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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Nobody: 10:30pm On Apr 16, 2022
I saw dick pics and pedophiles trying to creep on my 13yrs old niece, I'm about to treat some violations.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Nobody: 10:31pm On Apr 16, 2022
QuinModah:
*DON’T LOSE GUARD WITH YOUR DAUGHTERS*

You can't be too sure...

I watched a skit a few minutes ago and I remembered an incident that happened last year. I have her permission to share without revealing names or locations. Also some details have been changed.

A mother asked to use her fifteen year old daughter’s phone for some days while her own phone was being repaired.

WhatsApp messages dropped on the phone. Her daughter had passworded her WhatsApp so she couldn’t see the messages.

Out of curiosity, she tried some passwords and her daughter’s birthday was the password. She opened the WhatsApp and almost died, with the shock of what she saw.

A man in the next building had been chatting with her daughter. He had made several sexual advances towards her, which the daughter refused. He was adamant. He pursued her. He sent her recharge cards, came to her school to give her gifts and money.

He asked her if she had a boyfriend or have ever had intimacy, she said no. He pursued her some more.

He requested for her pictures, almost unclad, which she initially refused to send him but when he sent his, she sent hers. It was nothing too revealing as she was in her bra and underwear.

He taught her how to password her WhatsApp.

Then he pushed for more. He wanted to see her completely nude. She couldn’t take such a picture because she shared a room with her siblings.

He asked her to lock herself in the bathroom for them to have a video call.

She saw messages like “Did you like what you saw?” “ Stop being shy around me.” “Why are you afraid? Nobody will see you.” He sent a picture of his nudity to her. A girl of fifteen!

It became terrifying when her daughter sent a chat saying she saw him with his wife the other night and he ignored her. She knew her daughter had fallen and it was a matter of time before the guy had his way.

She contacted me and asked me for advice. I have helped her in the past so she felt she could confide in me.

The truth is, when such a thing happens, you have to get someone who will treat the man’s Bleep-up very well. Who is the person who will be angry enough to do that No other person than her father.

She was scared her husband will dump the blame on her. She was looking for another way to handle it without him.

I told her, “If you handle it quietly, the man will be wiser and will ensure he won’t be caught since he is obsessed with your daughter that he patiently groomed her. It is best he is disgraced and only her father will do that unless he is a useless man that’s when he will keep quiet.” I told her she is lucky the girl hadn’t agreed to be alone with the man anywhere. It was getting close to that.

Her husband didn’t disappoint me. Immediately he read the chats and saw the ‘manhood’ he took off to the man’s house that night. The wife ran after him. He banged continuously on the gate.

Well, the man got what was coming to him. He was disgraced. The evidence of their chats were there. His neighbours were shocked because he portrayed a picture of a saint but he was the devil and also a paedophile.

The husband wanted to take the matter to the Police but everyone begged. The landlord of their house and the man’s house also appealed to him not to escalate the matter. They begged him not to expose his chats on social media as his wife, my friend, had promised to do.

The culprit’s wife left him. He eventually had to move out of the house immediately the rent was due. The disgrace was too much for them to handle. Everywhere he went in the neighborhood, mothers were wary of him around their daughters.

They have collected the phones from their children. If you are not in university, no more phones.

How did they handle the girl? I asked them not to beat her. But the father refused to listen. He said she had brought disgrace to the household. He wanted to send her to the village but I stopped him. She needed therapy not to be shamed. I told the mother to take her to see a psychologist at Yaba left. It worked!

Older men groom very young girls and turn them into sex slaves. It was what this man was doing. The kind of chats they had was irritating coming from a grown man. He was able to make her do some of the things he wanted by doing them first.

That phone your daughter holds very dear to her heart, please once in a while, check it. Make sure she is not being groomed for someone’s perversion. Check what she is doing and advise her. Anyone younger than sixteen shouldn’t be on social media. Anyone still in secondary school shouldn’t be there too, regardless of their age.

