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Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by KingsDigital88: 4:01pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
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Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by samuelson06(m): 4:11pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
Purple2003: Forget about the money. Count it a lost investment and move on. Take it as a lesson. The rule of borrowing is to give out what you can let go. |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by edosignature(m): 4:11pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
In Nigeria, collecting one destiny back from the devil & recovering your money from debtors are practically the same thing. I've lend Friends, old school mate, Cousin & Ex's money & all have refused to pay till date. |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by kokowe(m): 4:23pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by Emmanuel909090: 4:26pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
Purple2003: All this fish brain, why arrest your family because of 200k, spits. Definitely if he had, he would have paid. It's obvious things don rough for am. Have patience. |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by Kelvin30286063(m): 4:31pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
Your problem is a family problem, take it to the family head or his church pastor. Las las, you can call Ebuka and let them judge him in that joke of a show called Judging Matters. On a more serious note, the sooner you move out of his house, the better for you cos when wahala finally burst, he will say he housed you and fed you and you have to pay him for all that or you have used that to cover the money he owes you. |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by jasper83: 4:32pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
Bros I totally feel your pain but please calm down. Put this quote in your left palm " Never loan out an amount you can't forfeit". You were sweet talked into parting with your money because you are inexperienced and naive about our money repayment works. No matter what he promised you, a financial literate person knows that the repayment cycle is too short, he himself knew abi nitio that he won't pay back as promised but because he's desperate he played along. Don't do anything irrational, he's your inlaw and must be feeling very sad and tensed, he's already seeing himself as a failure, he's the one who supposed to be showing love to your guys but destiny has humbled him. See me myself lent my inlaw 500k since 2017 November and he promised paying back February of the new year, me as an experienced man who has tasted trenches life before knew he can't pay back so I took my mind off it, he just gave me a cook and bull story of a business of farm produce that will yield xyz percent in 3 months and November is the season, the possibilities of him investing in the said business is low , but what I'm certain is that a reasonable percentage of it he used it for personal immediate family stuff. At least my aunt and her children will be relieved and the man will have a high hope of a better new incoming new year with 500k cash at hand. Also what if he dies in the trenches battle is it not people like us that will still adopt our aunty's children? So it's better he's alive and taking up his responsibilities by himself, that's the wisdom I borrowed myself when lending him. The money isn't a big money for me so I closed my mind from it, if he repays fine, if he doesn't fine. All I know is he can't face me in the future for such a gesture, lest I forget he's is 15 years older than me ooo, now in his mid 50's. Since then which is close to 5 years bro never mention the money, lol. He had to approach my parent at one event like that so they can pipe me down, I just told them I did it for my aunt not him. Sincerely he's a very very nice man, nah economy humble am so I can never rubbish him. Also I have been down in life before, so I perfectly understand the dynamics of being broke pro-max as a full grown adult. No condition is permanent and once in a while I do pray for him and his family for financial uplift. So bros, calm down and pray for him, he's feeling bad already and your cousin is the most hit, see it as a learning curve for you too, never lend out what you can't forfeit. Don't fight and don't put him under pressure, advise him to pay in bits. Gracias 1 Like |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by alphabbey1(m): 4:39pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
Purple2003:Converse with your cousin how urgent and impatient you need the fund. Increase your tone angrily during the conversation. She will get the message and relay it to your Inlaw |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by Emmanuel30a: 4:39pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
You won't get your money completely even if U sue him to court... Reason being that U have resorted to staying with him &he is probably feeding &taking care of u in many ways, if not every ways. That is an excuse 4him. Firstly, you should speak with your cousin who is his wife... I hope she was aware when you borrowed her husband the money. Secondly& importantly, you need to put pressure on him. You need someone who can put pressure on him. Thirdly, you can sue him to the 'court of your family'... This court can or would majorly consist your father &mother, your cousins father&mother &the father&mother of your cousins husband. Ultimately-which is not the last or the least, take it to THE LORD IN PRAYER. Of course, people would run to GOD or people tends to run to GOD after making mistakes or terrible mistakes and after they can't find solution to their problems despite running helter skelter. They have forgotten that it is best to put GOD FIRST in everything they do or before they do anything. Goodluck 1 Like |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by Karemarealty288(m): 4:39pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
DryMouth: With which money ? As If he wouldn't spend money to get slim justice that will favour the debtor in return....my broda, its a different issue if he is making little money and decided not to pay you back, but as country be....he must have been struggling raising this money. Pls seek the advice of your immediate family and solve your problem internally. Those advising you to go to court have not step a foot inside court before. |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by zionstaar75: 4:40pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
Purple2003:sorry bro,unless he pays u willingly the money is gone |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by alphabbey1(m): 4:42pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
Emmanuel909090:Rubbish... just imagine the lackadaisical comment. You didn't get the part where OP is finding it difficult to feed himself ? Even when in the house of the debtor.... Easy to preach peace when you are not the affected party.... People should learn to stop using there own problem to affect others. I bet the brother used that fund for a 50/50 business..... Why the hell will you borrow fund when you know Refund at priorly stated date is not guaranteed.... if he had borrowed that same fund from microfinance bank, would he have gotten the 5 months grace he's having now Gosh..... |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by Ifakiland(m): 4:50pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
Purple2003:Carry their property that is worth that amount, sell it and cut them off your life, both the cousin and her useless husband |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by Emmanuel909090: 4:52pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
