It’s not ideal to point fingers at anyone, but it also advantageous to point out some inconsistencies.

Abusive and violent marriages have sent many people to prison or early graves. The question is “Could these unfortunate situations have been prevented in the first place?”

In most cases, yes.

Take a look at young lovers (dating relationship).

A girl will be in a relationship and her boyfriend will slap her whenever she makes a mistake. He later begs her for forgiveness. The little slaps will crystalize to heart seizing punches when they get married.

Or a guy with his girl beating another girl in public. That stupid girl knows little that she will also be a punching bag one day.

Girls see all these fearful signs and still go ahead to marry these little men (little men has nothing to do with height. They are men who can’t handle their anger)

Girls will tell you “He will change”

But when they get married and the beating is getting them embarrassed in the society, they will come up with “He suddenly changed. He was not like this”. I hate this lie with passion. Women knew men, they just ignored the red flag and jump into marriage. They always think “I will manage him” “Once I give him baby, he will calm down”

He will not calm down, he will kill you, or you kill him, or send you to prison.

Note this fact, a man can be beating a woman every day, but the day the woman raises up her hands to defend herself, is the day she ends up in prison. Who knows if it’s a knife the object she picks up to defend herself, afterall, women don’t have the bone and muscle to compete with men in a physical fight.

Another one, a woman people are trying to save from domestic violence keeps going back to that man. She later confidentially told her close friend that she actually married the man because of his big dck. She could not survive without it.

It was shocking. That’s when I understand that women are the number 1 enablers of domestic violence.

Answers to domestic abuse start from courtship stage. The moment your boyfriend slaps you. Or even made attempt by raising his hands up. It’s the first time ooo, he did it by mistake ooo, he was drunk ni ooo…you know all those stupid excuses on your head…Ignore those excuses and run…safe yourself.

Is it big cassava, money or influence? Or whatever it is, also think of prison yard and untimely death. Your life should worth more than that to you. If you carelessly submit your life to these vanities, you will answer to your maker who gave you the life you wasted carelessly.

To our Christian brothers and sisters who always use the bible as excuse to stay in death sentence. Yes the bible frown at Divorce, but the bible also gave a saving grace to victims. Here is what the bible says about anyone under persecution or violent situations


Jesus told those persecuted for his name to flee from one city to another to escape persecution (Matthew 10:23), and sometimes the apostles did so (Acts 14:5–6).
Finally, It is heartless to make someone remain in an abusive situation.

PSSSSSS: Now the biggest hypocricy is: Women will stay in a near death marriage but once they discovered their husband/boyfriend double date, they separate immediately. The logic no clear to me.

Age is not on my side

Eastarn:
Age is not on my side

Common excuse

Eastarn:
Age is not on my side

They call it love. Some say age. Some is dependant ratio (money). Some don't just know their worth. Some don't wanna go back to their parents house for fear of being accused of jumping from one husband to the other which is known as Ilemosu in Yoruba language. Some ll say they can't leave their kids.
Whatever is the reason domestic violence is bad!
Religious houses should frown against it. Separation or divorce should be legalised by religious bodies!

no go marry, all your mates dy horseband and u sit down for ur papa house house,evening newspaper
common society themez use in shaming unmarried girls .

so don't blame them for enduring all harassment and embarrassment ..

sometimes family pressures can serve as the major factor.

Sweetplum:
They call it love. Some say age. Some is dependant ratio (money). Some don't just know their worth.
Whatever is the reason domestic violence is bad!
Religious houses should frown against it. Separation or divorce should be legalised!

Divorce is legal in the court. But religion forbids it.

So, women should decide between Law or religion.

hotwax:


Divorce is legal in the court. But religion forbids it.

So, women should decide between Law or religion.

What nonsense religion

hotwax:


Divorce is legal in the court. But religion forbids it.

So, women should decide between Law or religion.

I want it legalised religiously

Sweetplum:
I want it legalised religiously

then you need to rewrite the bible

hotwax:


Divorce is legal in the court. But religion forbids it.

