and do almost everything siblings could do together, earlier January he had a girlfriend and I was happy as she became the second friend I had in this new state, in fact my friendship with her was even closer than that of my brother.
But later along the line the closeness between I and my brother wasn't as it was again, I come back home in the evening and most times I don't see him and began missing his presence.

This isn't even the problem, the problem is that I subconsciously started seeing his girlfriend as my rival which I wasn't suppose to.
2days ago, I prepared a meal for us but he didn't come back home and I ate it alone, I came back home yesterday and found out the pot of soup is gone and pot was washed clean, I was sure he has eaten, so when he came back, he told me he came with her in the afternoon and they ate, I quickly flared up and talked to him in a tone I wasn't suppose to, his girlfriend tried to calm me down and I told her to mind her business as this is family issue, she felt bad and left the house, came back hours later with groceries, cooked meal and left, that's was when it occurred to me that I haven't been good to her and made my emotions got the better of me, I tried to apologize to my brother but i still feel so bad and really don't know how to approach his girlfriend and apologize, I was sure I can't loose my brothers friendship, but I also don't wish for any bad relationship between I and his girlfriend due to my emotions

please I just need mature advice, that's why I bought it to family section

Mods please I don't need this on FP, I just want to make it less public

Zonefree:
I'll advice you die that nonsense feelings you're developing for your cousin. Go and get your own boyfriend and leave another girl's boyfriend alone!

Toolady:
Permit me to go into details.
pls I need mature response
After my NYSC last year, my cousin brother invited me to come stay with him so he could look for a job for me or try fix me somewhere.

I was grateful and moved over to stay with him, due to the new environment I didn't know anyone and he was the only friend I had, we talk and do almost everything siblings could do together, earlier January he had a girlfriend and I was happy as she became the second friend I had in this new state, in fact my friendship with her was even closer than that of my brother.
But later along the line the closeness between I and my brother wasn't as it was again, I come back home in the evening and most times I don't see him and began missing his presence.

This isn't even the problem, the problem is that I subconsciously started seeing his girlfriend as my rival which I wasn't suppose to.
2days ago, I prepared a meal for us but he didn't come back home and I ate it alone, I came back home yesterday and found out the pot of soup is gone and pot was washed clean, I was sure he has eaten, so when he came back, he told me he came with her in the afternoon and they ate, I quickly flared up and talked to him in a tone I wasn't suppose to, his girlfriend tried to calm me down and I told her to mind her business as this is family issue, she felt bad and left the house, came back hours later with groceries, cooked meal and left, that's was when it occurred to me that I haven't been good to her and made my emotions got the better of me, I tried to apologize to my brother but i still feel so bad and really don't know how to approach his girlfriend and apologize, I was sure I can't loose my brothers friendship, but I also don't wish for any bad relationship between I and his girlfriend due to my emotions

please I just need mature advice, that's why I bought it to family section

Mods please I don't need this on FP, I just want to make it less public

Saintmary:



First, I don't pray to meet an in-law like you.



Secondly, start traveling home periodically, like once a month, so you can give their love a breathing space, and so you can find your own love.


Go to church, get busy.

Toolady:
Permit me to go into details.
pls I need mature response
After my NYSC last year, my cousin brother invited me to come stay with him so he could look for a job for me or try fix me somewhere.

I was grateful and moved over to stay with him, due to the new environment I didn't know anyone and he was the only friend I had, we talk and do almost everything siblings could do together, earlier January he had a girlfriend and I was happy as she became the second friend I had in this new state, in fact my friendship with her was even closer than that of my brother.
But later along the line the closeness between I and my brother wasn't as it was again, I come back home in the evening and most times I don't see him and began missing his presence.

This isn't even the problem, the problem is that I subconsciously started seeing his girlfriend as my rival which I wasn't suppose to.
2days ago, I prepared a meal for us but he didn't come back home and I ate it alone, I came back home yesterday and found out the pot of soup is gone and pot was washed clean, I was sure he has eaten, so when he came back, he told me he came with her in the afternoon and they ate, I quickly flared up and talked to him in a tone I wasn't suppose to, his girlfriend tried to calm me down and I told her to mind her business as this is family issue, she felt bad and left the house, came back hours later with groceries, cooked meal and left, that's was when it occurred to me that I haven't been good to her and made my emotions got the better of me, I tried to apologize to my brother but i still feel so bad and really don't know how to approach his girlfriend and apologize, I was sure I can't loose my brothers friendship, but I also don't wish for any bad relationship between I and his girlfriend due to my emotions

please I just need mature advice, that's why I bought it to family section

Mods please I don't need this on FP, I just want to make it less public

LilMissFavvy:
I keep seeing this English "my cousin brother". What exactly does "my cousin brother" means? I thought cousins are either male or female, so one should just say "my cousin (a guy) or my cousin "a female". Why do people in the east* like making this statement?