My Wife’s Salary Was a Mystery Until I discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth

In 2016 she told me her salary was K950. And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only K350 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked.K4,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought him a corolla to be operating as a tax driver. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine.

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.”

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”

My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up,

My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions.

dude was sleeping with the devil all alone....

I'd Advise the Man to leave the Marriage, Before his Wife use's him to start a Homicide Career

Omorrr....
This is serious o...
Well...
I think the man handled things well...
His priority now should be the kids, divorcing his wife will be bad for their kids ...
As for his wife, he can allow her do as she sees fit ...

Omo, my gender can do and undo

Maryjane001:
Omo, my gender can do and undo

Like seriously?


Una dey do wetin devil sef neva do befor.


sometimes, na una dey possess devil himself


I carry hand for una female gender.






At OP, you acted well and i would gladly say thats WISDOM in display.

Too many secrets how does she sleep at night.

That woman is wicked and selfish even when she knows and can see that the man is making so much sacrifice for the family, yet she decided to put you through so much pain and stress when she has more than enough.

Whatever you do with her you are justified.

Lessons have been learnt and trust taken for granted. The only advice I will give the man is to take things easy with his wife as this step which he is taking will do more harm than good. It is true that she offended him greatly and it will be difficult to forgive her, but for the sake of their children he should find a place in his heart to forgive her. If this step he is taking continues it will lead to break up of the union due to lack of peace and love. It should serve as a lesson to women in general, there are certain things you don't need to hide from your husband as the discovery of it will not end well in your favor.

Women sha..Greedy fellows

Recycled story.
Why do you guys always being out old stories from old threads?
It makes one doubt the truth in the story in the first place.
But I know things like this happen sha.

eyinjuege:
Recycled story.
Why do you guys always being out old stories from old threads?
It makes one doubt the truth in the story in the first place.
But I know things like this happen sha.

Most nairalanders(men) don't have the fear of God,they keep recycling old stories,and the fact is that of this stories are fake.

boxer022:
Lessons have been learnt and trust taken for granted. The only advice I will give the man is to take things easy with his wife as this step which he is taking will do more harm than good. It is true that she offended him greatly and it will be difficult to forgive her, but for the sake of their children he should find a place in his heart to forgive her. If this step he is taking continues it will lead to break up of the union due to lack of peace and love. It should serve as a lesson to women in general, there are certain things you don't need to hide from your husband as the discovery of it will not end well in your favor.

Telling d man to forgive sounds more like being too stupid for long and forever.
I don't think their should be a forgiveness here. Even God regretted creating woman after d garden of Eden.

God himself did not marry.
His only son did not marry.
Out of d whole Apostoles, non was a female.
No wonder some great men in d bible did not marry.
Great prophets did not marry
That means their is something hidden about women that d Bible did not tell us.
Adam was very very fine in d garden, he was enjoying himself and life with every other creatures in d garden.
Problem started when a woman came without Adams consent, that was why when God saw that their eyes were opened. God asked "hv u eaten d fruit? And Adam replied" is it not d woman u brought that gave me d fruit" that means Adam never supported being with a woman

We need real stories not Nollywood tales.

Ọmọ x 1,000,000........ Why would she do this kind of thing to the person she claims to love? This is wickedness abeg. If we should things, people would begin to rain insults on the man.

emmanuelbrown26:

Telling d man to forgive sounds more like being too stupid for long and forever.
I don't think their should be a forgiveness here. Even God regretted creating woman after d garden of Eden.

There is always room for forgiveness in a marriage as it is not a do or die affair. My reason for saying that he should forgive is because of their children as it will not be good for them to grow up in broken homes. Your quote in the Bible is wrong, God didn't regret creating Eve (woman) after Eden. The Bible only referenced where God said he regrets making man in his image.

boxer022:
There is always room for forgiveness in a marriage as it is not a do or die affair. My reason for saying that he should forgive is because of their children as it will not be good for them to grow up in broken homes. Your quote in the Bible is wrong, God didn't regret creating Eve (woman) after Eden. The Bible only referenced where God said he regrets making man in his image.