Girls have been lured to travel abroad to be sex slaves, all by grooming or greed. They make them hate their families and believe they are the only ones that love them . They give them attention and say sweet things to them often. It is easy to fall for such.

Teach your children these signs and also do not expose them unnecessarily to these men. Paedophiles are evolving. They are getting smarter. We have to keep our girls safe.

I love you all.

Good post, but still pass wording one's whatsapp is good to protect from hackers. That's the main reason why I did it for mine.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by TheWolfen(m): 10:31pm On Apr 16, 2022
Quite pathetic..
It is not easy to train up a girl child.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Mayemavins: 10:31pm On Apr 16, 2022
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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Adek15(m): 10:33pm On Apr 16, 2022
emmanuelbrown26:
The two parties are to be blamed, both d adult male and d girl child.
If d girl child is not enjoying d conversation, she would hv informed d mum long time ago than hiding it and also passwording her phone.
Or d girl child would hv reported to her teacher on school, imagine adult offering her gifts and money and she accepted them without fear.
When I talk about female, dem go cum for my head,
to have a girl child is so terrifying. It's only God that can save them. Anyone that can train a girl child properly till she gets married without blemish should be given a national award, e no easy

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by KingDash: 10:33pm On Apr 16, 2022
If you won beginning treat them call me, I win partake in the beatings
justscorchone:
I saw dick pics and pedophiles trying to creep on my 13yrs old niece, I'm about to treat some violations.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by GloriousGbola: 10:33pm On Apr 16, 2022
QuinModah:
*DON’T LOSE GUARD WITH YOUR DAUGHTERS*

You can't be too sure...

I watched a skit a few minutes ago and I remembered an incident that happened last year. I have her permission to share without revealing names or locations. Also some details have been changed.

A mother asked to use her fifteen year old daughter’s phone for some days while her own phone was being repaired.

WhatsApp messages dropped on the phone. Her daughter had passworded her WhatsApp so she couldn’t see the messages.

Out of curiosity, she tried some passwords and her daughter’s birthday was the password. She opened the WhatsApp and almost died, with the shock of what she saw.

A man in the next building had been chatting with her daughter. He had made several sexual advances towards her, which the daughter refused. He was adamant. He pursued her. He sent her recharge cards, came to her school to give her gifts and money.

He asked her if she had a boyfriend or have ever had intimacy, she said no. He pursued her some more.

He requested for her pictures, almost unclad, which she initially refused to send him but when he sent his, she sent hers. It was nothing too revealing as she was in her bra and underwear.

He taught her how to password her WhatsApp.

Then he pushed for more. He wanted to see her completely nude. She couldn’t take such a picture because she shared a room with her siblings.

He asked her to lock herself in the bathroom for them to have a video call.

She saw messages like “Did you like what you saw?” “ Stop being shy around me.” “Why are you afraid? Nobody will see you.” He sent a picture of his nudity to her. A girl of fifteen!

It became terrifying when her daughter sent a chat saying she saw him with his wife the other night and he ignored her. She knew her daughter had fallen and it was a matter of time before the guy had his way.

She contacted me and asked me for advice. I have helped her in the past so she felt she could confide in me.

The truth is, when such a thing happens, you have to get someone who will treat the man’s Bleep-up very well. Who is the person who will be angry enough to do that No other person than her father.

She was scared her husband will dump the blame on her. She was looking for another way to handle it without him.

I told her, “If you handle it quietly, the man will be wiser and will ensure he won’t be caught since he is obsessed with your daughter that he patiently groomed her. It is best he is disgraced and only her father will do that unless he is a useless man that’s when he will keep quiet.” I told her she is lucky the girl hadn’t agreed to be alone with the man anywhere. It was getting close to that.

Her husband didn’t disappoint me. Immediately he read the chats and saw the ‘manhood’ he took off to the man’s house that night. The wife ran after him. He banged continuously on the gate.

Well, the man got what was coming to him. He was disgraced. The evidence of their chats were there. His neighbours were shocked because he portrayed a picture of a saint but he was the devil and also a paedophile.

