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Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by Omoluabi16(m): 9:42pm On Nov 23, 2019 |
Marriage as we all know is the coming together of two families. But down the line, especially when children start coming, there seem to be this choice by default to love and and dislike one side of the family- Mother's side or Father's side. The paternal family is most of the times disliked distrusted or actually hated. I once came upon a poll where over 90% of respondents gave a negative view about their fathers side. Some believe the 'Village people' are definitely from that side. One way or the other, we are also a paternal family too.Feeling the same negative vibe. So what could be responsible for this? |
Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by CreepyBlackpool: 9:44pm On Nov 23, 2019 |
Because most family members depend on and leach off the man and not the woman. 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by Omoluabi16(m): 9:59pm On Nov 23, 2019 |
CreepyBlackpool:True. but I don't think its mainly due to financial reasons. |
Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by Ginaz(f): 10:57pm On Nov 23, 2019 |
C 19 Likes |
Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by CareerBegger: 11:11pm On Nov 23, 2019 |
Funny enough I dislike both because they always act too kind and caring... No freedom.. Mother side will be quoting the Bible for you because they heard you are smoking Father side will be quoting the Bible for you because of NBM At times, they make me feel like the world revolves around me and I have a huge responsibility to meet up. But fvuk it! I just want to live my youth out 1 Like |
Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by Nobody: 11:34pm On Nov 23, 2019 |
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Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by cococandy(f): 7:36am On Nov 24, 2019 |
When your aunties and uncles from your father’s side don’t give your mom the respect she deserves as an adult and equal party in the marriage, but the uncles and aunties from your mother’s side respect your father and treat him like a grown person, is it a surprise to you that you and your siblings take notice and in time prefer your mom's side of the family? That’s the coco with most Nigerian families. Of course there are exceptions 47 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by Rubbiish(m): 7:56am On Nov 24, 2019 |
cococandy:Very wrong point of view 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by ifyalways(f): 8:01am On Nov 24, 2019 |
Omo thinking of it now, I agree that maternal side are the best. Nothing beats "Ikwu/imere Nne" ![]() When a girl gets pregnant out of wedlock, she's sent to ikwu Nne to stay . She will give birth and they will keep and train the child . When your biz fold in the city, you have nothing else going and your whole world is in a mess, your ikwu Nne will send you bus fare and encourage you to come back to the village to them.They will feed you and encourage you till you get back to your feet. As a child in the village, when you lose your school fees or break your mom's most valuable water pot, you know the only safe place is your ikwu Nne and you run as fast as your leg can carry you to them. Paternal relatives are mostly very present and loud when its time to collect bride price, levies and when you've made it. 39 Likes |
Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by Nobody: 8:02am On Nov 24, 2019 |
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Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by cococandy(f): 8:07am On Nov 24, 2019 |
Doing alright my dear. Just the usual coven meetings and broom flying exercises. I will be nice henceforth. So help me God ![]() Breaststroke: 5 Likes |
Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by cococandy(f): 8:09am On Nov 24, 2019 |
I would love to be wrong on this issue. Honestly speaking Rubbiish: 10 Likes |
Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by jesmond3945: 8:21am On Nov 24, 2019 |
good thread for frontpage lalalastica seun mynd44 |
Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by Nobody: 8:36am On Nov 24, 2019 |
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Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by cococandy(f): 8:40am On Nov 24, 2019 |
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Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by Preshy561(f): 8:45am On Nov 24, 2019 |
Have you heard the Igbo adage that says: oso chuba nwata, ogbaje Ikwu nne ya? 9 Likes |
Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by 24kmagic: 8:57am On Nov 24, 2019 |
Ok |
Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by Vyolet(f): 10:59am On Nov 24, 2019 |
Paternal parts always abandon the child, it's only the maternal parts that shows a child the type of love they would give their sister. 9 Likes |
Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by Amarisa(f): 11:15am On Nov 24, 2019 |
Paternal relatives are something else,but my maternal relatives are lovely people,speaking from experience.. 1 Like |
Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by bukatyne(f): 1:18pm On Nov 24, 2019 |
Omoluabi16: @OP: I am sure you have gotten the answers you seek. |
Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by pocohantas(f): 3:17pm On Nov 24, 2019 |
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Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by DonroxyII: 3:28pm On Nov 24, 2019 |
The paternal families most times drag the man with his nuclear family and some husband do not have the brain of creating a form of barricade between their nuclear family and extended family... The children will never like those people who believe their papa taking care of them and their mama is the reason why he ain't responsible to his extended family anymore .... 6 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by Prism(f): 3:45pm On Nov 24, 2019 |
What if both sides of the family are full of sh*t? When my father died, my mums brothers and sisters were so willing to steal our bed sheets. Some of her sisters had always been jealous of her. When he was alive, they always came around for freebies but I never saw my dads people coming over to see us when he was alive cos I think she never gave them the chance. I never really got to relate with my dad's side. But I believe people are naturally selfish and think of themselves only. 1 Like |
Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by sweetmelanin(f): 6:06pm On Nov 24, 2019 |
Breaststroke: So is it you that will clip his wings? I noticed that you actually do this to lot of male monikers not just this guy ... why is it so difficult for you to act with dignity? That's why you're always getting banned. 7 Likes |
Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by genq(m): 6:18pm On Nov 24, 2019 |
Breaststroke: Now that's more like it! ![]() 8 Likes |
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