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You had to go on social media hunting for this lady. Is it that your friend told you he will die if you don't give him information about this girl or what? Let it not be what I am suspecting...

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Op you are just a jobless aproko

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meobizy:
It’s normal to look out for a friend.

But you aren't making him happy by telling him na.

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meobizy:
Though I feel bad for doing so, he had to find out somehow.

Hope you surrendered your shoulder for him to cry on

meobizy:
1. I told my friend about the development and he has lost sleep for days. Compared to her flourishing life, he is yet to find his footing. His small job which put food on the table for four years got cut from the pandemic situation in 2020. He keeps wondering where he’s going wrong in life.

2. Was I wrong to update him regarding her life or I should have stayed shut and minded my business? Till now he has no idea why she cut him off and is still nursing hope that she’ll come back.

1. Why are you monitoring your friend's ex, and why did you tell your ex about her?

2. I think you are wrong to monitor her life and to update your so-called friend of it.

Why make someone else's business yours for Pete's sake?

meobizy:
An update to my long deleted thread.

My friend whose girlfriend traveled to greener pastures and cut him off her life was delivered bad news recently. It was courtesy of me.

So I went searching on Facebook and came across said female. She changed her name on the platform but is still using the same display picture everyone knows her with. She is doing well. She got married to a far older caucasian gentleman who looks homeless. It’s safe to say she did it for papers. Her financial life has bumped for the better as she now has a good job, has enjoyed double promotions at work and is now at a level higher than a Nigerian bank manager. I’m curious to know if she has plans to bear the white man children. Since she’s my friend’s [ex]girlfriend who we weren’t close to begin with, I’m not in a position to engage a friendship talk less of a question-and-answer session.

I told my friend about the development and he has lost sleep for days. Compared to her flourishing life, he is yet to find his footing. His small job which put food on the table for four years got cut from the pandemic situation in 2020. He keeps wondering where he’s going wrong in life.

Was I wrong to update him regarding her life or I should have stayed shut and minded my business? Till now he has no idea why she cut him off and is still nursing hope that she’ll come back.

I think you want your friend.

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meobizy:
Maybe.

Then go fyhin , why are you bringing up his pain. Even if he is to know his ex has moved on it should not be from you. You are just friend zoning yourself.

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meobizy:

1. He isn’t my ex, he’s my friend. The female the thread is about is still his girlfriend. She disappeared without contacting him so I put ex in brackets because I believe she’s gone for good.

2. I didn’t monitor, I did a random search since she blocked him off all forms of social media. Which type of girlfriend does that?! These hungry girls of nowadays.

He’s my friend and I wish the best for him. Better me breaking this news to him than anybody else.

1. The guy still has feelings for the gal it seems. So where exactly do you fit into this and why?

2. I don't know about you but from where I sit you seem the hungry girl here. I mean the boy still has feelings for the girl who blocked him. I think you should have let him search this one up for himself. That's just me.

OP you messed up big time.
You shouldn't have informed you friend about the development of his ex dude is going to be depressed for some time and it's going to be your fault

Bottom line: Don't expect bad things to always happen to people who dump you. Some will go on to live life very large, pick yourself up. Stop self pity.

BTW don't mind all these people castigating Op, if the lady was found in a poor state they would have condemned her while showering praises on Op for the 'bad news'

meobizy:
Lol. In due time.

I think I like the sound of that

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It means dumping him wasn't a bad idea afterall...

Some things should be left unsaid

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