Hello nairalnaders.
While courting a lady, she tells you that her father is absent in her life but he is alive, would you still go ahead to marry her without her father's blessings? Or would you insist on meeting him despite many lies she may speak of her father?
Is it not a taboo to marry without a father's blessings as long as he is alive? No matter what must have transpired between a man and his wife, in my culture the children belong to the father.

Father's blessing adds or subtract nothing,na we naijarians dey carry am for head.

not everyone believe in the above...but if you do, then find some other babe to marry. if a woman removes her father from her life (or he absconded), you have no right to go see that man about marying his daughter.

so people with disastrous marriage never got your so called father's blessings?... nothing like that exist abeg...do your thing and focus on your life

If her father is absent from her life and it is not because she chose to cut him off,then it's not compulsory to have him bless the marriage.

The person who played the role of a father in her life is enough to bless the marriage.

dprincedej:
Hello nairalnaders.
1. While courting a lady, she tells you that her father is absent in her life but he is alive, would you still go ahead to marry her without her father's blessings? Or would you insist on meeting him despite many lies she may speak of her father?

2. Is it not a taboo to marry without a father's blessings as long as he is alive?

3. No matter what must have transpired between a man and his wife, in my culture the children belong to the father.

1 She told you her father is absent in her life, so how did you determine that instead that she speaks lies of her father?,

2. Are you trying to marry your taboo system for a wife or are you attempting to marry the woman?

3. Obviously, this woman does not subscribe to your culture, so why did you date outside of your culture to begin with?,

dprincedej:
Hello nairalnaders.
While courting a lady, she tells you that her father is absent in her life but he is alive, would you still go ahead to marry her without her father's blessings? Or would you insist on meeting him despite many lies she may speak of her father?
Is it not a taboo to marry without a father's blessings as long as he is alive? No matter what must have transpired between a man and his wife, in my culture the children belong to the father.

Don't get all consumed by superstition. Focus on if she's a good and kind person.

dprincedej:
Hello nairalnaders.
While courting a lady, she tells you that her father is absent in her life but he is alive, would you still go ahead to marry her without her father's blessings? Or would you insist on meeting him despite many lies she may speak of her father?
Is it not a taboo to marry without a father's blessings as long as he is alive? No matter what must have transpired between a man and his wife, in my culture the children belong to the father.

Most people will insist. This is Africa with it’s unique cultures and traditions. Extend family usually does background checks on family history and other things (like health issues) so that you know what you’re getting into. Whether she likes it or not, her father’s name will definitely come up

I suggest you bring this issue up with your people and let them do what needs to be done in this regard. Traditions will not change because of you both, and anyone asking you to disrespect your traditions just to suit their own convenience has no respect for you

Don't complicate you life.

There are many single ladies you can marry without nonsense drama.

It is when you get married that you will start facing family wahala you never knew anything about. It is beyond the blessings and wedding day.

The issue of the father will always come up. Don't be deceived.

dprincedej:
Hello nairalnaders.
While courting a lady, she tells you that her father is absent in her life but he is alive, would you still go ahead to marry her without her father's blessings? Or would you insist on meeting him despite many lies she may speak of her father?
Is it not a taboo to marry without a father's blessings as long as he is alive? No matter what must have transpired between a man and his wife, in my culture the children belong to the father.

Don't listen to any nonsense advice. Blessing or no blessing, her father or a father figure MUST be aware about the daughter's intention to get married to you.

Moreover, according to many Nigerian traditions, someone must represent the father if the biological father chooses to be absent on the D-day. So whoever that person is, get to meet him and get his consent to marry your girl.

Women don't give their daughters hand in marriage. Bride price is paid to the man or/and his family (uncles). If the girl's mother tells you to present the bride price to her, just know that you have not done a proper traditional marriage.

You don't have to force an absentee dad to walk her down the aisle but it is COMPULSORY to get his consent or at least get him informed.

Don't allow anybody lie to you in the name of wokeness and don't complicate your life because of somebody else's advice, an advice they haven't used in their own lives.

If you're not ready to pay her traditional rites the proper way, simply go to a registry alone and rent parents/witnesses like most people (especially romance scammers) do.

If you love her marry her immediately

Kobojunkie:
1 She told you her father is absent in her life, so how did you determine that instead that she speaks lies of her father?,

2. Are you trying to marry your taboo system for a wife or are you attempting to marry the woman?

3. Obviously, this woman does not subscribe to your culture, so why did you date outside of your culture to begin with?,

Kobojunkie you are a critical thinker,you love to question things.

dprincedej:
Hello nairalnaders.
While courting a lady, she tells you that her father is absent in her life but he is alive, would you still go ahead to marry her without her father's blessings? Or would you insist on meeting him despite many lies she may speak of her father?
Is it not a taboo to marry without a father's blessings as long as he is alive? No matter what must have transpired between a man and his wife, in my culture the children belong to the father.

Why not investigate and find out why her father is not in her life since you think she's lying? That could convince you to either continue with the marriage plans or abort mission.

However, if you don't trust the person you are with, and you see her as a liar, why are you planning to make her your wife.