So, women should decide between Law or religion.

Religion that white men brought to us, right? In my town, a woman goes back to her papa house if her husband beats her and the man must come beg with his people before the wife's people accept that she goes back to him and they will give conditions too. To me, any woman that dies from domestic violence commits suicide. I don't even blame their monster husbands because one can not blame a wild animal for behaving like an animal, I can only blame human for continued mutual association with an animal. If your husband is beating you and you are still staying because your pastors preaches against divorce, you are a fool. I will rather be in the world and not suffer than being in the lord and suffer for one imaginary reward in an imaginary heaven.

The woman who sang ekueme die as a result of domestic violence

hotwax:


Divorce is legal in the court. But religion forbids it.

So, women should decide between Law or religion.

And many keep dying

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Religion that white men brought to us, right? In my town, a woman goes back to her papa house if her husband beats her and the man must come beg with his people before the wife's people accept that she goes back to him and they will give conditions too. To me, any woman that dies from domestic violence commits suicide. I don't even blame their monster husbands because one can not blame a wild animal for behaving like an animal, I can only blame human for continued mutual association with an animal. If your husband is beating you and you are still staying because your pastors preaches against divorce, you are a fool. I will rather be in the world and not suffer than being in the lord and suffer for one imaginary reward in an imaginary heaven.

apt...you spoke my mind

Pojomojo:
The woman who sang ekueme die as a result of domestic violence

very sad news. Many women are in violent marriage, but they are smiling in public...if u know the kind fire burning them at home..

Domestic abuse, also called "domestic violence" or "intimate partner violence", can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner. Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure, or wound someone. Domestic abuse can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion, or gender. 99% of Married Men are in violent union's but then, "are you not a man?" Violence goes beyond fisty cuff.

Are You Being Abused?
Look over the following questions to think about how you are being treated and how you treat your partner.

Recognizing the signs of domestic abuse
Does your partner…

Embarrass or make fun of you in front of your friends or family?
Put down your accomplishments?
Make you feel like you are unable to make decisions?
Use intimidation or threats to gain compliance?
Tell you that you are nothing without them?
Treat you roughly—grab, push, pinch, shove or hit you?
Call you several times a night or show up to make sure you are where you said you would be?
Use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for saying hurtful things or abusing you?
Blame you for how they feel or act?
Pressure you sexually for things you aren’t ready for?
Make you feel like there is “no way out” of the relationship?
Prevent you from doing things you want – like spending time with friends or family?
Try to keep you from leaving after a fight or leave you somewhere after a fight to “teach you a lesson”?

Do you...

Sometimes feel scared of how your partner may behave?
Constantly make excuses to other people for your partner’s behaviour?
Believe that you can help your partner change if only you changed something about yourself?
Try not to do anything that would cause conflict or make your partner angry?
Always do what your partner wants you to do instead of what you want?
Stay with your partner because you are afraid of what your partner would do if you broke up?

Is it only men that indulge in domestic violence?

9ja girls are out to add more burden to your life instead of softening it.

They are nothing but useless. All of them...

hotwax:
Divorce is legal in the court. But religion forbids it.

So, women should decide between Law or religion.

What religion forbids divorce abeg?

Does religion also forbid the abused from running away from her abuser for good?

hotwax:


then you need to rewrite the bible

Bible never condemned separation. Wisdom is profitable to direct. If couples can't divorce cos of domestic violence they can separate for a while.

hotwax:


very sad news. Many women are in violent marriage, but they are smiling in public...if u know the kind fire burning them at home..

Yes, they cannot leave because the man is the sole provider

Sweetplum:
Bible never condemned separation. Wisdom is profitable to direct. If couples can't divorce cos of domestic violence they can separate for a while.

what's the difference between septation and divorce?

Pojomojo:
what's the difference between septation and divorce?

Separation is to leave a spouse for a while & later come back while divorce is a legalised form of marriage dissolution. In divorce, couples are not responsible for each other anymore.