In eight years of marriage, my mother inlaw has never called me on phone. I do ALL the calling. When I asked her why, she said I was supposed to be calling and not she calling me. I am getting fed up. please mothers and fathers in the house, is this how it's supposed to be?

MadamVanessa is in a better position to advice you better, but this one I am not seeing her online, e be like say she don chop ban

Stop allowing unnecessary things to bother you. If she doesn't call, just keep doing the calling. It doesn't kill. Okay

She is even nice

What if she calls you too much and it bothers u?

It's better as she don't call, so u don't have call too

I don't see why u are bothered

I dey like this kyn mother in law wey no go dey stress me. Obviously she is rich and very busy.

To me, it's not normal, but it's OK like this than for her to be calling for something

It's not normal but you can do the calling whenever it's convenient for you.
Does she call her son?

Why u go dey carry this kind of matter for head??
E seems like say your problems don finish, na u dey look for problems now.
Mtchewww

This your mother in-law is a nice woman. She understand the concept of marriage, that's why she isn't interfering, and giving you space.
She not calling you at all isn't right, but the mama be like who no dey like stress person.

[quote author=thorpido post=112472894]It's not normal but you can do the calling whenever it's convenient for you.
Does she call her son?[/yes she does. She just asks about the welfare of me and my daughter that's all.quote]

I don't think it's normal that she has never ever called you to check on you. Does she call her son (your husband)? Does she call her daughter(s)?

If she sees and accepts you as her daughter, she should be calling you. From her behaviour, you are still an outsider to her. Does she tell her own children that they should be the only ones calling her? Would a mother not check on her children?

That's my opinion.

If it's not broken, don't try to fix it. Some people rarely make calls, even to their parents. Lol, if they do that to their future children in-laws doesn't mean they have issues with them or do not accept them.

Just call to check on her once in a while, everybody is good.

My kind of mother in-law
Mind your business, I mind my own

Better mother inlaw who no want seefinish from her daughter-in-law

MsJackson:
In eight years of marriage, my mother inlaw has never called me on phone. I do ALL the calling. When I asked her why, she said I was supposed to be calling and not she calling me. I am getting fed up. please mothers and fathers in the house, is this how it's supposed to be?

As long as she doesn't have issues with when you don't call her for quite a while, I wouldn't let it bother me if I were you.

But if it means so much to you that she calls you, tell her that it'll make you happy if she makes the effort to call you, even if it's once in a while.
It is good that you want to build that bond with her.

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MsJackson:
In eight years of marriage, my mother inlaw has never called me on phone. I do ALL the calling. When I asked her why, she said I was supposed to be calling and not she calling me. I am getting fed up. please mothers and fathers in the house, is this how it's supposed to be?

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Tony4988:
Stop allowing unnecessary things to bother you. If she doesn't call, just keep doing the calling. It doesn't kill. Okay

I no just know wetin dey worry some people brain Sha. She dey call always, u go complain, if she no call, u go still complain. She leave u make enjoy ur marriage, na u still dey bother with unnessary complain.

Truvelisback:
I no just know wetin worry some people brain Sha. She dey call always, u go complain, if she no call, u go still complain. She leave u make enjoy ur marriage, na u still dey bother with unnessary complain.

Now you know you folks got lota issues

Candidlady:



Now you know you folks got lota issues

Not we all. People dey find marriage wey mother-in-law wey no go bother them or stress them with complain, him find one, still dey complain. When the woman come get him, na him go come here come dey wail.

[quote author=MsJackson post=112475726][/quote]I have the same opinion like ImaIma1 that she sees you as an outsider and that's why she doesn't call you.Not calling often can mean she doesn't want to bother you(as a couple),but not calling at all means she doesn't send.
I wouldn't let it bother me if i were you.

ImaIma1:
I don't think it's normal that she has never ever called you to check on you. Does she call her son (your husband)? Does she call her daughter(s)?

If she sees and accepts you as her daughter, she should be calling you. From her behaviour, you are still an outsider to her. Does she tell her own children that they should be the only ones calling her? Would a mother not check on her children?

That's my opinion.

my point exactly. It just tells me the love is one sided. And I am almost locking up. Let everyone rest. If u don't ever check on me, why should I continue?

MsJackson:
my point exactly. It just tells me the love is one sided. And I am almost locking up. Let everyone rest. If u don't ever check on me, why should I continue?

Have you discussed it with your husband? What does he say about it?

I perceive you are an attention seeker. How trivial...

She's trying to stay clear from your family and give you the peace that you deserve.

I will advise you to call her once in a while unless both of you have issues that you haven't settled.

I call my in-laws once every month to check on them.

Fkj2021:
She's trying to stay clear from your family and give you the peace that you deserve.

I will advise you to call her once in a while unless both of you have issues that you haven't settled.

I call my in-laws once every month to check on them.

alright thanks

ImaIma1:


Have you discussed it with your husband? What does he say about it?

he doesn't see it as an issue

Una too get wahala for this country. Out of all things in the world, that is what is bothering you? You're getting too comfortable.