Double0h7:


His mother lived through the challenges of having a musician as a life partner and she made it very clear that this is not a career path that she is in support of. When he became stubborn to her warning she followed through with her condition and never supported his dreams.

My mother said if I ever enter the entertainment industry that she will disown me if she doesn't kill me so I followed her advice and went to school to find a path that would make her proud.

Op is the architect of his life and he should leave this woman alone and grow the heck up! Imagine an adult crying about their mother when they can go out into the world and do better. Op is a waste man but he won't see that.

Shut the fvk up! The fact that your mother controlled your life and threatened to kill you doesn't mean that's what mothers do.

Stop commenting on ideal motherhood. You don't have the experience to do so.

Uncle, your father married a troublesome woman he could not manage biko....its not your problem but his. He should stop trying to bring you into the matter. Biko stop getting angry on his behalf....he should man up and take his destiny in his own hands. Look at the monster he had created for all of you....he should deal with his wife and stop dragging you into it lest you offend God! What the heck is wrong with him and you! Stop being such an......

Moz22:
I could be without a dad right all thanks to her.. you expect me to call her a mom even if she killed my dad?

Your dad is a weakling....and you are about tolling the same path. Adults should be responsible for their choices not thinking what people would say biko. If the guy develops a heart condition because of her now and dies, she will cry small and continue tormenting the rest of you alive. He should put her in her place or walk out or continue to receive the abuse in peace! Life is as simple as we make it biko....these are conditions within your control! Dang! Your story is becoming irritating!

Moz22:
are you seriously asking me what my concern is? Thankfully twasnt more than what twas.. that I don't have to make a speech at a certain wake keeping describing the kind of man my dad was

bro please be careful of who advice you and the type of advice you follow on here, imagine this one saying an issue that concerns your dad that you love so darely is not your problem that you’re carrying another man’s problem on your head. I pray God shed light to all your problems soon and make everything go away. Personally I don’t recommend seeking for advice online, these are just bunch of people who have lost their mind and taking their advice will only leads to more sorrow. Peace.

Acidosis:



Shut the fvk up! The fact that your mother controlled your life and threatened to kill you doesn't mean that's what mothers do.

Stop commenting on ideal motherhood. You don't have the experience to do so.

So guidance is now controlling someone's life? Parents have always set boundaries and expectations for their children because they want them to thrive.

Men with mother issues is the norm now so I'm not shocked that you're here.

Double0h7:


His mother lived through the challenges of having a musician as a life partner and she made it very clear that this is not a career path that she is in support of. When he became stubborn to her warning she followed through with her condition and never supported his dreams.

My mother said if I ever enter the entertainment industry that she will disown me if she doesn't kill me so I followed her advice and went to school to find a path that would make her proud.

Op is the architect of his life and he should leave this woman alone and grow the heck up! Imagine an adult crying about their mother when they can go out into the world and do better. Op is a waste man but he won't see that.

Of course it's a public forum and you can spit whatever you like. Not your fault really

oldienavie:

You didnt address the real issue, the fact you allowed your parents dictate your life is your choice, I won't fault you for that.
But faulting a grown man for choosing his own path in life is where I disagree with you.

THere is nothing wrong in him pursuing music if that is what gives him joy. It is the same with mothers trying to dictate for their sons who to marry, for petes sakes, a grown man should be allowed to make his own choice even if you don't think it is the right choice.
And that is no reason to criticise him, it is people with your mindset that drive men into bad marriages and also want to continue dictating for the man and how he should run his home.

When will African parents accept that the children are not an extension of them and the child has a right to make his own choice in life ?

Lol. I love the Hollywood speech you just gave but sadly when your family live in poverty like most families in Africa we don't get the privilege to follow our heart and do what we love when what we love doesn't help left your family out of poverty. From ops story his father did what he loved and yet op and his family struggled to make ends meet.

Moz22:
Of course it's a public forum and you can spit whatever you like. Not your fault really

Lol. So if I don't condemn your mother and support your actions then I'm wrong. People don't share their issues online to get an alternative prospective but to get others to agree with them and to validate their choices.
So here goes...

Well done for beating your mum! She is evil for not accepting your apology! She's a wicked woman and deserves to be all alone so get your dad to divorce her, and take your siblings away from this monster!

Double0h7:


Lol. So if I don't condemn your mother and support your actions then I'm wrong. People don't share their issues online to get an alternative prospective but to get others to agree with them and to validate their choices.
So here goes...

