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Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by Kobojunkie: 1:27pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
JonOfAustrlia:Your idea of love na wa! What you describe reads more like the chemical induced kind to me. |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by Kobojunkie: 1:29pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
JonOfAustrlia:Did you also already talk to him about the chores as well?, 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by Drfernandez(m): 1:55pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
JonOfAustrlia: Be mindful of whose advice you listen to before you destroy your marriage. That sisisioge you quoted is almost 43 years and unmarried and has been used and dumped by different men because of her ugliness and bad character, also she is underemployed, so it should not be surprising that she has negative opinion about Nigerian men home and abroad. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by sisisioge: 1:59pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
Drfernandez: Typical naija leech....may fortune smile on you o 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by Danyyyyyyyyyyy: 2:49pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
Kingpin1000: So she should cover the bills , go to work , take care of the children , clean , cook and then what? You're supposed to just go and marry Wonder woman , wetin you dey find, e no dey market oh What is her business with what his Nigerian people expect him to do ? Eeeeew I was disgusted reading that He doesn't have a good job she understands that but he should help out with the chores at least , jeeeeeez Diapers , fees , clothes , his 2 children are less important than his relatives in Nigeria right? Men go to abroad and forget their manhood and start running after white woman coz they are easier to manipulate and easier to fool , with a selfless love story ,I love you money doesn't matter , until you find out how expensive babies are and how expensive it is to take care of a full grown man 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by socialmediaman: 2:50pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
JonOfAustrlia: Your marriage is doing great if what you posted here is the true picture! Ask others to honestly share their opinions, yours may be in the top category. Marriage is not a union of convenience, it takes effort to make it work. There's a good reason they say there's no perfect marriage out there. If you feel cheated and exhausted, start early to communicate with him, and most importantly, see a marriage counselor so they can work it out for you. Random nairalanders cannot help with limited information from both parties, and surprisingly, everyone, including the unmarried and divorced, seems to know the solution to your marital issues. |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by socialmediaman: 2:53pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
JonOfAustrlia: Does he earn 30% of the household income? |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by Danyyyyyyyyyyy: 3:03pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
JonOfAustrlia: He's Narcissistic , I can smell it from here , from how he makes you feel guilty about stuff that you should be more upset about , he's still has that Old century mindset of [/b]it's not a man's job to lift a finger at home [b] , no it's likely he doesn't love you but he's not going to leave you because he needs to stay abroad and since he came on a student visa, I don't think he'll stay too long if you left now ( I secretly want you to , but I feel bad for your kids ) you can endure it as African mother's always advice their daughters , or you could go and get a professional counselor or therapist for yourself right now and start untangling , don't make the decision fast or on your own , you might regret it and you might end up going back and that would increase the bad treatment because going back to narcissists make them feel like "yes I have full power now and they will use guilt to manipulate you " and sometimes they play the victims (self pity card )and you'll pay for the damages were done to you 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by Danyyyyyyyyyyy: 3:12pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
Cousin9999: You sound like a narcissist , the kind that compares and threatens the woman he loves when he doesn't get what he wants Like if you won't have sex with I have so many girls will gladly do it , so are we having sex or what I had an ex will probably give an opinion identical to yours 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by Danyyyyyyyyyyy: 3:18pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
JonOfAustrlia: Alot , check online for marriages especially of younger Nigerian men to older white woman bit if they don't want old women who are easier they choose anyone that's based in the country they went to , everyone here knows this , some even go ahead to have wives in Nigeria and then another wife there and sometimes the Nigerian wives know about it ,they are quiet because the man sends money home and that's good enough 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by Danyyyyyyyyyyy: 3:21pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
confused ppl sisisioge: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by Nobody: 3:22pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
sisisioge: Spot on as always. |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by faithfull18(f): 3:34pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
Ekwutox:I kinda agree. |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by eyinjuege: 4:02pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
JonOfAustrlia: That means you're both living above your incomes if you think your 75% is too much. Move to a cheaper apartment and city, get a smaller car and cut down on your electricity and water usage. Secondly, why is he only working 20hours a week, and doing menial jobs at that? Does he have the visa to work longer hours or his stay/visa has restrictions to it? If he can't work longer hours by law, then it's not his fault |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by yuping(m): 4:04pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
