Holluwatarhyor:

And guys always talking about how you like cousins from your mom's side better than your dad's side.Have you ever wondered if your cousins from mom's side who you like so much also like their cousins from their mom's side and actually don't like you as you are also a parternal cousin to them?!

naija4life247:
Women. Even God wished in he didn't create them.

Wives create gab between children and their father's family members.

ImaIma1:
It depends on which family members they are exposed to or the ones in close proximity. If the father is close to his siblings and they live in the same city or state, the kids will be close to them. But if it's the mum's people, same goes.

Some want to make it a gender thing and bash women as usual. As a man, if you say your wife is the cause, how come you are also not making your kids close to your family?

Klass99:
It is mostly because you grow up seeing your father's relatives & people behave badly, selfishly and very entitled in your household. Your father's relatives are the ones who would usually visit empty handed and still pilfer things from your home like foodstuffs and clothing material. When they visit and go, you notice your fine fluffy body towel which you washed and spread outside is gone .

They are the ones who visit and sit or lay on the sofa with their feet up. Comandeering the TV, remote control and what channel to watch. When they live with you, they tend to be lazy around the house, not assisting with chores like washing the car or sweeping the compound. Their own is to eat, watch TV and waka about as they like.

Your mother's relatives & people on the other hand, visit with the little they can afford like oranges, yams, sweet potatoes etc. They are more respectful and helpful around the house with chores. They don't operate with that annoying sense of entitlement, this is our sister's house, the way a man's relatives operate with, this is our brother's house I can bloody well do as I please

Your mother's relatives endear themselves to you through their good conduct and deeds, while your father's relatives don't. Before you argue with me, think about what I have said, take the time to reflect and ponder upon it, and you will realize my post was either your reality as a child or an accurate analysis of this situation.

A man's relatives can be too entitled and selfish, especially when that man is rich, successful and doing well. Na that time dem go carry, blood is thicker than water, on their heads like die. They don't help the man pay bills in his house, but they feel very entitled to his money, help and every good thing in his home. Rather than work for their own success they make that man their second saviour and the goose who lays the golden eggs.

Persephone1:
@Klass99 I no dey follow anyone ooo but I don share your comment before I remember. You nailed it totally!

Thinking of it now, growing up I can't remember any of my maternal relatives visiting us without little gifts. Even if it is chin chin that can make you have an appointment with the dentist, they will still bring. But you see those paternal relatives ehn, they will even drag pots with us. Maternal relatives are always kind of cool and easy to relate with but with their counterparts there always this uneasiness around them. I know it's not everywhere but it is very common.

Now as an adult, I tend to deal with people for who they are. Some maternal cousins can be just as bad as the paternal cousins. I no even close with any cousin as I dey self. Nah who see me , I see.

Holluwatarhyor:
lol.....and as we grow old,hustle distance everyone from each other,especially here in naija,wey everybody dey find him bearing

Holluwatarhyor:
It's not about gender,some women actually cut relationship from their husband's side,but not all.

I have a friend,his mom always host all her grand children every Easter and Christmas,the grand children will be in her place for at least a week,bonding with each other,I think that's cool.

When such children continue with this till they get married,their children will automatically be closed to each other,either paternal or maternal

mamaafrik:
It's general and that show how heinous few women can be.
It's usually the craftiness of the mums(usually the wife-female siblings or wife-wife) to directly or indirectly cut two siblings tie,they will plant disharmony within the family but do everything possible to secure their own extended family,i.e your cousins mum and your mum.
Women are greatest determinant of family peace.
You won't have issues if your parternal cousin's mum and your mum are friends or 5& 6.

Holluwatarhyor:
It's not about gender,some women actually cut relationship from their husband's side,but not all.

I have a friend,his mom always host all her grand children every Easter and Christmas,the grand children will be in her place for at least a week,bonding with each other,I think that's cool.

When such children continue with this till they get married,their children will automatically be closed to each other,either paternal or maternal

Klass99:
It is mostly because you grow up seeing your father's relatives & people behave badly, selfishly and very entitled in your household. Your father's relatives are the ones who would usually visit empty handed and still pilfer things from your home like foodstuffs and clothing material. When they visit and go, you notice your fine fluffy body towel which you washed and spread outside is gone .