The husband wanted to take the matter to the Police but everyone begged. The landlord of their house and the man’s house also appealed to him not to escalate the matter. They begged him not to expose his chats on social media as his wife, my friend, had promised to do.

The culprit’s wife left him. He eventually had to move out of the house immediately the rent was due. The disgrace was too much for them to handle. Everywhere he went in the neighborhood, mothers were wary of him around their daughters.

They have collected the phones from their children. If you are not in university, no more phones.

How did they handle the girl? I asked them not to beat her. But the father refused to listen. He said she had brought disgrace to the household. He wanted to send her to the village but I stopped him. She needed therapy not to be shamed. I told the mother to take her to see a psychologist at Yaba left. It worked!

Older men groom very young girls and turn them into sex slaves. It was what this man was doing. The kind of chats they had was irritating coming from a grown man. He was able to make her do some of the things he wanted by doing them first.

That phone your daughter holds very dear to her heart, please once in a while, check it. Make sure she is not being groomed for someone’s perversion. Check what she is doing and advise her. Anyone younger than sixteen shouldn’t be on social media. Anyone still in secondary school shouldn’t be there too, regardless of their age.

Girls have been lured to travel abroad to be sex slaves, all by grooming or greed. They make them hate their families and believe they are the only ones that love them . They give them attention and say sweet things to them often. It is easy to fall for such.

Teach your children these signs and also do not expose them unnecessarily to these men. Paedophiles are evolving. They are getting smarter. We have to keep our girls safe.

I love you all.

The fantasy is that there were consequences for the man. In this naija? Even if you catch the man in bed with small pikin nothing will happen.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Angelfrost(m): 10:33pm On Apr 16, 2022
Everytime I open the Internet or social media, it's Sex, Sex, Sex... Haba!!!

This has to be the most idle and unproductive generation of Nigerians ever to walk the face of this Earth!!!

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by akanbiaa(m): 10:33pm On Apr 16, 2022
Hmmm
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by VEXT: 10:33pm On Apr 16, 2022
Both of them are to be blamed..

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by SugarGirl44(f): 10:33pm On Apr 16, 2022
Nigerians and silly sympathy, that's why politicians keep looting their country and they keep praising them, these politicians know they're foolish and gullible.
Why on earth did they beg the father from reporting the case to the police?
That man shouldn't be left roaming the streets, he's going to go to another location and do the same thing to other girls, but with more caution.
He's a criminal that should have been severely punished for his past and future crimes.
I'm sure the girl isn't his first victim.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by equity1(m): 10:34pm On Apr 16, 2022
Eye opener.


For part time job.

Check my signature below
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by SavageResponse(m): 10:35pm On Apr 16, 2022
What was he hoping to get from the body of a 15 year old girl?

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Saao(m): 10:35pm On Apr 16, 2022
Thanks for the post, I learned alot from your post. Thanks

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by MeghaneMorgane(f): 10:35pm On Apr 16, 2022
Honestly, 21st century parents have work to do. Thank God he was caught before he could go further. Let them expose the man and put his face on social media

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Grandmeister(m): 10:36pm On Apr 16, 2022
pocohantas:


They are advising you now, you are running mouth like parrot. This is how your uncle ended up in a UK prison. Tomorrow if hand touch you, you would claim it is racial profiling. Shut up for once and learn!!
You don't think there's something off for a girl of 15 years to be getting advances from a man and hiding it from her parents? When I was less than that age I knew better. I assumed responsibility for myself and my younger siblings at an age lesser than that because I was always told "they are looking up to you". Nobody is saying the man is not guilty but it reeks of failure and gap in parenting if a 15 year old girl is hiding such things from her parents.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by JoshTim: 10:36pm On Apr 16, 2022
emmanuelbrown26:
The two parties are to be blamed, both d adult male and d girl child.
If d girl child is not enjoying d conversation, she would hv informed d mum long time ago than hiding it and also passwording her phone.
Or d girl child would hv reported to her teacher on school, imagine adult offering her gifts and money and she accepted them without fear.
When I talk about female, dem go cum for my head,
You no get sense. Wasnt the man in better position to guide the little girl of 15 years old.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by peacettw: 10:36pm On Apr 16, 2022
This could have been avoided by not giving the girl child a phone until she is an adult and/or in the university. Nowadays, kids in primary school have their own phones which is just sad.