alphabbey1: I won't argue with you, but I can never arrest my family for any amount. Any amount I can lend out, I can let go. Wisdom better pass fight. |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by haggai247: 5:08pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
Purple2003: There's nothing you can do about it you helped him which is great leave it at that or if you really want your money that badly You'll have a sworn enemy for life. Thread carefully. Rule of life never borrow money but if you do make sure it's not your last savings or something you can't afford to lose when shit hit the fan. |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by honour7: 5:09pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
Purple2003: No matter what you do, the truth is that the money is gone, it’s gone, the best way to have done it was to give him your account number at the time of the loan and you will agree on a specific amount for him to pay every month, I believe he is a family man and it’s not easy to be doing small scale business and feed your family this period. What you can do now is to ask him how much he can pay every month to your account, maybe divide the money across a six months period, let him be paying little by little as for that lump sum it is gone, and if u do not handle it well, the money will be gone in its entirety and also you would have created enemy for yourself, just be careful very few people are normal in this country 1 Like |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by Invest4growth: 5:09pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
You are very lucky he has not attempted to harm you in a bid to avoid paying back. Brother, be careful. He might be planning evil. Trust them. The only solution they know is maiming to kill. Seek plan B involving the police fast |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by honour7: 5:10pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
And this time whatever you agree put it in writing |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by swissgoldenpro2: 5:19pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
Approach things like this with wisdom |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by zumbigbo(m): 5:32pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
Sisbguy go soon start deducting daily rent from the principal. Soon, him go hand you 20k and a meat roll as payment. Nigerians are w......... |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by DDigisol: 5:44pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
Purple2003: The first thing to do to be able to reclaim your money is to leave his place. |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by Gee64: 5:50pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
How did you make that much money in the first place? |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by Titanium001(m): 6:10pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
I quite understand how pressing it is to you for you to fulfil your dreams; but guy, I would say that you need to calm down a bit. Since it is not something that will affect your life, health or livelihood, I advise you give him the time he asked. You just can't avoid such sacrifices in a family setting. Taking a lawyer is too drastic. Don't say it on phone, sit down with him and ask him to tell you exactly when he is sure the funds will be available for him to pay. Give him the time and return to him at expiration, and, if no show, give him your own deadline, and dish out your lawyer threat. |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by Obansy112(m): 6:19pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
I advise you ti call for family meeting, It's better late than never... Even court will not get the money for u asp, This is a civil case and not criminal, so he might decide to you 50k monthly or even less. |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by Rapture4real(m): 6:26pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
I have similar experience with my Uncle's wife and she refused to pay till now since 2017. I told my Uncle eventually. I will never do that again. Borrowing family members money is an indirect way of saying give me. He won't pay the money. Inform your elders. |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by MrDoGood(m): 6:37pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
Purple2003: Going to court, you will be spending more money and the case might be on for months. Have you told your husband about it? |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by nedekid: 6:38pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
Unfortunately this is a civil matter. If you had collected a post dated cheque from him, you could have used that as leverage. How much will you pay lawyer to sue for 250k? Besides are you prepared to keep going to court and spending money? Even if you win the guy, judge now ask him how much he can afford to pay monthly. The guy says 1k. Lol, you then have to get your money over 250 month. No be juju be that? The most you can do hoping the guy is a unenlightened person is to get soldiers or police to pay him a visit to threaten him with arrest. Not to touch him oh, because you do that and he knows his right, na you go de beg am to leave the money. Anyway you are in a fix, you best bet is to use friends, family, his wife to put pressure on him. Nb:k Never lend a Nigerian money, except it is someone you know 100% has integrity. Nigerians don't pay. They will rather turn it to quarell. Meanwhile them still go de do faaji for weekend. 7 |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by alphabbey1(m): 6:41pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
Emmanuel909090:It's a different issue here. OP have already lend out amount he can't let go.... |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by Emmanuel909090: 7:28pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
alphabbey1: I'm not asking him to let go, but he should avoid arresting him. He will spend money to mobilize police to arrest him. Police won't keep him in jail, he will also bail himself with same money he might be saving to pay him. Police will only ask him, if he is owing, he will affirm. And they will ask him when he can pay and how he will pay. He can now decide to be paying you 20k monthly and if police confirms. Your money will come in bits. Now relationship don scatter, money don scatter. So what's the need? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by Allisgud: 7:50pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
What bizness did he invested on self,shey no be say him don carry money put for ponzi scheme |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by okoroemeka(m): 7:54pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
3verblazing:I am a business man and I know a bad deal when I see one,his first mistake is not having a collateral for such amount,the second mistake is not signing any agreement and the third mistake that maybe his last is living in the same house,people has perished for far less amount,forget about sueing,forget about police,if the fellow is down and out there is nothing you can do,even if you report to the oracle's (with is not practical due to family tied) they will invite him and he will not deny owning you,they will still give him time to payback,this is a toxic loan,learn your lesson and move on and away from that house.you are warned 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Arrest & Sue My Brother-in-law For This? I Need Advice by AdaAwka1: 8:04pm On Jun 22, 2022 |
Karleb: Police to collect debt.. humm laughable |
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