They are the ones who visit and sit or lay on the sofa with their feet up. Comandeering the TV, remote control and what channel to watch. When they live with you, they tend to be lazy around the house, not assisting with chores like washing the car or sweeping the compound. Their own is to eat, watch TV and waka about as they like.

Your mother's relatives & people on the other hand, visit with the little they can afford like oranges, yams, sweet potatoes etc. They are more respectful and helpful around the house with chores. They don't operate with that annoying sense of entitlement, this is our sister's house, the way a man's relatives operate with, this is our brother's house I can bloody well do as I please

Your mother's relatives endear themselves to you through their good conduct and deeds, while your father's relatives don't. Before you argue with me, think about what I have said, take the time to reflect and ponder upon it, and you will realize my post was either your reality as a child or an accurate analysis of this situation.

A man's relatives can be too entitled and selfish, especially when that man is rich, successful and doing well. Na that time dem go carry, blood is thicker than water, on their heads like die. They don't help the man pay bills in his house, but they feel very entitled to his money, help and every good thing in his home. Rather than work for their own success they make that man their second saviour and the goose who lays the golden eggs.

Mindlog:


At the end of it all, we are all someone's paternal cousin if the father is not an only child.

ImaIma1:


If a woman can cut relationship ties with her husband's family, what is the husband doing? Are the children not equally his?

I'm close to cousins from my father and mother that stayed in Lagos. For me, none of my inlaws stay in Lagos while all my siblings live in Lagos. So who do you think the kids will be close to more?

Besides, it's grandmas who have the time and energy to bring their grandkids together that do what you mentioned.

There are so many reasons why kids are close to some cousins more than others. If we think about it deeply, we will see that the wife is not always the culprit.

thesicilian:
I wonder why anyone would be so eager to connect with their village people.

Klass99:
It is mostly because you grow up seeing your father's relatives & people behave badly, selfishly and very entitled in your household. Your father's relatives are the ones who would usually visit empty handed and still pilfer things from your home like foodstuffs and clothing material. When they visit and go, you notice your fine fluffy body towel which you washed and spread outside is gone .

They are the ones who visit and sit or lay on the sofa with their feet up. Comandeering the TV, remote control and what channel to watch. When they live with you, they tend to be lazy around the house, not assisting with chores like washing the car or sweeping the compound. Their own is to eat, watch TV and waka about as they like.

Your mother's relatives & people on the other hand, visit with the little they can afford like oranges, yams, sweet potatoes etc. They are more respectful and helpful around the house with chores. They don't operate with that annoying sense of entitlement, this is our sister's house, the way a man's relatives operate with, this is our brother's house I can bloody well do as I please

Your mother's relatives endear themselves to you through their good conduct and deeds, while your father's relatives don't. Before you argue with me, think about what I have said, take the time to reflect and ponder upon it, and you will realize my post was either your reality as a child or an accurate analysis of this situation.

A man's relatives can be too entitled and selfish, especially when that man is rich, successful and doing well. Na that time dem go carry, blood is thicker than water, on their heads like die. They don't help the man pay bills in his house, but they feel very entitled to his money, help and every good thing in his home. Rather than work for their own success they make that man their second saviour and the goose who lays the golden eggs.

mamaafrik:
It's general and that show how heinous few women can be.
It's usually the craftiness of the mums(usually the wife-female siblings or wife-wife) to directly or indirectly cut two siblings tie,they will plant disharmony within the family but do everything possible to secure their own extended family,i.e your cousins mum and your mum.
Women are greatest determinant of family peace.
You won't have issues if your parternal cousin's mum and your mum are friends or 5& 6.

dat9jaguy:
I believe women are more family oriented in the sense that a man most likely is about hustling and sustaining the family financially while women, in most cases, take care of the children thereby giving them more time to bond the children with her family, whom she feels more familiar with.

A man once in a while takes his family to visit his people but a woman, despite having more time to visit her people with the children, will constantly talk to her children about her family and growing up with them thereby making the children more comfortable with her people.

Holluwatarhyor:
I've noticed most children while growing up are always more closer to their maternal cousins than their parternal cousins.

In my own case,I know my parternal cousins, but we don't talk,it's as bad as that.

Is there anything one can do so it won't affect the next generation.

And guys always talking about how you like cousins from your mom's side better than your dad's side.Have you ever wondered if your cousins from mom's side who you like so much also like their cousins from their mom's side and actually don't like you as you are also a parternal cousin to them?!