Not only will I not give my kids a phone, I have also resolved not to buy any PlayStation to curb any addiction and low threshold to brazen violence at a young age.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by GloriousGbola: 10:37pm On Apr 16, 2022
No child outside uni has any business with a smart phone. Buy Nokia torchlight

If na by force, then you better learn Google or ios family settings and deploy them. And pay attention to reports on what your child is doing.

As long as your kids are exposed to social media, they will always see all this nonsense where showing skin, and living a wealthy life is celebrated.

May God help us all sha. I may just be lucky my kids are nerds or pretending to be.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Slynation(m): 10:37pm On Apr 16, 2022
emmanuelbrown26:

I don't just understand why women always attach emotion to everything.
Nobody is talking about d girl that gave her number willingly to d idiotic man
Nobody is talking about d girl that exchanged nudes with d idiotic man
Nobody is talking about d girl that accepted gifts and money from d idiotic man
Nobody is talking about d girl that was enjoying chatting with d idiotic man
Why are we so irrational in judging cases?
Please come out plain...!! Some girls are still dumb at 22 let alone a child of 15years that can be easily manipulated...

Please, this side of the story you are going to doesn't add up...!!

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by asahnwaKC: 10:38pm On Apr 16, 2022
emmanuelbrown26:

I don't just understand why women always attach emotion to everything.
Nobody is talking about d girl that gave her number willingly to d idiotic man
Nobody is talking about d girl that exchanged nudes with d idiotic man
Nobody is talking about d girl that accepted gifts and money from d idiotic man
Nobody is talking about d girl that was enjoying chatting with d idiotic man
Why are we so irrational in judging cases?

What is this one saying :-.......

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by pocohantas(f): 10:38pm On Apr 16, 2022
Grandmeister:

You don't think there's something off for a girl of 15 years to be getting advances from a man and hiding it from her parents? When I was less than that age I knew better. I assumed responsibility for myself and my younger siblings at an age lesser than that because I was always told "they are looking up to you". Nobody is saying the man is not guilty but it reeks of failure and gap in parenting if a 15 year old girl is hiding such things from her parents.

Nobody is saying it is not off, what somebody is saying is that the ADULT is to blame! The onus is on you the adult to steer clear of kids! They are impressionable and should not be taken advantage of by adults! It is not rocket science, but if you want to test it, enter plane and go chyke an American minor!!

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Nobody: 10:39pm On Apr 16, 2022
emmanuelbrown26:

Sometimes our judgement is so so biase. A 15 year old girl (teenager), the mother is still alive and she stays with her mother.
An adult started toasting her, she willingly gave her number to d adult, she willingly exchange nude photos with d adult, she willingly accepted gifts and money.
At this juncture, both d adult and d girl are to be blamed. If d adult is pestering her and does not like it, what she should hv done is to report to her mother and teachers in school.
I had an encounter with a teanage girl like that, (when I was working in a pharmacy) d girl came to buy pepper spray, and I asked her who sent her and why she came to buy d pepper spray.
She told me how a boy was disturbing her everywhere she goes and d harrasement from d guy
I told her d following:
1. Anytime she wants to go out, she should not go alone.
2. She should inform her parents about d boy's disturbances and harrasement
3. Should not go out in d night all alone. Infact I hv forgotten d orientation I gv her but my happiness was that she conquered bcs after a while d girl came back to me and thanked me and d idiotic boy did not disturb nor harass her again.
What I'm trying to say here is that d teenage girl has questions to answer and as for d old cargo of a man, well nemesis will surely catch up with him
The girl doesn't have any question to answer in the eyes of the law. A teenager is a teenager.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by peacettw: 10:39pm On Apr 16, 2022
emmanuelbrown26:

I don't just understand why women always attach emotion to everything.
Nobody is talking about d girl that gave her number willingly to d idiotic man
Nobody is talking about d girl that exchanged nudes with d idiotic man
Nobody is talking about d girl that accepted gifts and money from d idiotic man
Nobody is talking about d girl that was enjoying chatting with d idiotic man
Why are we so irrational in judging cases?