Well done for beating your mum! She is evil for not accepting your apology! She's a wicked woman and deserves to be all alone so get your dad to divorce her, and take your siblings away from this monster!

I need no validations whatsoever from u. Thanks

Double0h7:


So guidance is now controlling someone's life? Parents have always set boundaries and expectations for their children because they want them to thrive.

Men with mother issues is the norm now so I'm not shocked that you're here.

OP never said his father was poor. At old age, it is not unexpected to face the kind of issues the man is going through. You are probably ignorant or just chooses to not understand the term "musician".

The musicians I know are band owners who make cool money every weekend at wedding parties, burials, and other kind of events, etc. If your definition of the word "musician" is someone who spends his life in the studio, broke, and waiting for Don Jazzy to pick his call, then that's a self-inflicted ignorance. Don't project poverty on people who choose to take that path.

If the mother is not cool with that, she should have married a doctor or go back to school to study a career/course of her choice.

Double0h7:


Lol. I love the Hollywood speech you just gave but sadly when your family live in poverty like most families in Africa we don't get the privilege to follow our heart and do what we love when what we love doesn't help left your family out of poverty. From ops story his father did what he loved and yet op and his family struggled to make ends meet.

Nigerian universities churning out thousands of graduate every year and tell me how that translates to riches for them ?
95% of Nigerian graduates earn less than 30k a month, so in this Nigeria going to school does not make you better than being a musician if you will end up teaching in a private school with your msc.

I have an MSC in Electrical Engineering and roamed the streets of Nigeria for 5 years without a job despite my 2:1 and MSC.
So your point still does not hold any water, going to school in Nigeria does not guarantee you will make it, lots of graduates end up as uber drivers and tailors so would it not have been better for them to have focused on that ?

Acidosis:


OP never said his father was poor. At old age, it is not unexpected to face the kind of issues the man is going through. You are probably ignorant or just chooses to not understand the term "musician".

The musicians I know are band owners who make cool money every weekend at wedding parties, burials, and other kind of events, etc. If your definition of the word "musician" is someone who spends his life in the studio, broke, and waiting for Don Jazzy to pick his call, then that's a self-inflicted ignorance. Don't project poverty on people who choose to take that path.

If the mother is not cool with that, she should have married a doctor or go back to school to study a career/course of her choice.

omo.. God go bless u ooo

oldienavie:

Nigerian universities churning out thousands of graduate every year and tell me how that translates to riches for them ?
95% of Nigerian graduates earn less than 30k a month, so in this Nigeria going to school does not make you better than being a musician if you will end up teaching in a private school with your msc.

I have an MSC in Electrical Engineering and roamed the streets of Nigeria for 5 years without a job despite my 2:1 and MSC.
So your point still does not hold any water, going to school in Nigeria does not guarantee you will make it, lots of graduates end up as uber drivers and tailors so would it not have been better for them to have focused on that ?

you dey mind the idiot? I worked as a banker in uba head office, marina.. studied accounting at yabatech. An hnd graduate.. of course nairaland is a level playing ground where people of different tribes and races are equal.. that's the privilege he has and just take a look at the way he's using it.. such a mad man

sisisioge:


Your dad is a weakling....and you are about tolling the same path. Adults should be responsible for their choices not thinking what people would say biko. If the guy develops a heart condition because of her now and dies, she will cry small and continue tormenting the rest of you alive. He should put her in her place or walk out or continue to receive the abuse in peace! Life is as simple as we make it biko....these are conditions within your control! Dang! Your story is becoming irritating!

wahala mii poor abi? I understand. No fes abeg

Vyolet:

You are aggressive and inpatient, it is obvious in your response so far.
I followed all you narrated so far and I must say, there is nothing to comprehend.
You are a child who is being manipulated by a passive gaslighter, he sits and pretend like nothing is happening but he silently triggers trouble while leaving you to do the dirty work. A weak father who isn't man enough to hold his family together, in all these your father should be ashamed of himself , he is on ground and yet his entire life is crumbing before him. Parents have issues and always report to their adult children but a sensible child will never support one over the other, you have to be tactical and diplomatic.

If music is not working for you like your mom has objected, try something else, the world is big enough. How long do you want to continue living this way?

I have enough to say to you child but I know you are myopic and stubborn, no matter what I say, you will remain what you make yourself to be.

you don't need all these.. trust me.