My husband does not care if I prosper or not as long as he is prospering. He is not interested in anything that gives me comfort, he'd rather watch me suffer. And when I accuse him he calls me ungrateful. The only thing he does his feed me. He does not clothes me and would not even ask me for sex. I am the one that always initiate sex. And I am tired. I need counseling. How do I get out of this?

Call his family to put him in order...

Your marriage clearly lacks the oxygen upon which marriage/relationships thrive (Communication and Love).

My dear, you're now in the marriage o, hustle for your own happiness. Pursue your dreams with all you've got. If you need financial support to make your dreams come true, look to your family members.

Wait on having kids till you can sort out the issues in your marriage.

All the best.

Fattya06:
My husband does not care if I prosper or not as long as he is prospering. He is not interested in anything that gives me comfort, he'd rather watch me suffer. And when I accuse him he calls me ungrateful. The only thing he does his feed me. He does not clothes me and would not even ask me for sex. I am the one that always initiate sex. And I am tired. I need counseling. How do I get out of this?

U registered more than ten years ago and u have not in any tym made any post or topic on nairaland... Not even a single comment, cus as i checked now, u re only having 1 comment and 1 topic. U must b a legend in minding ur business.

Madam, look for what to do. Be busy and act as if he doesn't exist.

Your life shouldn't be centred around anybody.

Wetin go happen, go happen.

it is well

You are married to yourself.
He’s a sadist that wants to frustrate you until you quit the marriage yourself.

He has another woman outside and probably with kids he’s showing love to.

You can involve your family and his and let them into all the happenings in your home.

Develop yourself and become independent, stop throwing yourself at him and start paying more attention yourself to avoid depression.

Romanoff:
My dear, you're now in the marriage o, hustle for your own happiness. Pursue your dreams with all you've got. If you need financial support to make your dreams come true, look to your family members.

Wait on having kids till you can sort out the issues in your marriage.

All the best.

Gbam!

Career first before kids for the wise woman.

Fattya06:
My husband does not care if I prosper or not as long as he is prospering. He is not interested in anything that gives me comfort, he'd rather watch me suffer. And when I accuse him he calls me ungrateful. The only thing he does his feed me. He does not clothes me and would not even ask me for sex. I am the one that always initiate sex. And I am tired. I need counseling. How do I get out of this?

For the fact that you probably have nothing doing makes him stronger than you and makes you a little bit helpless

He doesn't want you to measure or flex muscles with him that's why he is not concerned about you working or not and does not even care to provide

You need to report him to that person he respects and make sure the person loves and respect his wife so that he will reason with you

Not phone call report, physical report that will make the person to ask him to visit him with his wife

After that, if he doesn't change then you have to start seeing yourself as a woman who must build herself to be stronger

Not strong to fight him
But strong enough to with stand his neglects

beelon1020:
Call his family to put him in order...

Family knows him better that his wife understands him and will be too weak to handle him

It's best to report him to a family friend he respects

Fattya06:
My husband does not care if I prosper or not as long as he is prospering.

How? Did he stop you from getting a job? Did he fail to sponsor your business ideas? The information here is too vague.

He is not interested in anything that gives me comfort, he'd rather watch me suffer.

Again, how?

And when I accuse him he calls me ungrateful.

Accusations don't solve problems you know

The ONLY thing he does his feed me. He does not clothes me

Are you sure?

Who pays the following bills?

Rent
Electricity
Fuel
Cooking gas
Security
School fees/books

And what do you mean by "he does not clothe me?" Are you a toddler? How many men clothe their wives? LOL I think you're trying to say that he doesn't buy you gifts.

and would not even ask me for sex. I am the one that always initiate sex.

This is a valid concern. Communicate your feelings and get to know why.

He has taken you for granted. You should probably find a way to do things for yourself to avoid depending on him.

When you become more independent, you will focus more on yourself and forget him, and treat yourself well without waiting for him to do so.

Fattya06:
My husband does not care if I prosper or not as long as he is prospering. He is not interested in anything that gives me comfort, he'd rather watch me suffer. And when I accuse him he calls me ungrateful. The only thing he does his feed me. He does not clothes me and would not even ask me for sex. I am the one that always initiate sex. And I am tired. I need counseling. How do I get out of this?

He doesn't love you. He just married you for marrying sake.

If you still want to remain in that sham, create a distraction for yourself.

Romanoff:
My dear, you're now in the marriage o, hustle for your own happiness. Pursue your dreams with all you've got. If you need financial support to make your dreams come true, look to your family members.

Wait on having kids till you can sort out the issues in your marriage.

All the best.

and now this is meant to be an advice?
Why didn't you tell her the last one which is to pack out of the marriage.

OlawaleBammie:

U registered more than ten years ago and u have not in any tym made any post or topic on nairaland... Not even a single comment, cus as i checked now, u re only having 1 comment and 1 topic. U must b a legend in minding ur business.

nor be lie