That girl is just what she is, a child with an impaired mental capacity to judge between right and wrong. That is why the man who incidentally is not only married but also a father, is the culprit here and quite frankly a budding pedophile

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Piptocoin: 10:39pm On Apr 16, 2022
Some men can fall hand. How can he be nursing an erection over a 15-year old? How? Is there even an explanation?

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Efecyril: 10:40pm On Apr 16, 2022
God help us..inside life
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by akanbiaa(m): 10:40pm On Apr 16, 2022
QuinModah:
*DON’T LOSE GUARD WITH YOUR DAUGHTERS*

You can't be too sure...

I watched a skit a few minutes ago and I remembered an incident that happened last year. I have her permission to share without revealing names or locations. Also some details have been changed.

A mother asked to use her fifteen year old daughter’s phone for some days while her own phone was being repaired.

WhatsApp messages dropped on the phone. Her daughter had passworded her WhatsApp so she couldn’t see the messages.

Out of curiosity, she tried some passwords and her daughter’s birthday was the password. She opened the WhatsApp and almost died, with the shock of what she saw.

A man in the next building had been chatting with her daughter. He had made several sexual advances towards her, which the daughter refused. He was adamant. He pursued her. He sent her recharge cards, came to her school to give her gifts and money.

He asked her if she had a boyfriend or have ever had intimacy, she said no. He pursued her some more.

He requested for her pictures, almost unclad, which she initially refused to send him but when he sent his, she sent hers. It was nothing too revealing as she was in her bra and underwear.

He taught her how to password her WhatsApp.

Then he pushed for more. He wanted to see her completely nude. She couldn’t take such a picture because she shared a room with her siblings.

He asked her to lock herself in the bathroom for them to have a video call.

She saw messages like “Did you like what you saw?” “ Stop being shy around me.” “Why are you afraid? Nobody will see you.” He sent a picture of his nudity to her. A girl of fifteen!

It became terrifying when her daughter sent a chat saying she saw him with his wife the other night and he ignored her. She knew her daughter had fallen and it was a matter of time before the guy had his way.

She contacted me and asked me for advice. I have helped her in the past so she felt she could confide in me.

The truth is, when such a thing happens, you have to get someone who will treat the man’s Bleep-up very well. Who is the person who will be angry enough to do that No other person than her father.

She was scared her husband will dump the blame on her. She was looking for another way to handle it without him.

I told her, “If you handle it quietly, the man will be wiser and will ensure he won’t be caught since he is obsessed with your daughter that he patiently groomed her. It is best he is disgraced and only her father will do that unless he is a useless man that’s when he will keep quiet.” I told her she is lucky the girl hadn’t agreed to be alone with the man anywhere. It was getting close to that.

Her husband didn’t disappoint me. Immediately he read the chats and saw the ‘manhood’ he took off to the man’s house that night. The wife ran after him. He banged continuously on the gate.

Well, the man got what was coming to him. He was disgraced. The evidence of their chats were there. His neighbours were shocked because he portrayed a picture of a saint but he was the devil and also a paedophile.

The husband wanted to take the matter to the Police but everyone begged. The landlord of their house and the man’s house also appealed to him not to escalate the matter. They begged him not to expose his chats on social media as his wife, my friend, had promised to do.

The culprit’s wife left him. He eventually had to move out of the house immediately the rent was due. The disgrace was too much for them to handle. Everywhere he went in the neighborhood, mothers were wary of him around their daughters.

They have collected the phones from their children. If you are not in university, no more phones.

