My mum is late. I am the only girl among 3 boys. We have different dads.

How do I tell my brothers that I don't want to help them. They should go and hustle. I am tired of them begging me for everything. I don't want to carry their burdens cos I have my own life to live. I want to focus on my life first and they should also focus on theirs. I am sick and tired of them.

Chisomann:



It is not because we are not the same father I just feel like they are men and they should go and work, I don't owe them anything it is not my fault that my dad is responsible he is taking good care of me and there dad's are not. I can help them if I want to but I hate it when they want to depend on me for everything they are stressing me. And tommorow when they will start making it in life they will not even remember me it is their wives who will reap where they didn't sow. I will not help them again I think I should listen to my dad I will change my number and move on.

Chisomann:
My mum is late i am the only girl among 3 boys we have differents dads . How do I tell my brothers that I don't want to help them they should go and hustle I am tired of them begging me for everything. I don't want to carry their burdens cos I have my own life to leave I want to focus on my life first and they should also focus on theirs. I am sick and tired of them

Help them while you can, remember that those you meet on your way up you are likely to meet on your way down. Except they have opportunity to hustle but refuse to do so.

Chisomann:
My mum is late i am the only girl among 3 boys we have differents dads . How do I tell my brothers that I don't want to help them they should go and hustle I am tired of them begging me for everything. I don't want to carry their burdens cos I have my own life to leave I want to focus on my life first and they should also focus on theirs. I am sick and tired of them

Lack of empathy is why we are where we are today in this crazy world...

Think about the above..

Help them when and how you can that won't choke you.
Some family members are parasites ,they'll never stop asking,it's the giver that will know what to do.

I'm so prudent with money now ehn , if it's not important or a matter of life and death,I no dey give shishi.

How about you all sit together as a family to discuss way forward? What you each can do to help one another and the struggles you all have....they are all you have now, you are all they have now. Dont discard them please. It is well.

Chisomann:
My mum is late i am the only girl among 3 boys we have differents dads . How do I tell my brothers that I don't want to help them they should go and hustle I am tired of them begging me for everything. I don't want to carry their burdens cos I have my own life to leave I want to focus on my life first and they should also focus on theirs. I am sick and tired of them

how would you have felt if it was the other way around??

How old are they and what of their dad?
Don't do more than yourself, please.
If you can't afford to help them, then don't
Have a set amount to help every month ( something that wont hurt your pocket in anyway) and once you're past that, lock-up no matter what.

Proverbs 17:17

Bluntguy:

Help them while you can, remember that those you meet on your way up you are likely to meet on your way down. Except they have opportunity to hustle but refuse to do so.

I have helped them a lot I think is enough they should go and hustle. I am thinking about changing my number soon so I will have no contact with them again

eyinjuege:
How old are they and what of their dad?
Don't do more than yourself, please.
If you can't afford to help them, then don't
Have a set amount to help every month ( something that wont hurt your pocket in anyway) and once you're past that, lock-up no matter what.

My older brother is 27 jobless he has a child ,my younger brothers are 21 and 19

Just tell them: I'm not going to help you guys anymore. Simple.

poshestmina:
Help them when and how you can that won't choke you.
Some family members are parasites ,they'll never stop asking,it's the giver that will know what to do.

I'm so prudent with money now ehn , if it's not important or a matter of life and death,I no dey give shishi.

What a thinking!

Women

SMH.

Because it's not the same father you don't want to help them?.

I know if it was the other way around and you were in their shoes you would also come here and tell us how the are wicked for refusing to help you simply because it's not the same family.


Go and help your family, because when everything falls apart, they are your Safe heaven.

I have ruled.

Vyzz:




Women

SMH.

Because it's not the same father you don't want to help them?.

I know if it was the other way around and you were in their shoes you would also come here and tell us how the are wicked for refusing to help you simply because it's not the same family.


Go and help your family, because when everything falls apart, they are your Safe heaven.

I have ruled.

It is not because we are not the same father I just feel like they are men and they should go and work, I don't owe them anything it is not my fault that my dad is responsible he is taking good care of me and there dad's are not. I can help them if I want to but I hate it when they want to depend on me for everything they are stressing me. And tommorow when they will start making it in life they will not even remember me it is their wives who will reap where they didn't sow. I will not help them again I think I should listen to my dad I will change my number and move on.

While it's enjoyable to help family members,men of 27,21 and 19 should be encouraged to be independent,one negative effect of having people that always help you whenever you are in need is that it will indeliberately make you lazy,your brothers are old enough to take care of themselves .

toobusy:
While it's enjoyable to help family members,men of 27,21 and 19 should be encouraged to be independent,one negative effect of having people that always help you whenever you are in need is that it will indeliberately make you lazy,your brothers are old enough to take care of themselves .