try to talk to him to man up, communication helps. |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by socialmediaman: 4:06pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
eyinjuege: He's schooling and working at according to OP |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by JonOfAustrlia: 4:54pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
Double0h7: Im his cousin he let me login to his account because i deactivated my old one and nairaland doesnt let ppl reactivate their account. So its on my phone right now he doesnt get on here that that much |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by JonOfAustrlia: 4:55pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
sisisioge: I dont think hes a leach i just wonder how can we make things better. I came here to get ideas |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by JonOfAustrlia: 4:56pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
socialmediaman:lol i talked to my friend the other day and realize oh we dont even have half the problems of others but still want to make the union better somehow. Im a bit stressed |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by JonOfAustrlia: 4:59pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:we r talking on the internet its easy to interpret things incorrectly. I think in a relationship although not perfect we should be striving to help each other. Its excellent when a union can do that and help ease each others issues. In fact when the legal foundation of marriage was created the idea is that a man and woman marry and get in laws in order to do business and help each family. So the union helps with money and time. It is legally like a business in a lot of ways. We bare both costs to make life easier for each others family. He helps me too but I think there are a few things that need to change. |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by JonOfAustrlia: 5:01pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
Danyyyyyyyyyyy: LOL thank u. Are u Yoruba? |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by JonOfAustrlia: 5:04pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Hm thank u this was insightful i appreciate the honesty. Can you define Nigerian marriage love a little bit more? I have heard this a little as well. So they think love is like infatuation? For me love is a deep profound understanding and a divine plan between two people. |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by JonOfAustrlia: 5:06pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
Drfernandez:u all kno each other? |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by eyinjuege: 5:15pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
socialmediaman: He's finished school already and doing menial jobs at reduced hours. He needs to increase his hours, as they obviously need more income. The only genuine excuse he has is if he isn't allowed to work more hours by law. It's not good enough for his wife to be working 40hours and he's working 20hours only, and yet sending 3x money back to Nigeria than what he used to send as a single man. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by socialmediaman: 5:22pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
eyinjuege: I see that now I think he needs time to get a better job. Menial jobs take the same time from you as regular jobs and they don't give you so much work history for your resume so it takes a while to make that transition to a regular full time job. He's stuck on the menial jobs because he has bills to pay so it will take a little more time to get the job that pays much better. They both need to talk it out and decide on how much time he needs to focus on applying and going for interviews. It's all about communication and commitment. If he needs help with his resume or needs to work with an agent, he needs to do that, but they both need to understand the process and focus on it 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by sisisioge: 5:48pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
JonOfAustrlia: I kuku no know am o. The matter must have spoken to his inner core hence the reason he became insultive. You see how "some" male folks go about giving the rest of the clan bad names? Integrity and fairness are strange words to them 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by Drfernandez(m): 6:03pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
JonOfAustrlia: Yes, she and I have intimately known each other for a very long time within and outside here. But I am not here to discuss her and us. My experience with her is the reason why I have always advised men to avoid women who have small breasts. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by Mindlog: 6:24pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
JonOfAustrlia: You are his cousin? |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by Danyyyyyyyyyyy: 6:31pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
JonOfAustrlia: I'm not , I'm from one of the minor tribes in rivers state |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by Danyyyyyyyyyyy: 6:35pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
JonOfAustrlia: He doesn't know her , he's just trying to insult her because she's a woman and he doesn't support her opinions , even if she said something that will benefit so far as she's a woman , he won't listen 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by Danyyyyyyyyyyy: 6:36pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
Drfernandez: Liar liar pants on fire , where's the proof 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Pays 25% Of Bills And Leaves Me To Do Everything. Does He Love Me? by JonOfAustrlia: 6:58pm On Apr 09, 2022 |
socialmediaman: I have faith he will find something. Hes intelligent but the job market where we live is not good |
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