Oga that's one of d tools used by d enemies. There are things that worths forgiving while there things that does not give room for forgiveness. D earlier human beings see it that way d better for d society. She didn't thought of d consequences before venturing into that path.
Such a woman could kill and label it domestic violence likewise a man that has that kind of mind could as well kill and label it another thing, highest the person would just serve some years of jail terms and continue his or her life.
As for Eden, God did not regret creating animals, trees, plants, water, land and sea. God used d word man bcs he felt that Adam disappointed him by allowing eve to deceive him. Since man is d head of d family, normally whatever happens they society always blame man.
After all, God himself said "when he saw that things he created were so good and he took a rest" a situation where God rested after seen d beautiful creatures, garden was in shamble when a woman came
There are things even God himself did not want mankind to know about woman.
God himself did not marry
His only Son did not marry
All d angels in Heaven are all men (according to what Christians were meant to understand)
All d 12 Apostles were all men
Come to humanity
All d great scientist never got married
Infact, something hidden about women are yet to be revealed and I believe men has to know

virginprincess:
Most nairalanders(men) don't have the fear of God,they keep recycling old stories,and the fact is that of this stories are fake.

Bcs d story centers on d wickedness of a woman that's why it's an story, let reverse be d case now, all these daughters of eve that throw d chief simp Adam out of d garden will never disappoint me

I don’t know how I’d handle this as I’m not a man

emmanuelbrown26:

Oga that's one of d tools used by d enemies. There are things that worths forgiving while there things that does not give room for forgiveness. D earlier human beings see it that way d better for d society. She didn't thought of d consequences before venturing into that path.
Such a woman could kill and label it domestic violence likewise a man that has that kind of mind could as well kill and label it another thing, highest the person would just serve some years of jail terms and continue his or her life.
As for Eden, God did not regret creating animals, trees, plants, water, land and sea. God used d word man bcs he felt that Adam disappointed him by allowing eve to deceive him. Since man is d head of d family, normally whatever happens they society always blame man.
After all, God himself said "when he saw that things he created were so good and he took a rest" a situation where God rested after seen d beautiful creatures, garden was in shamble when a woman came
There are things even God himself did not want mankind to know about woman.
God himself did not marry
His only Son did not marry
All d angels in Heaven are all men (according to what Christians were meant to understand)
All d 12 Apostles were all men
Come to humanity
All d great scientist never got married
Infact, something hidden about women are yet to be revealed and I believe men has to know

As much as I am not in support of what the woman did in the first place, I still believe that there is still chance for compromise and rebuilding lost confidence and trust if not he would have outrightly sent her parking immediately he confirmed everything. Talking about the Bible now you said that there are things God didn't want man to know about woman, sighting that even God himself, His son, the Host of Angels are not married. These people you mentioned are not human but spiritual beings. After God created man, he rested and saw that the work he made for man is too much and decided that man needs a helper. It was not man that demanded for a helper but God himself decided to give man a helper and didn't create her as He created man but created her from man himself, taking a rib from him to make her. The scientist you mentioned (most if them ) are married with children. The fact that one woman made a mistake which is pardon able that doesn't mean you condemn all the females.

emmanuelbrown26:

God himself did not marry.
His only son did not marry.
Out of d whole Apostoles, non was a female.
No wonder some great men in d bible did not marry.
Great prophets did not marry
That means their is something hidden about women that d Bible did not tell us.
Adam was very very fine in d garden, he was enjoying himself and life with every other creatures in d garden.
Problem started when a woman came without Adams consent, that was why when God saw that their eyes were opened. God asked "hv u eaten d fruit? And Adam replied" is it not d woman u brought that gave me d fruit" that means Adam never supported being with a woman

Satan too no marry. Demons too no gree marry. Bro, there is something they are not telling us

shantti:


Satan too no marry. Demons too no gree marry. Bro, there is something they are not telling us

Honestly, their is something hidden dem no wan mak men know about women and marriage and I will definitely know small