How did they handle the girl? I asked them not to beat her. But the father refused to listen. He said she had brought disgrace to the household. He wanted to send her to the village but I stopped him. She needed therapy not to be shamed. I told the mother to take her to see a psychologist at Yaba left. It worked!

Older men groom very young girls and turn them into sex slaves. It was what this man was doing. The kind of chats they had was irritating coming from a grown man. He was able to make her do some of the things he wanted by doing them first.

That phone your daughter holds very dear to her heart, please once in a while, check it. Make sure she is not being groomed for someone’s perversion. Check what she is doing and advise her. Anyone younger than sixteen shouldn’t be on social media. Anyone still in secondary school shouldn’t be there too, regardless of their age.

Girls have been lured to travel abroad to be sex slaves, all by grooming or greed. They make them hate their families and believe they are the only ones that love them . They give them attention and say sweet things to them often. It is easy to fall for such.

Teach your children these signs and also do not expose them unnecessarily to these men. Paedophiles are evolving. They are getting smarter. We have to keep our girls safe.

I love you all.
She is lucky the man did not use her nude to blackmail her or destroy her on social media by making her depressed or suicidal.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by cococandy(f): 10:40pm On Apr 16, 2022
Please shut up
Xtupid
emmanuelbrown26:

Sometimes our judgement is so so biase. A 15 year old girl (teenager), the mother is still alive and she stays with her mother.
An adult started toasting her, she willingly gave her number to d adult, she willingly exchange nude photos with d adult, she willingly accepted gifts and money.
At this juncture, both d adult and d girl are to be blamed. If d adult is pestering her and does not like it, what she should hv done is to report to her mother and teachers in school.
I had an encounter with a teanage girl like that, (when I was working in a pharmacy) d girl came to buy pepper spray, and I asked her who sent her and why she came to buy d pepper spray.
She told me how a boy was disturbing her everywhere she goes and d harrasement from d guy
I told her d following:
1. Anytime she wants to go out, she should not go alone.
2. She should inform her parents about d boy's disturbances and harrasement
3. Should not go out in d night all alone. Infact I hv forgotten d orientation I gv her but my happiness was that she conquered bcs after a while d girl came back to me and thanked me and d idiotic boy did not disturb nor harass her again.
What I'm trying to say here is that d teenage girl has questions to answer and as for d old cargo of a man, well nemesis will surely catch up with him

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by NigeriaEngineer(m): 10:41pm On Apr 16, 2022
Apt! One of the best thing i have read on this land
QuinModah:
*DON’T LOSE GUARD WITH YOUR DAUGHTERS*

You can't be too sure...

I watched a skit a few minutes ago and I remembered an incident that happened last year. I have her permission to share without revealing names or locations. Also some details have been changed.

A mother asked to use her fifteen year old daughter’s phone for some days while her own phone was being repaired.

WhatsApp messages dropped on the phone. Her daughter had passworded her WhatsApp so she couldn’t see the messages.

Out of curiosity, she tried some passwords and her daughter’s birthday was the password. She opened the WhatsApp and almost died, with the shock of what she saw.

A man in the next building had been chatting with her daughter. He had made several sexual advances towards her, which the daughter refused. He was adamant. He pursued her. He sent her recharge cards, came to her school to give her gifts and money.

He asked her if she had a boyfriend or have ever had intimacy, she said no. He pursued her some more.

He requested for her pictures, almost unclad, which she initially refused to send him but when he sent his, she sent hers. It was nothing too revealing as she was in her bra and underwear.

He taught her how to password her WhatsApp.

Then he pushed for more. He wanted to see her completely nude. She couldn’t take such a picture because she shared a room with her siblings.

He asked her to lock herself in the bathroom for them to have a video call.

She saw messages like “Did you like what you saw?” “ Stop being shy around me.” “Why are you afraid? Nobody will see you.” He sent a picture of his nudity to her. A girl of fifteen!

It became terrifying when her daughter sent a chat saying she saw him with his wife the other night and he ignored her. She knew her daughter had fallen and it was a matter of time before the guy had his way.