Thank you

Chisomann:


My older brother is 27 jobless he has a child ,my younger brothers are 21 and 19

Please let them sort themselves out.
You can help the 19 and 21 year old with foodstuff WHEN you can.
They're probably giving money to their girlfriends anyway.
It's sad the way the country is at the moment, but that's not your fault and you shouldn't be made to bear the brunt.

A recent trend of this generation is that, we have more dependent and lazy males than females, sad and funny.

Johnnyboy6757:
how would you have felt if it was the other way around??

The other way around, it's easier for 3 people to help one person than one person to help 3 people.
The burden of 3 men is too much on one person

Chisomann:
My mum is late i am the only girl among 3 boys we have differents dads . How do I tell my brothers that I don't want to help them they should go and hustle I am tired of them begging me for everything. I don't want to carry their burdens cos I have my own life to leave I want to focus on my life first and they should also focus on theirs. I am sick and tired of them

If really you are in the position to help them

Pls help them by giving them net instead of fish

You on your own side, try and establish yourself so that when you get married, you don't go to them for any help

Lastly, don't ever make the mistake of telling them that you don't want to help them, they must never hear that from your mouth

No one knows what tomorrow will bring for each of you

Use wisdom follow them

You try, so they have fathers that are alive just like yours but can't ask them for help cos they are irresponsible, one is even towing the irresponsible path like his father at age 27, abi who is taking care of his child and the mother? He is also depending on your money to feed him and his child right? At his age he can't even find odd jobs to get by, he wants to keep getting handouts, the height of irresponsibility and laziness

Abeg focus on yourself and if you can, help only the teenager, the rest should getat.

eyinjuege:


Please let them sort themselves out.
You can help the 19 and 21 year old with foodstuff WHEN you can.
They're probably giving money to their girlfriends anyway.
It's sad the way the country is at the moment, but that's not your fault and you shouldn't be made to bear the brunt.

The problem with them is they are jealous of each other, if I help A and B will be jealous he will also call demanding for his own part. I wanted to help our last born to complete ss3 and my other brother 21 also want me to help him with his studies. I have told him he is old enough he should look for work to further his studies he wasn't happy saying I love our younger brother more than him. How can I help them when there is no love between them.

Biglittlelois:
A recent trend of this generation is that, we have more dependent and lazy males than females, sad and funny.

You are � correct just like my 27 years old brother he doesn't have a job he is not doing any effort to get a job but all he knows is how to give belle.

Chisomann:


The problem with them is they are jealous of each other, if I help A and B will be jealous he will also call demanding for his own part. I wanted to help our last born to complete ss3 and my other brother 21 also want me to help him with his studies. I have told him he is old enough he should look for work to further his studies he wasn't happy saying I love our younger brother more than him. How can I help them when there is no love between them.

Which kain entitled leaches be this? How can a 21 year old be comparing himself to his younger one?

Pls help the 19 year old to complete secondary school, abeg, so that he can have that cert. work for sometime, then see himself through University

Ignore the rest to infinity.

Biglittlelois:
A recent trend of this generation is that, we have more dependent and lazy males than females, sad and funny.

Why won’t they be, when they spend all their productive time dissing women. They don’t have data to stream online courses, but they have the one to watch Andrew Tate.

gaby:


Lack of empathy is why we are where we are today in this crazy world...

Think about the above..

Did you see where she wrote "begging for everything"

ITbomb:

Did you see where she wrote "begging for everything"

Yes, I saw where she wrote "begging for everything" such as her poo.

Are you okay now?

Biglittlelois:
A recent trend of this generation is that, we have more dependent and lazy males than females, sad and funny.

Must be observable from the environment you are at, and people you are exposed to.

Chisomann:


The problem with them is they are jealous of each other, if I help A and B will be jealous he will also call demanding for his own part. I wanted to help our last born to complete ss3 and my other brother 21 also want me to help him with his studies. I have told him he is old enough he should look for work to further his studies he wasn't happy saying I love our younger brother more than him. How can I help them when there is no love between them.

In life help as much as you can help people, not even because of tomorrow, to me it's simply because it's a human thing to do.

Your conscience knows the right things to do, you don't have to seek for validation to do the right things.

Know the family you are from, at times the best thing you could do is the pieces of advice you also offer to them. Even 27 years is still very young enough to have a 360 degree change in life. Don't be disdainful of your family because of the opportunity you already have. Do as much as you can, and talk unceasingly to them if you believe you have the wisdom.