I have noticed some things in my neighborhood that got me thinking, why are African women so much hate the first child!
I don't know, recently I observed a woman who beat,slap,knok on the head on her own child for every little thing he did.
Even to play is problem,dem go use one kind dey look you as if deh go chop you. Na WA ooo for some Nigeria women sef(sorry for the bad English)

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The women in question may not like been pregnant b4 marriage that may be what led her into marriage,and she hates the child for that,if it is true how i imagined the woman is at fault getting pregnant without protection b4 marriage.Nobody should quote me wrongly that is my own idea.

That maybe true but this isn't the first time I have seen it,I have seen 3 women with that has such kind of attitude. Most of all there will insult the child making him feel inferior, comparing him with his mates and all that words that makes them have low self esteem which could affect the child's adulthood. All am saying is,it isnt good for the child but the mother in her own mind will think it is discipline there by causing problems into the child's life.
Could you believe those women will start blaming the first child for every mistake the other siblings cause and then punish him with naked wire. I even met one child at my Street and I asked him why he is crying and he started telling me his story,me was jus listening and at the end he said he will not forgive his own mom for all the bullies and trouble she caused him,even saying that once he has money he will run far away from him mother.
What a terrible life!

Do they?
I didn't know this was a thing.

yungdesiner:

why are African women so much hate the first child!

i observed a woman who beat,slap,knok on the head on her own child for every little thing he did.

You observed A WOMAN and decided to pour the palm oil of generalization on the clothes of all women. Amazing

No be my mother oh!!

Some feel the first child need to be as wise and mature as possible in order to set an example for the younger ones.
For some others, it is a spiritual thing.

yungdesiner:
I have noticed some things in my neighborhood that got me thinking, why are African women so much hate the first child!
I don't know, recently I observed a woman who beat,slap,knok on the head on her own child for every little thing he did.
Even to play is problem,dem go use one kind dey look you as if deh go chop you. Na WA ooo for some Nigeria women sef(sorry for the bad English)

What kind of area do you live? As for me and People around me, we all love our first Kids in my neighborhood. I never saw any parents who maltreat his/her child, cause the child is the first. The love I have for mine is out of this World.

You observed A WOMAN and decided to pour the palm oil of generalization on the clothes of all women. Amazing [/quote]

yungdesiner:

I asked him why he is crying and he started telling me his story,me was jus listening and at the end he said he will not forgive his own mom for all the bullies and trouble she caused him,even saying that once he has money he will run far away from him mother.
What a terrible life!

African mentality of training first borns or becoz there is no money

yungdesiner:
I have noticed some things in my neighborhood that got me thinking, why are African women so much hate the first child!
I don't know, recently I observed a woman who beat,slap,knok on the head on her own child for every little thing he did.
Even to play is problem,dem go use one kind dey look you as if deh go chop you. Na WA ooo for some Nigeria women sef(sorry for the bad English)

You recently observed a woman, did you also observe women across other African countries?

I don't know where you heard this from.

If it happened to you, then you have a serious mommy issues

I don’t know why but I wanna love my children equally and very deeply...

@ OP So because of one woman or even 10 women it had turned generalization. Is it that fellow men are getting dumber by the day. Or you are looking for your normal response from your likes.

yungdesiner:
I have noticed some things in my neighborhood that got me thinking, why are African women so much hate the first child!
I don't know, recently I observed a woman who beat,slap,knok on the head on her own child for every little thing he did.
Even to play is problem,dem go use one kind dey look you as if deh go chop you. Na WA ooo for some Nigeria women sef(sorry for the bad English)

Am glad you know that your English was bad

No African woman hates her first son

Never, rather you can say Africa woman loves her first son because, I see the first son as the husband and first sons don't ever hate their mother rather they can fight anyone because of his mother

If your mother hates you as a first son ask her your biological father, then return to him

Nonsense post and stupid question

shaggy007:
I don't know where you heard this from.

If it happened to you, then you have a serious mommy issues

You think say that one get sense

U generalised because of an experience with one person?

yungdesiner:

You observed A WOMAN and decided to pour the palm oil of generalization on the clothes of all women. Amazing

oga wear glasses before you read again.

frozen70:


Am glad you know that your English was bad

No African woman hates her first son

Never, rather you can say Africa woman loves her first son because, I see the first son as the husband and first sons don't ever hate their mother rather they can fight anyone because of his mother

If your mother hates you as a first son ask her your biological father, then return to him

Nonsense post and stupid question

what is so stupid about my questions? Is like you no deh Nigeria that's why you deh talk like that.

yungdesiner:
what is so stupid about my questions? Is like you no deh Nigeria that's why you deh talk like that.

Grow up you need it

When people have issues with their mother, instead going to settle with them, they will come to nairaland and be masturbating!

frozen70:


Grow up you need it

How please??

yungdesiner:
How please??

op, you're right. don't allow anyone gaslight you. most of these women you see transfer the hatred and aggression they have for their husbands and pour it on the children, especially the first children. And God help the child if it's female.

some women are in direct and overt competition with their first daughters. it's a sad state of affairs.

newcommer:


op, you're right. don't allow anyone gaslight you. most of these women you see transfer the hatred and aggression they have for their husbands and pour it on the children, especially the first children. And God help the child if it's female.

some women are in direct and overt competition with their first daughters. it's a sad state of affairs.

Agreed