since i got dumped 2years back, i've shifted by attension to my mum and my only sister. Its nt like i dont giv dem attension b4, but now, anytime i'm lonely, i call them and chat wit wit them maybe to fill up d vacuum my ex has created, my question now is- is dis a normal thing? Shud i continue or stop?

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2yrs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! . . . . . thats not normal dude

2 years,not too bad,but everything gotta have a limit>boundary.

Where is your father?

try to stick around men in your family. as a man you need to develop character, and judging from your texts,i see a big red flag in your future.you are seeking comfort in women who pamper you after another woman broke your little dear heart. hummm. be a man,connect with other men and grow balls.

Not at all since they ARE your family. Isn't that what family is for and it's only natural. Family is suppose to be supportive, lift you up, love you and be there for you. If you can't count on your own family, then who can you count on. I think it's great you have a good relationship with your family. That'll give you structure of what you will need once you do meet someone and start a family. Remember, that they are there to help build you on your way. Just try and make sure not to lose who you are as a person and as a man.

eddy1977:

Where is your father?

try to stick around men in your family. as a man you need to develop character, and judging from your texts,i see a big red flag in your future.you are seeking comfort in women who pamper you after another woman broke your little dear heart. hummm. be a man,connect with other men and grow balls.

since i got dumped 2years back, i've shifted by attension to my mum and my only sister. Its nt like i dont giv dem attension b4, but now, anytime i'm lonely, i call them and chat wit wit them maybe to fill up d vacuum my ex has created, my question now is- is dis a normal thing? Shud i continue or stop? [b][/b]

There is nothing wrong with being close to your mother and sister,but in your case what you are doing is not healthy. I did the same thing,as a man you must have a level of independence,, Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh, the bible says i'm not trying to preach but the leaving is something that actually takes time,you can't leave today and get married tomorrow it doesn't work that way,there has to be a sense of independence from your sibblings and parents. The key word is that you are using your closeness to your mum and sister to feel a vacuum,it would not work.As a man you need to be by yourself and sort out your issues,if not when you meet another babe she will suffer for the hurt another lady caused you.I know being dumped hurts and family companionship can be really helpful but you need to sort this out alone so you don't hamper your future,because as i don't want you to find out when you eventually find and want to marry someone you love or even be in another relationship,you may have a torrid time with your mum and sister,because insteading of leaving to cleave,you have been cleaving to them and they would not release you that easily and you will start feeling that they don't trust you to make the right decision.

So my advice slowly and wisely pull back,they will always be your family but what you are doing now is not Pyschologically healthy.