Akinzola:
I'm waiting for the elderly ones.

tsmith:


Let me get this straight, you want to commandeer a grown adult's in and out?

Yet you go in and out as you wish?

You sat 'her down' and agreed her permitted outgoings?

Of course she simply agreed to fuel your already entitled and commanding ego.

It's obvious as well that you're not able to handle the truth or someone else's view that's contrary to yours, so she's playing you as your game. As soon as the cat is out, the mouse too goes out to play.

It's a marriage not a zoo, okay! Limit the zoo antics to your dog.

Nyascobar1414:


Na babymama,dey suit this one...

You are still single by the way..


After kuku go cry 4 shiloh..

Kikiiikiiii

SeaTrade:
All the things you are complaining will never change ,anyhow you like communicate,they still won't change.
You've already married her so you just have to make peace with some of this problems.
As for younger single men,this is what I have to tell you.
-Avoid marrying someone in the same age range as you,else things like this will befall you.
You don't expect someone who have lived for so long independently to change and start abiding to you all of a sudden.
-Please ,if you succeed to make good money in your prime,do not marry any woman that has any sort of job whatsoever. Most times these women feel too independent and always feel like they should prove to you they make money too and should be worshipped or something,in which most times that thing they claim to make in that their useless job,you can easily spend on a cool weekend.
Don't ask me how I know,I've experienced a lot of things.
I am seriously scouting for a very young,out of college girl to marry and have peace,if she must work,I have a lot of room for her in my business.
Me and all these so called independent Nigeria women no get any business again !Make them go find who them go do that their nonsense with.
If you want to be an 'independent' woman,please don't marry so you can have all the independence you want and not go and kill somebody's child.
Peace.

Rita5:


Wait do you live in a fairy tale or something? Because I don't understand why you said only fool will resent who they marry. So if you are married you no longer have emotions or something? I don't understand you. Even your siblings, I am pretty sure there are stuff they did that you resented them for at the time. Heck even your parents too. Resentment is natural, it happens, the trick is to clear the air and don't let it fester. That's why you should always ensure your significant other is free with you and able to fully express their reservations about something, and you should have the emotional intelligence of not dismissing it and imposing your will but listening and actually making compromises.

okoroemeka:
first of all why keeping your wife at home with you when you know she wants to be at the market,her mind and soul will not be together at that time,it is just a forced holidays,as long as it is strictly business and no hidden agenda in the market,why not,give her a very long lesh,don't even try to restrict,curtail,or scuttle her ideas and ambition just for her to be with you, slowly adapt and start filling in some gaps she may leave behind, believe me she will love you more and volunteer her time specially for you,if she is a business woman support her with encouraging words and cover her back,love is sweetest when the woman is happy not when she is forced to sit down at home sullenly,you will have a happy family

Rita5:


All these your rules are ridiculous tbh. Your wife can't be free in her own home to go out and come in at will because she is married to you. Imagine saying you will ban her are you in the 1950s. Nor be your fault na the woman I blame. So if she goes to market for 2hrs tops you will die ba. The remaining 22hrs in the day is not enough for you. You must cage her like an animal. Her own desires are secondary na only your own matter. Well done!

rayvelez:

lol I know two beautiful lady with a mentality like you buh laslas nah 3rd wife and later babymama deh both end up..

PerfectStranger:
What's so special about the Saturday market you asked? Maybe na only Saturday her side guy or ex dey get chance.
Carry your cross oga.

Rita5:


Tell them I said hello. We all have our struggles. I also have a friend who makes statements like this whenever we have a conversation like this, his wife left him and she's doing well for herself and their kid. While oga turn status and online warrior.

tsmith:


Let me get this straight, you want to commandeer a grown adult's in and out?

Yet you go in and out as you wish?

You sat 'her down' and agreed her permitted outgoings?

Of course she simply agreed to fuel your already entitled and commanding ego.

It's obvious as well that you're not able to handle the truth or someone else's view that's contrary to yours, so she's playing you as your game. As soon as the cat is out, the mouse too goes out to play.

It's a marriage not a zoo, okay! Limit the zoo antics to your dog.

Nyascobar1414:
Weytin the worry this mumu simp...


The moment you get married, you have decided to be a simp...

Love is a sign of weakness...
Hatred is a sign of strength...



Know this and know peace!

amenn500:


Abeg shift go one side, dont you know families functions in different ways? You seem to bring your point on a generalized level which is far from whats going on here.