She contacted me and asked me for advice. I have helped her in the past so she felt she could confide in me.

The truth is, when such a thing happens, you have to get someone who will treat the man’s Bleep-up very well. Who is the person who will be angry enough to do that No other person than her father.

She was scared her husband will dump the blame on her. She was looking for another way to handle it without him.

I told her, “If you handle it quietly, the man will be wiser and will ensure he won’t be caught since he is obsessed with your daughter that he patiently groomed her. It is best he is disgraced and only her father will do that unless he is a useless man that’s when he will keep quiet.” I told her she is lucky the girl hadn’t agreed to be alone with the man anywhere. It was getting close to that.

Her husband didn’t disappoint me. Immediately he read the chats and saw the ‘manhood’ he took off to the man’s house that night. The wife ran after him. He banged continuously on the gate.

Well, the man got what was coming to him. He was disgraced. The evidence of their chats were there. His neighbours were shocked because he portrayed a picture of a saint but he was the devil and also a paedophile.

The husband wanted to take the matter to the Police but everyone begged. The landlord of their house and the man’s house also appealed to him not to escalate the matter. They begged him not to expose his chats on social media as his wife, my friend, had promised to do.

The culprit’s wife left him. He eventually had to move out of the house immediately the rent was due. The disgrace was too much for them to handle. Everywhere he went in the neighborhood, mothers were wary of him around their daughters.

They have collected the phones from their children. If you are not in university, no more phones.

How did they handle the girl? I asked them not to beat her. But the father refused to listen. He said she had brought disgrace to the household. He wanted to send her to the village but I stopped him. She needed therapy not to be shamed. I told the mother to take her to see a psychologist at Yaba left. It worked!

Older men groom very young girls and turn them into sex slaves. It was what this man was doing. The kind of chats they had was irritating coming from a grown man. He was able to make her do some of the things he wanted by doing them first.

That phone your daughter holds very dear to her heart, please once in a while, check it. Make sure she is not being groomed for someone’s perversion. Check what she is doing and advise her. Anyone younger than sixteen shouldn’t be on social media. Anyone still in secondary school shouldn’t be there too, regardless of their age.

Girls have been lured to travel abroad to be sex slaves, all by grooming or greed. They make them hate their families and believe they are the only ones that love them . They give them attention and say sweet things to them often. It is easy to fall for such.

Teach your children these signs and also do not expose them unnecessarily to these men. Paedophiles are evolving. They are getting smarter. We have to keep our girls safe.

I love you all.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Moscodee1990(m): 10:41pm On Apr 16, 2022
emmanuelbrown26:
The two parties are to be blamed, both d adult male and d girl child.
If d girl child is not enjoying d conversation, she would hv informed d mum long time ago than hiding it and also passwording her phone.
Or d girl child would hv reported to her teacher on school, imagine adult offering her gifts and money and she accepted them without fear.
When I talk about female, dem go cum for my head,
What does a child know, or maybe blame the parents for poor upbringing.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Rebuke: 10:41pm On Apr 16, 2022
emmanuelbrown26:
The two parties are to be blamed, both d adult male and d girl child.
If d girl child is not enjoying d conversation, she would hv informed d mum long time ago than hiding it and also passwording her phone.
Or d girl child would hv reported to her teacher on school, imagine adult offering her gifts and money and she accepted them without fear.
When I talk about female, dem go cum for my head,




Common sense isn't really common o. Smh

I'm sure yhu are above 20. At 20 or 20 plus, after reading this and all yhu typed there is all yhu could think of typing; it's sad to say but yhu ain't smart. Yhur mental faculty is too low for yhur age.

I fear for yhur generation.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by cococandy(f): 10:42pm On Apr 16, 2022
Adek15:
to have a girl child is so terrifying. It's only God that can save them. Anyone that can train a girl child properly till she gets married without blemish should be given a national award, e no easy
the easier route would be to raise responsible men but y’all swear that’s impossible

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