Fairandlovely:
Am indeed grateful..tanks alot

kindly drop contact.
Thanks

So sorry bro. Take heart . You need to stand up back and make things happen… continue with your life

It's been 10years since I lost my mum, and I can tell ya, it doesn't get easier, you just got to live with it, what can you do?..Live your life with the pain , and also with the satisfaction that she's watching over you everyday..Dont forget to pray for her and most especially yourself, you still got this life to live..Live it well for her..

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year....

I can boldly say I know how you feel. My mother died in my arms on Dec 31 2006 when I was just 20yrs old. This was after a two-months long illness. Then it felt as though life would end, but each time the grief felt overwhelming, I held on to the pleasant memories and remember how she raised me up to face my fears.

Grief is real and can lead to depression if you let it. You need to ask yourself if your mum would be happy to see you falling into depression. Your mum has given the world a gift; you. Now you need to make that gift worthwhile by lifting your chin up, being the best you can be and living a life that your late mum would be proud of.

@OP, believe me, time will lessen the pain and you are stronger than you think. Lastly, the ones we truly love are never really gone; they live on in our hearts.

Op stay strong, though it’s not easy I can still remember when my dearly Mum died when I was in primary school and my Dad followed when I was in 200levels in University, I swear I feel you … I’m the last born of the family too, just keep praying for her
That’s only my advice to u

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

My man. Just take it easy ok

I just want you to know that you're not in this alone.

3 years ago I also lost my mum. And all my dreams and aspirations in life didn't matter to me. I really wanted to commit suicide. Nothing in this life mattered to me.

I didn't care about getting married or having children. I just wanted to be with my mum.

It wasn't until last year that my depression started phasing out. I never thought I could ever smile or laugh again.

I'm also the last born of my mum. And I'm almost 28.

Bro you're lucky you still have a dad. My dad died when I was 2 months old.

Many times I'm agry at God at why He created me or why He's letting this negative things happen to me at this young stage of my life. But who am I to question Him?
Even if I did I know I'll not get any answer. And nobody in this world can explain any better.

Just spend more time with your siblings bro. And I'll be praying for God to heal your hurt just as He's healed mine.

Take care bro.
Good night and Happy New Month.

So sorry dear I understand d pain.... buh trust you will be fine as time goes by

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

.

I totally can relate to you. I am 29 aswell, and I'm also the last child. I lost my mum the previous Sunday. It hurts like mad, it always come back no matter how much I try to distract myself. My challenge is that sometimes I notice my heartbeat increses and I feel uneasy. Worst is that I feel guilt, I feel like a failure as I didn't do most of the things I wished to do for her. I just hope I see her again, I will cherish every moment with her.

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

The truth is that you will never actually get over it. You will only expand to do other things like being successful, having remarkable triumphs and honoring her memory. But anytime you remember, that pain will still be there. The only thing is just that instead of that remembrance being totally bitter as it is right now, by then it will be partly bitter and mostly sweet.

It has been 17 years since my sister died. Mummy was 14 years ago. My favourite and closest aunt, who was Mummy's sister, was about 7 years ago. I have made remarkable successes since then. I have made decisions and gotten results that exceeded any of my expectations. But in writing this, I had to remember them, and that made my eyes to still water.

So just keep moving. Focus on living and helping others live, especially your father. One day, two days, a week, three weeks, two months- you will keep expanding. And may it be well with you.

PS: There's a brilliant image I once saw that says this more concisely. I'll dig for it and if I find it I will attach it.

Grief has stages. Time and positive engagements are your greatest healer.

- dboY1123