Rita5:


Pele oh! A word is usually enough for the wise. People who tend to dismiss advice very quickly live to forever feel the sting of I was told before if only I listened. Wetin concern me na you get your marriage take advice or leave it doesn't affect the money in my account, so best of luck.

Das1mama:
First of all i dey h like dis but e no still get where e touch!! Me go still reason my mind.... As a man that i am i understand your plight but d bitter truth is stand on your ground and let her be the one to apologise for disrespecting u by flaunting the standing rules in your home which will make her understand how principled and cultured person you are which will make her even more to always respect your decisions as the man of the house.... But the moment you beg her when she's wrong, believe me that will be the beginning of your downfall... Give a woman a mile she would want to double it.... Shalom

techgen:
It's quite easy to know your wife whereabouts on Saturdays....to keep your mind at peace.

Simply install tracker in her car or favorite handbag for like 3 Saturday.

Tech. Has made life easy...use it!!!

amenn500:


A child like you with no marital experience and early feminist symptoms can never be taken advise from. Who born u to advice me?

Rita5:


A old man like you with a shaking marriage who can't understand simple social ques dey run enter nairaland dey shout I am confused . Something a small child will observe and know what's going on is what you are dumbfounded about and you dey form who born you to advice me . If you have had a little bit of emotional intelligence this situation would have been very clear to you. Na the woman wey marry you Bleep up. Well Nigeria has always been a place of desperation no surprise she followed you to the altar. Do well to tell her hello for me.

itsMrIke:


My dear, just rest. No stress yourself again. Let OP do whatever he likes. I have read all comments so far, and he seems to only like the comments of those who support him or are encouraging him to believe his wife is cheating in him. Na here we go dey when he go come give us update. Abeg ignore all the people insulting you. They will soon call me SIMP.

You can't talk to a man like this, obviously why his wife will agree with him and still do what she wants, because he doesn't have rational demands.

Just imagine the reason why OP wants her to stay home on Saturdays, is to "have her all to himself". This is the most selfish and possessive thing any man can ever think, how much more say.

OP, truth is Saturdays are a good day for her to go the market. If you keep commanding and banning her not to go, you will end up with a resentful wife. Do you understand how her shop works or its needs?? Try to understand her business. Then you can know how best you both can manage your time.

But trying to think you can command and ban your wife is going to cause more trouble than it will solve.

And relax with this Head of the house thing. This believe has killed many marriages. I am a Man no dey work again. Only small minded people think like this.

Good luck to you OP. And yeah, the rest of you bone heads can come call me SIMP. I am ready

Rita5:


Wait do you live in a fairy tale or something? Because I don't understand why you said only fool will resent who they marry. So if you are married you no longer have emotions or something? I don't understand you. Even your siblings, I am pretty sure there are stuff they did that you resented them for at the time. Heck even your parents too. Resentment is natural, it happens, the trick is to clear the air and don't let it fester. That's why you should always ensure your significant other is free with you and able to fully express their reservations about something, and you should have the emotional intelligence of not dismissing it and imposing your will but listening and actually making compromises.

itsMrIke:


My dear, just rest. No stress yourself again. Let OP do whatever he likes. I have read all comments so far, and he seems to only like the comments of those who support him or are encouraging him to believe his wife is cheating in him. Na here we go dey when he go come give us update. Abeg ignore all the people insulting you. They will soon call me SIMP.

You can't talk to a man like this, obviously why his wife will agree with him and still do what she wants, because he doesn't have rational demands.

Just imagine the reason why OP wants her to stay home on Saturdays, is to "have her all to himself". This is the most selfish and possessive thing any man can ever think, how much more say.

OP, truth is Saturdays are a good day for her to go the market. If you keep commanding and banning her not to go, you will end up with a resentful wife. Do you understand how her shop works or its needs?? Try to understand her business. Then you can know how best you both can manage your time.

But trying to think you can command and ban your wife is going to cause more trouble than it will solve.

And relax with this Head of the house thing. This believe has killed many marriages. I am a Man no dey work again. Only small minded people think like this.

Good luck to you OP. And yeah, the rest of you bone heads can come call me SIMP. I am ready

amenn500:


Are you married? if yes how many children do you have? Do you think running a family in this LAGOS of Nigeria na beans? Dont come here to come tell me how to run my fams.